<p>I found out that a girl who was mean to me throughout high school is going to the same college as me. She laughed at me whenever I partiscipated in class, made fun of me behind my back and spread all these rumors and gossip about me. Because of her, I wasn't respected by a lot of people. Everyone saw me as a joke. It all started because in the 10th grade a teacher unintentionally made me teacher's pet and she made the whole class gang up on me. I'm not a suck up or a snob so I know I didn't deserve it. There were even kids who threw stuff at me and one who sexually assaulted me because of **** she started.
I hope she doesn't start this in college. There's a very high chance I'll see her again since the college only has 5,500 students. If I see her again I'll get the urge to slap her. I heard that if you fight in college you can get expelled or arrested, right?
How do I deal with this?</p>
<p>who cares???????????</p>
<p>Are you in the same programs together? Just because you're going to the same school doesn't mean you'll have to hang out or even talk to each other!
Otherwise, there's not a lot you can do - I don't really know what advice you're asking for. The best you can do is deal with it and ignore her. If she starts any touble there are people you can talk to who work with the college.</p>
<p>Grow a pair, then take matters into your own hands.</p>
<p>wow, i would NEVER let someone treat me like that without retaliation. forget physical fighting- thats dumb. but if she's going to start stuff like that with you, go right ahead and beat her at her own game. a little rumor of "i really hope the herpes will clear up" will do wonders on a brand new campus ;)</p>
<p>Grow up and be an adult she is not going to bother you in college trust me.</p>
<p>Sorry you have to have your excitement about college colored by this nasty situation. If the girl in question does not have the 'power'---popularity, crowd, etc that she did in hs, I'm sure you will be fine. I would doubt that someone would pull that kind of juvenile stuff in a vacuum, where nobody knows either one of you yet. Who would she talk about you to? Strangers? If anything, she might actually be nicer because she'll feel like just as much a fish out of water as you do. Find some nice friends when you get there, and anything she does or says won't mean a thing to you. Good luck, and enjoy it!</p>
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<p>I doubt the kid will start this back up at University. </p>
<p>But, if the kid does...</p>
<p>Look them in the eye and tell them a little something. Do not hit them or anything.</p>
<p>You just look them in the eye and tell them that no one is going to break you and remind them of how you are both adults now. What a kid does with the teasing and all, is not really highly thought of in the adult world. Once you are over the age of 18, you are an adult, know what I mean? </p>
<p>Make yourself some nice pals at this University and just move on. I doubt the kid will tease you before a new audience. I have learned that once you take a bully out of their environment, they are just lost. So, do not worry. </p>
<p>Peace and good luck to you with your grades and all of the nice things that await you at University.</p>
<p>The nice thing about college is you can be what ever you want to be. It isn't her that needs change, it's you. That's the only thing you can control. Giving her 5 seconds of your mental time means you don't control yourself. A person can only bother you if you allow it. Think of coach Kline in the Waterboy for crying out loud, that's actually a great point made.</p>
<p>Talk to her in a playful manner and ask her why she feels she needs to act this way, and then after a deep meaningful conversation, say: hey lets go get some ice cream together and be girlfriends!</p>
<p>Either that or punch her in the nuts.....oh wait nvm.</p>
<p>Just a story I thought I'd share - my d danced at a studio in another town. A girl from her high school who was semi-ostracized by a lot of kids also danced there (she and my d were friends). Girl 2 made friends at the studio. A third girl, a member of the ostracizing group, joined the studio. She started trying the same high school stunts with the dance girls. Didn't work - the dance girls actually began ostracizing Girl 3 for her gossip and attempts to turn them against Girl 2! Girl 3 didn't return the following year.</p>
<p>In other words, context is everything. The context of your life is changing; so will the dynamics. Ignore her, whether or not she's trying to start up again, and she'll go away.</p>
<p>Unless you're in the same major, a school of 5,500 is large enough so that you can avoid her.</p>
<p>I hope this girl goes to the same school so you can get retaliation.</p>
<p>You're not a little boy any more, you're a man. Why would you want to avoid her? She has none of her backup or posse with her. You can say what you want to her face and she will take it.</p>
<p>I hope you chew her out in front of everybody in class and she cries and runs away.</p>
<p>Maybe she started talking smack about you because she liked you and wanted you to seem less untouchable? Just talk to her now. If that doesn't work, you can always slap her like you said in your original post.</p>
<p>@DeluxeHardballer: The threadstarter is a girl actually..
But seriously, let's hope she has changed into a more mature person.
And that you can start over without worrying about her.
Something that would chock her would be to approach her in the begining of the semester with like "Hey, didn't we go to the same high school? Nice to see you here, take care!"</p>
<p>Probably..</p>
<p>Don't approach her you will look like an @$$tard just leave her be go about your business she goes about hers. Get over that HS stuff and enter the real world.</p>
<p>Just get over it. It's one person. 5500 students is more than you think, unless your interested in similar things, you'll probably not see her all that terribly often.</p>
<p>My belief is that there is always going to be some kind of BS no matter where you go. College isn't some magic portal that allows you to have no social troubles.
As for you and your schoolmate, just ignore her. Don't sink down to her level and if she starts bull, go see a counselor. Don't play along with her stupid games.</p>
<p>Pretend she doens't exist. Go about your business until the moment she starts to kick stuff up again, at which time you promptly ***** her out in front of everyone. She'll probably back down if you call her on her crap.</p>
<p>I don't know if she'll be in the same major as me. As long as she doesn't pull the stunts she does in high school, I don't care about her. If she does nothing, I'll pretend she doesn't exist.
I was just worried that it might start all over again. Thanks to all of you, I realized that most likely nothing will happen and even if it does, she'll look immature.
I'm working on to reinventing myself over the summer (the mean girl is not the reason) so I can be the person I've always wanted to be. College is a new beginning but if I don't change everything will feel the same. Now, I'm even looking foward to seeing her there so she'll see I'm not the same girl she ripped apart in high school. That's one of the many benefits I'll get out of reinventing myself. I wonder if any high school graduates are doing the same thing this summer. I should make a separate thread about this...</p>
<p>^ good for you :) but you should ask her why she did that to you then again i'm curious why she did that to you!!</p>
<p>Why? I was always considered a little different. My social skills are not as good as others, meaning I actually have to work at it while it comes easily to most people. She probably noticed this and decided to start with me. </p>
<p>I'm a very serious person, too serious and I acted so mature it was weird. Also, having an odd voice because of a childhood speech impediement didn't help much either lol. I sound "normal" now though ;-)</p>