<p>This is probably mostly a vent and too long, but any advice is appreciated. My daughter is doing just fine in college. Three As and a B first semester, just got invited to congratulatory dinner for being in top quarter of her class. She's a kid who always goes to class, and given an assignment due in three days, divides it into three parts and does a part every day. So far so good--we weren't really worried about academics. She has more real-life friends in college than high school, where she spent too much time online role-playing, imo. A great transition, becoming more independent, making friends who share her interests.</p>
<p>This semester, she is crying that she's scared, there's so much work, she doesn't understand. This is a kid who hates new things, and resents doing things she's not interested in. When she sold ads for HS journalism, I had to coach her crying before she went into each and every place. She cried when we visited most colleges. She worked at Kroger in HS and cried if she had to call and change her schedule. I got her therapy which seemed to help some....</p>
<p>I encouraged her to take it one day at a time, and that she could certainly do the work and that the other kids weren't more advanced than her. Sure enough, she now reports in relief that everybody else is lost in sociology too. (Only third week of classes.) But she had to give up a role-playing thing she's been doing for a year because of work, so she's sad.</p>
<p>I encouraged her to think about talking to a counselor at school to give her coping skills to deal with her fear/anxiety. She's stressed about choosing a major, if she can get a good job, etc etc. Every time the future comes up she chokes up.</p>
<p>I know as a parent I hear all the bad stuff, and shouldn't overreact. I know this is her personality. I know she is actually happier on a daily basis than these conversations would imply. I do think some talk therapy could help, and will pursue that. Now for the vent part--arghhh! I just want to tell her to suck it up, this is life. This is not my personality, and I get frustrated and annoyed by the crying, although I try to hide it. I think I was hoping that college=done with that stuff, and am bummed that it's not.</p>
<p>Thanks for listening. :-)</p>