<p>Hey everyone. So I'm going to be a freshman at a LAC this fall and am currently visiting my dad and step family. My step sister has a friend who is also going to the same LAC that I am, and told me her friend wants to meet people who are going as well.</p>
<p>So I started emailing her, texting her, talking, etc, and we hit it off pretty well. I asked her in a casual way if she would like to go get coffee or lunch or something so we could meet face to face and she eagerly agreed. However, I asked her on a social, friendly basis, but I can't shake the feeling that she is sending me signals and wants to turn it into more than that.</p>
<p>Since I'm unfamiliar with the area, she mentioned several coffeeshops with different perks, like a walk on the waterfront at one, a movie theater at the other, etc. I said that I didn't mind as I didn't know the area and that she should pick the one that's best. She chose the one with the waterfront walk because then "we could talk instead of sit in a movie." I didn't know we would be doing either! I though we would just be meeting for coffee!</p>
<p>It's not that I wouldn't mind dating her or anything. She's attractive and fun to talk to, but I just wasn't expecting all of this. I was expecting like a 30 minute coffee talk, just to say hello and have a friend for when I arrived on campus. </p>
<p>Maybe I'm reading too much into it. I've had a few girlfriends here and there in high school, but nothing ever too serious. I haven't been on a date in a while, and this coffee meeting seems to be turning into one. With college being a whole new realm of opportunity, I want to be as casual about it as possible.</p>
<p>What do you guys think? Is this a date or just a very friendly meeting? If it is a date, do you have any tips for a sort of inexperienced guy in the area of dating and courtship? I like this girl, and she is fun, but I was thinking coffee now and maybe a date once we got on campus. </p>
<p>Sounds like a great girl and you're into her so make it into a date if it even isn't. offer to pay, sometimes i just pay and put it all together, smile alot, laugh at her stupid jokes, and be nice. You can go on a date and not be committed but it opens the door for future dates, or not depending how you do.</p>
<p>you ask if this is a date or just a friendly meeting?</p>
<p>IMHO, this is very obviously her attempts at making a date! like lethargytm said, she sounds like a cool chick and you should just have fun w/the date (smile, be nice, etc) and if things get more serious, worry about it -then-... not now! :)</p>
<p>Why are you even asking this? In your previous posts you have stated: </p>
<p>"I'm also a homosexual male who is interested in dance and theater, and though Midd struck me as a warm, welcoming, friendly place when I visited...."</p>
<p>If you are homosexual or even bisexual (though I agree with the saying "bi today, gay later") you better be very upfront about yourself and not lead on someone unsuspecting. Better yet, just come out and say you only want to be friends. Be proud of who you are and don't hide it, don't LIE and don't keep it a secret from someone who might be interested. It will blow up in your face and you'll hurt innocent females who could be spending their time finding the right guy for them instead of hoping it COULD be you.</p>
<p>I've been questioning my sexuality but feel myself confident enough to call myself bisexual.</p>
<p>I met with the person the other night and I told her this. She had no issues whatsoever, and from what I can tell, remains interested in me and me in her :)</p>
<p>I paid for the coffee and dinner, not that it was too expensive, and we're planning on going on another date once we arrive on campus!</p>