A girl who was mean to me in school is attending the same college as me...

<p>Slap a ho?</p>

<p>^^ LMAO!!!</p>

<p>@ TA3021, its great to hear that you are reinventing yourself. I've also been working on myself. Here's a great book that I am reading: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. He makes a lot of great points in that book; read it with a grain of salt and see what works for you, I highly recommend it.</p>

<p>^ Thanks for the suggestion. I'll read the book soon, I heard it's supposed to be really great.
Have you read "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie? It's a great book also meant to be read with a grain of salt. I'm also reading "How Rude!" by Alex J. Packer, which is an etiquette book for young people. I think my manners and behavior are good enough but I can never be too sure.</p>

<p>I guess there are four ways to deal with this situation, if it ever happens:</p>

<p>1) Ignore it
2) Talk to authority (most likely not going to happen, it won't get that severe)
3) Tell her to stop.
4) Embrass her in public. For example I'll say "Excuse me. Grow up, we're not in high school anymore. By the way, I hope the herpes cleared up." loud enough for everyone to hear and then smile.
I don't know if I actually have the nerve to do #4! It'd be even funnier if I found out it was true. lol.</p>

<p>ROFL to Jebus Christ! :-)</p>

<p>Topics on this College Life board are so god damn sad.</p>

<p>I pity the OP and similar posters.</p>

<p>you could have her taken care of</p>

<p>To the OP, read the book Queen Bees and Wannabees, those mean girls DO often still behave like jerks their whole lives</p>

<p>I wouldn't worry about her in college, but YOU need to not give her any power- she is invisible to you- a knat- a nothing</p>

<p>My D had a horrid girl in her middle school, who also attended her HS, but in HS, it was so much bigger and my D was so much stronger and the girl KNEW that she couldn't do anything, and frankly, didn't want to, she was remaking herself as well</p>

<p>So, just think how sad and pathetic the bully is, how meaningless she is in your new life, that she has no power base, no group of followers to show off for, and will just be laughed at</p>

<p>So go off to college, ignore her, BUT if you do catch her eye, smile that biggest smile, enjoy who you are with and show her you don't fear her anymore</p>

<p>Confidence can go a long way</p>

<p>This girl used to give my D the nastiest looks in middle school class, just trying to intimidate her, so whenver that twit would glare at me D, my D would put on the biggest smile, and give a little wave, drove the mean girl nuts and soon she stopped trying to bully her because it wasn't working</p>

<p>don't worry about it yet.
the college is big enough you don't have to constantly see her, and people change a lot in college. she very well might change too.</p>

<p>yes don't worry about it, but do have a plan, just in case...that big smile, that air of confidence, that if you DO run into her, you won't panic and give her that feeling of power, just in case she is still being a bully</p>

<p>In other words, grow some genitalia.</p>

<p>Just ignore her.</p>

<p>Even if she does try to continue that mess at college, unless you have the same circle of friends, nobody will even know who she's talking about much less give a crap. In fact, most people would just find her annoying for trying to continue dumb high school drama.</p>

<p>So just leave the past in the past and go about your business like you would if she wasn't there at all.</p>

<p>Wow, thanks everyone. It doesn't seem to matter to me anymore. I just need self confidence and everything will take care of itself. Just smile and enjoy college, I guess.</p>