<p>Pardon the somewhat sensationalist title. Pardon also the extreme length of my post, but I really do need help.</p>
<p>I am really at a loss right now. In short, I was accepted SCEA Stanford with pending applications at H and another school. Having to wait a month in total uncertainty was unbearable, and many mini-meltdowns occurred, which was of course unfortunate, and somewhat ridiculous. I am totally excited about the possibility of Stanford and would love to go there. Unfortunately, the pending applications (particularly to H) cannot escape my mind, even though I rationally know this is ridiculous, especially because it's not that important.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, I'm very worried about a relapse while I wait in potential agony until RD results. Of course, what is there to say? A rejection does not mean a personal judgment, and is a 'crapshoot.' Well, not quite...</p>
<p>At my school, which has excellent college placement, we can several people into Harvard every year. There is absolutely no unpredictability. There is a clear GPA/SAT threshold which, once cleared, has always resulted in acceptance (in the ~6 cases of students with stats that high in the last 2-3 years). The SAT 'cutoff' is very (VERY), but I do meet it handily. Where is the problem? My GPA, due to a terrible (comparatively) freshman year, would push the threshold downward by a minuscule amount. I am the lowest GPA with my SAT range (although again, not by that much). Still, given the other applicants from my school (many of whom are my friends), this worries me.</p>
<p>It's mainly insecurity and a stifled by resurfacing low self-esteem in some respects. It's been a challenge for me to avoid all competitive aspects during HS (I don't share grades, shared no colleges on my list due to intense fear of rejection, etc.). I'm deathly afraid of being rejected by Harvard, not because it's my top choice (which it is), but because other students from my school will undoubtedly get in. I have worked really hard for four years (having moved from a distant location in middle school and being very immature freshman year), and I have really pushed myself - I have the hardest courseload, but not the highest grades. This has been true EC-wise as well. I have grown incredibly as a person.</p>
<p>The problem: In my current, unhealthy state of mind, I am interpreting a H rejection as validation of my insecurity and proof of the belief that I just was not good enough. Many of my peers are not as busy as I am, regarding ECs in particular. However, they have higher GPAs (like 3-4 people). I'm suffering from an extreme case of "rejection means it was all for nothing" mentality, even though I 'know' it's not. I have always felt inferior to them, even with the good news I have had this year (few among my peers applied early) my SATs/APs, and my achievements EC-wise (very significant ones, e.g. Eagle Scout). When acceptance is perfectly correlated with GPA/SAT, how can I not feel this way, I wonder. Rejection would mean that I was an inferior student, which would just drive me crazy.</p>
<p>I don't know where to go. My parents suggested talking to a school counselor (not college counselor), but I felt better for a few days after some time of depression. However, I fear a relapse into the hellacious nights that plagued me for over a month, and extreme depression that mars my outlook on life. Without RD results, I honestly would be fine. It's just that the potential to have my worst fears validated is imminent. I get...almost angry with myself and others when I'm asked to do social activities, as others have much more free time during the spring than I do (with EC commitments). This isn't how I should view my activities, which I love! I don't know whether I should talk to my CC, because I don't know what he could do to help, and he wants me to be happy with Stanford and not worry about H. I want to as well, but H is my top choice, and also the true validation of my efforts, at least in my mind.</p>