A thank you from that whiny troubled kid from a few months ago.

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<p>Hi! Allow me to preface this with a warning: the cheesiness that you are about to witness is completely genuine, but you may need to shield your eyes at times.</p>

<p>If you look at my previous posts, you'll remember I was having family/stress issues and whatnot. It basically got a lot worse in the coming weeks, and then we all had a major breakdown a month later. After everyone started letting the cats out, my parents started to lift some of the absurd pressure they put on me, they began to avoid throwing most things at me haha, and most importantly for me, they let me out of the house once in a while to breathe. At this point, I only have a semester of real school to go, so it'll be pointless for them to continue their tirades, and I think they know that.</p>

<p>We still fight a lot. A. Lot. They've drained me of a lot of energy that could have been put to better use, but after I began to tell them about how depressed I was during some parts of last year, they've made an effort to have some sort of limit. I also did see a school official who helped me a little. I gave her snippets of what I said here on CC; she told me I may want to see a doctor about depression, but I opted not to listen and I'm happy about that.</p>

<p>All the advice and little stories some of you gave me a few months ago really helped me - probably more than you realized. I didn't like to talk about it with my friends because I didn't want to seem spoiled and whiny, but I was lucky enough to find some caring individuals on a website of seemingly intimidating, over-achieving and occasionally snobby kids and parents. Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone who responded to my thread.</p>

<p>As the next few months approach, I'm freaking out about college. I've decided on doing ED to a school where I know the chances are slim. It's a top LAC, but I know I'd regret not giving it a chance. I'll try to write a kick ass essay, not be a blubbering idiot in my interview, cross my fingers and leave the rest up to admissions. Luckily, I know posters here will be willing to help with any crises along the way. :)</p>

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<p>Thanks so much for updating. I’m glad that things have eased up for you. </p>

<p>Your parents put a lot of pressure on you because they are very stressed themselves. Be prepared for more instances of parental pressure as deadlines approach. Remember how you coped with parental pressure: by letting your parents how stressed they were making you feel in a totally unproductive way. If you see signs of that happening again, don’t bottle it up, let them know how you feel, let them know that you appreciate their concern for you, but that you have things under control and that you cannot function well if you are stressed.</p>

<p>Now that you’ve identified your ED choice, work on the rest of your list with reaches, matches and safeties. Make a list of due dates, not just to submit applications but to ask teachers about recs, get them written and turned over to the GC as well as getting other materials.
Work on your resume; I’ll bet your parents will be impressed by the information in it. They may know it already, but seeing it all together will remind them of your accomplishments.
Above all, enjoy the rest of the summer!</p>

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<p>That’s all really good news. I believe a lot of the parents appreciate your taking the time to let us know some of our drivel occasionally helps someone.</p>

<p>I would also just point out that through very recent family events I’ve been reading up on depression in teenagers. You might just spend a few minutes poking around online. I think many teenagers are not really aware of what it is/how it feels/even that something might be wrong (although you sound remarkably together). There are some symptom checklists you might want to go through. If this has been even a part of your problems, it’s important that you and your parents know.</p>