<p>So I was tutoring someone at my school's tutoring center earlier this week. We were working on a PowerPoint presentation for this student's class when one of the other tutors (who I've seen many times before but had never actually met) came over and helped out with some technical difficulties. "Man," I thought, "this guy is cute! And a nice personality, too." After the tutoring session, I chatted for awhile with him. I found out his name (Matt), what classes he's taking, and which teachers he likes best. Nothing more, nothing less. As I was walking back to another building (I was maybe 300 yards away from the tutoring center), I heard someone call my name -- that someone being Matt. "Would you be interested in chatting over coffee sometime?" he asked. Rather stunned, I said I would, gave him my phone number, and told him to call me. I wondered if he actually would, but he did later that evening. So we're gonna meet for coffee on Monday afternoon, and I'm a bit nervous. First off, I'd known him for all of five minutes before he asked me -- makes me wonder if someone suggested me to him. Also, am I supposed to consider this to be an actual "date"? I have no clue how to act. What am I supposed to say if he asks me out again? (and not just for coffee) I don't mind getting to know him better, but preferably not in a romantic setting/situation/relationship, at least at first.</p>
<p>Yeah its totally a date. I would be nervous and worry all day. What are you going to wear? What if he is really nice? What if he is gay and he just wants to be friends but you like him as way more than a friend? This is truly panic time!!!</p>
<p>Since you're a girl, there's really nothing you have to do except show up and keep the conversation going. The pressure is all on him because he's the one that asked you.</p>
<p>It's a date - but there are a lot of types of dates - almost as many as shoes. This would be the "getting to know you date." You'll hang out, talk, chat, and there would not be more than a peck on the cheek at the end of the date, if that. Go with your gut. If he's boring on the date, or you just don't like him, then (kindly) refuse a second offer, if such an offer is forthcoming. Otherwise, let him know what a good time you had. </p>
<p>Look nice (clean clothes, something that looks cute on you, but not "date clothes" - this isn't a movie or anything), talk, ask him questions about himself if the conversation is in a lull - and you'll be fine. :)</p>
<p>I have a friend who made getting coffee with girls a lifestyle. He's single, he's never even kissed anyone before, but he is a big time choir nerd who practically has his own fan club, cause he's so nice and sensitive and all. There are a lot of girls that have crushes on him.</p>
<p>However, when he gets coffee with girls, its always just as friends. In fact, many of them have boyfriends. But its ok, cause the boyfriends know that they are just going as friends, nothing more. </p>
<p>I'm not really sure if this Matt means it to be a date or not, but just keep in mind that maybe he just wants to go as friends. That's what I would do. If he is interested in more, then you'll know eventually. If I were you (but I'm not sure, since I'm a guy) I'd be casual and treat it as such until I knew more.</p>
<p>Chill out...I mean, its definitely a date (from the guys point of view), but he still understands that its a "first date" with a girl he barely knows...Hes definitely interested in you, but if you arent interested in him he'll get over it (and dont take this personally....seriously, its just a guy thing...)</p>
<p>"Since you're a girl, there's really nothing you have to do except show up and keep the conversation going. The pressure is all on him because he's the one that asked you."</p>
<p>"Sometimes when I take a girl out, I make her pay for her own meal....and mine too!!</p>
<p>Just kidding. Haha. Although I've always been curious to see what would happen if I did. The reaction on her face."</p>
<p>I have to say that my best date thus far was one where the girl paid the meal!!! We just fell for each other like two idiots! Of course, then the guy paid for something else. The way I see it, it is a mutual thing. </p>
<p>I'll definitely let you guys know -- right now I'm battling a cold, and I'll be fresh (or not so fresh) from a grand total of FIVE hours of testing, so things should be interesting tomorrow afternoon! Thanks for everything. :)</p>