<p>The FIL’s attitude is common, more and more education is seen as being job training rather then being something to get someone to think, to move ahead, to mature. It is understandable, especially as the economy changes and is spluttering, to look at it as getting a career that ‘pays well’. This has been a fundamental dilemma for a long time, about being the ‘cog in the machine’ versus doing something you are passionate about, ton of stories most people can tell who, for example, went into the family business because of pressure, or became a doctor, lawyer, banker or whatever and hated it.My dad was big on being an engineer (he was one, my brother is), my sister was an English major, I sort of split the difference with comp sci.</p>
<p>What that leaves out is quite frankly that even with ‘directly transferrable skills’, like an accounting degree or comp science degree, kids coming out of school don’t know all that much. Even where, for example, you have learned Java programming in college, the kinds of things you learn are basic tools, some of which is not really used much in the real world (courses like analysis of algorithms, theory of computation, are great if you plan on getting a Phd and teaching, in the real world, doesn’t do much), plus you have to learn what systems in ‘the real world’ are like, real applications design and coding is very different then what you do in comp sci classes. Kids majoring in business come out and find out what the books taught and what goes on is very different…the point being that you end up being judged on what and how you learn the stuff once you are out there. </p>
<p>And obviously with music it is a tough haul, as it is in most of the arts or performing, it has a lot less defined career path. One of the ideas I spend a lot of time resisting is this incredible idea that someone can’t try things, can take risks, that any mistake is fatal, that you can’t have a mess up or two along the way, and that is sad. Entrepeneurs have many failures, Edison and his team tried thousands of materials before finding something for the incandescent light bulb, Sony spent almost 20 years trying to get the home video recorder to work. With music, it is like you shouldn’t even try, because after all, getting a ‘good’ job is next to impossible (in a major orchestra, soloist, top level teacher). It leaves out that music students aren’t dummies, what they take is academically pretty rigorous (put it this way, my son takes relatively high level theory classes, has a lot of kids who are the 2300+ SAT/4.0 unweighted GPA/AP types in them, and they struggle with it), it teaches skills academic classes don’t (how about dealing with difficult colleagues? <em>lol</em>) and so forth. </p>
<p>Yes, you do have to have the passion to go into music, because it is tough sledding, and yes even at Juilliard significant percentages of the graduates, a lot more then a simple majority, end up not doing music as a career, but so what? One of the things that makes life interesting is our ability to re-invent ourselves, to do different things; corporate types drop out of the rat race to open a bakery, someone trained as a lawyer ends up teaching kids…</p>
<p>Sometimes the hardest part of being the parent of a music kid isn’t the process, that it as nebulous and confusing at times as being lost in a maze, it is what well meaning but nonetheless judgmental people say…</p>