<p>Wise decision or no?</p>
<p>I mean, your gf is a human being right, that ought to be cherished ahead of inanimate hw? And a loyal lifelong companion may be worth more than that 0.1-0.2 worth of GPA? </p>
<p>At the same time, what sort of investment is it? If you doubt its security, what does that say about a relationship anyway?</p>
<p>Though I don’t think it’s a wise decision, it’s pretty clear by the way you justified the situation that you find it to be a wise decision.</p>
<p>I’m unsure. </p>
<p>When you’re cuddling, it seems really wise. </p>
<p>When she’s upset and asks you to go to class late (and miss clicker questions) to comfort her, then sometimes you wonder.</p>
<p>Is she a student?</p>
<p>Doesn’t she want you to be successful?</p>
<p>A relationship involves compromises on both sides. Is she really not letting you go to class so you can cuddle and comfort eachother? I suppose the 60? years after college just doesn’t suffice as adequate time…</p>
<p>Yes. Yes. (Sometimes we argue over my poorer work habits.)</p>
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<p>Well if that happens it’s for mistakes on my part. Still however she gets upset if I suggest that I’ll get back to her after class.</p>
<p>F: “lets go out to eat”
M: “can’t. i have to study for an exam tomorrow”
F: “if you don’t take me out to eat then you don’t love me”</p>
<p>she is selfish is she demands that of you…</p>
<p>^ Yeah if that happens is like “Me=everything”</p>
<p>I say you gotta balance it out, yes a girlfriend is definetly important and shouldn’t be ignored just cause u want to get an A.</p>
<p>but vice versa, a girlfriend shouldn’t take all ur time that u don’t do well in class.</p>
<p>It’s up to u man, balance it out</p>
<p>At risk of offending, there is a well-worn statement to a parallel situation: * bro’s before ho’s*. The idea being that your bro’s are with you forever while girls are ephemeral. Similarly, your future, defined by how well you do in school (perhaps), is with you forever, while this girl is ephemeral. So… ho(mework) before ho’s?</p>
<p>I would never put a relationship before my studies. Ever.</p>
<p>Completely unfair and a stupid decision to put her first. Yes, still treat her like a human, but you’re dishing out so much money for an education. If she wants to ruin that for you, she isn’t worth anything.</p>
<p>As Laxtaxi said, Bros before Hos. Dump this ho.</p>
<p>Treat her the same way you treat anything enjoyable that might get in the way of your studies: go with it. My GPA went up when I started dating my girlfriend and has gone up every semester since (and we’re still together).</p>
<p>Joking aside, the best thing is to find balance like haikumarukuchan said, spending enough time with her that you feel like you’re getting what you want out of the relationship, but not so much time that it’s negatively affecting your studies. Though it is true about my GPA (hers dipped a bit the first semester we dated, then went back up, and then the semester I went abroad she got like 3 A+s in upper level chem classes…maybe I’m the bad influence haha).</p>
<p>Studies before girl–always. I told the same thing to my son. I don’t want to sound like a Mom without morals but I also told my son that he’s too young to have one steady girlfriend. I don’t feel that any 18 year old (girl or guy) should be in a heavy duty relationship. There are too many different people out there to meet and get to know. I also feel that it limits the college experience because your friends will see you as a couple rather than individuals. If they invite one, they feel obligated to invite the other. If they don’t want to invite the other, than they are more likely to not invite you at all. </p>
<p>Neediness is not a good thing in a relationship. Many people use their “neediness” as a way to constantly make their significant other prove their love to them. If this is the case, I suggest cooling the relationship now because no matter how hard you try, your partner will never be secure and will use the “neediness” trait as a means of control in the relationship.</p>
<p>Your studies should be your priority right now. To blow the investment because of a current girlfriend is not a wise decision. Take charge. Explain that your individual future depends on what you put into it today. Explain to her that you have a goal and if she really wants to continue in this relationship, she needs to understand that you must follow through with all of the steps necessary to reach that goal. If she’s not on board with your goal, then she needs to move on and find someone else.</p>
<p>ask her for $200,000</p>
<p>What exactly do you mean “put her ahead of your studies?” If all you’re doing is using her for sex while the rest of the time you’re studying, then she’d have a valid point. If she’s asking you to skip class and not do assignments in order to spend time with her, then what she’s asking for is not reasonable.</p>
<p>school first. if she doesn’t want what is best for you, you shouldn’t be with her. dump her.</p>
<p>I wonder if this isn’t a larger issue that she might feel emotionally neglected or insecure in your relationship so her demands are ways of her asking (not very effectively) if you really care about her?</p>
<p>Perhaps if you put some energy into letting her know you care about her in many small positive ways she won’t feel like she needs you to pick her over your schoolwork.</p>
<p>Ask her to go to the library with you, to meet you for a snack after class, to take a study break…include her in your daily academic life in small ways and this might help.</p>
<p>Studies are your primary responsibility but you can have a good relationship at the same time.</p>
<p>College relationships don’t always end in something fulfilling. I’d prioritize your grades over a relationship simply because relationships are rather unstable and you don’t know if you’re going to be with the same person the next year or in years to come.</p>
<p>I believe the only time a relationship should come in between your homework/studies is if you’re in a marital relationship. There are ways to make non-steady relationships work while in college but the other person has to realize that studying is the prime focus of getting a college degree. Anyone that doesn’t understand this is rather selfish. Besides, don’t they have their own homework to be doing?</p>
<p>No girl is worth lower grades. Get those grades up or you might as well drop out and flip burgers for the rest of your life.</p>
<p>^ Im hungry and need burgers now</p>
<p>At least she doesn’t want you to put her ahead of your excessive marijuana habit. That would just be selfish; ask my last boyfriend…</p>