A Girlfriend/Boyfriend who makes you lose focus while at CCC

<p>Anyone? My gf is a drama queen and she always seeks my presence. To top it off, she always wants me to help her with her classes. It stresses me out because I do not have the freedom to focus on studying and relax when I want to.</p>

<p>CCC relationships are so passe.</p>

<p>I am a stern believer of having a relationship when you can invest time in it. Right now, your time is better put into school and if your gf can't understand that, then... well, you know. Easier said than done, of course.</p>

<p>I went through that experience and I realized that I am in a stage in my life where I'm trying to make myself a better person. I need to concentrate on myself and I don't have the time or the energy to invest in another person, especially if they're holding me back.</p>

<p>Also, 98% of the guys at my CCC are losers that will never get anywhere in life or are jerks. I can do without.</p>

<p>I'm glad I'm the other 2%</p>

<p>lol, yes. i'm pretty sure that the 2% that don't suck are on CC.</p>

<p>Add an "o" between CC. Sorry, I just had to make a joke out of your sentence.</p>

<p>lol it's hard cause she just cant understand that sometimes i need the time to be alone to focus on studying. she would insist on coming to my house because she needs my help or w/e...</p>

<p>"Invest," as xleper17 has used, is the key word here. All the time you are investing in that DRAMA QUEEN could be invested in working towards your dreams instead. If she really loves you, she would push you to be better... not drag you down.</p>

<p>^^ i second that. well said.</p>

<p>you obviously dont like her so why not break it off?</p>

<p>also, this is a long shot, but i think she's just trying to be cute and thinks you like it. bluntly tell her that her presence is annoying that she is the bane of your existence. that should scare her off.</p>

<p>ok, that's a little harsh... it will either work or make her cry. a lot.</p>

<p>i tried to break up with her but she would not want to and she would insist of staying with me. i am actually already sick of this relationship and would just use my time to do something else or something without drama like hanging out with my friend. just like xleper said, i want to use my time for something else other than her.</p>

<p>do you guys have any suggestions on how to make her stay away from me ? =)</p>

<p>you CAN break up with her, even if she doesn't want to. It's no longer a relationship if one person doesn't want to be apart of it.</p>

<p>be honest with her. Tell her that you need to focus on your life and, as sad as it is, you can't give her the attention she needs/wants.</p>

<p>breaking up is always hard to do, so be firm if you really want to end the relationship.</p>

<p>she would say that she would try as much as she could to not try to disturb me. but, without me realizing, she would just go back to her own self and start being a drag all over again.</p>

<p>Tell her you're gay?
I'm in a sort of same situation as well, except my boyfriend goes to school part time (if you call 3 units pt) and works full time. He always says 'you're always doing homework'. Wish he understood a little better...but I know he supports me.</p>

<p>wow same thing here. she would say that i do not have fun in my life and all this and that. and my gf does not even support me!!! she would just go 'oh okay...' WTH?</p>

<p>Trust me, a relationship like that WILL HOLD YOU BACK from doing your absolute best. It is unnecessary stress.
If she can't understand that school is your number 1 priority, you have to break it off. I mean, you aren't going to be in college forever. There will be plenty of time to enjoy life.</p>

<p>I've been single ever since I came back to school. Sorry, just don't have the time for dating and relationship drama. Not when I need all of my concentration to get to where I need to be.</p>

<p>P.S. To break up with her, you just need to put your foot down. It's not easy, but it is indeed that simple.</p>

<p>all i can ask form you guys are... wish me the best... i am trying hard to end this relationship... thankx for all your comments... very much appreciated</p>