<p>I haven’t even accepted my own mother’s request. As much as I like her, there’s some things she doesn’t need to know/see.</p>
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<p>I’d leave her limbo. If you accept her, well that’s kind of strange and she (well if she’s like the typical over-zealous parent) is probably scoping you out to see what you’re like.
If you reject her, then you might start off on the wrong foot with your roommate.</p>
<p>I haven’t accepted my own mother’s request either…too weird.</p>
<p>Plattsburgh, the problem is…college isn’t for 2 weeks and I’m always on Fbook. Surely my roommate doesn’t know about this and hasn’t told her mother I’m on fbook a lot? If they’re not in cooperation on this, then leaving her mom in limbo for 2 weeks is fine. If they know I’m leaving her limbo…talk about an awkward move-in day. I think I’m just going to add her and hide my wall/photos/basically everything besides my name.</p>
<p>Haha, I think you’re going to have an awkward meeting day no matter what if their mother shows up.
That might be a better idea to just hide your info.</p>
<p>Yeah, she ruined it haha. Thanks for the advice.</p>
<p>I’d facebook before I’d e-mail, but I’d also e-mail before I’d call.</p>
<p>The only reason being that it’s easy to call at an inconvenient time, and that can easily ruin a first impression (even though it wouldn’t be your fault). Plus, they may feel obligated to talk to you, which can lead to a little bit of resentment.</p>
<p>Just add them on Facebook. Also, find the FB group for your freshman class and add some of your new classmates. I added several of mine, and a few of them I am now good friends with. If you don’t end up connecting, just delete them. No harm no foul.</p>
<p>It is just me, or is facebook really just useless (and a way to kill your time/life)?
I was a REAL big user of myspace (35k+ views) back in the day, and facebook when it first started.</p>
<p>Now, the interface just sucks and there’s too much drama.<br>
Why let the whole world see what you say to ONE person? It’s idiotic.</p>
<p>I find it A LOT better to just call.</p>
<p>When you boil it down, it’s a means to stay in contact with people. </p>
<p>Once you become one of those people who accepts every random friend request you receive, or updates your status in regards to literally anything that happens to you, then I suppose it grows into something else. I find it pretty foolish that anyone would want 1000 “friends”, let alone have 1000 “friends”. I suppose it’s a way to feed your ego, maybe boost one’s self-confidence. It’s a lot easier to express yourself to the internet than it is to the people right in front of you. </p>
<p>Drama is something to be blamed on the user, not the system. Dramatic people will bring it with them wherever they go. If you want something to be private, the obvious solution is to privately message them. I never write on a friend’s wall, and they never write on mine. It’s all messages. (I suppose one exception is if I have a picture of them to post, or something in that regard. I’ll post that on their wall.)</p>
<p>Communicating through Facebook is nothing like a phone call, though, and I don’t see how one could simply replace one with the other. If I want to know which Harry Potter character my BFF is, how on earth can I do it on the telephone?</p>
<p>If I received a call from my future roommate, I would be completely weirded out and the phone conversation would probably be extremely awkward.</p>
<p>Right now, I’ve been talking to my roommate alot on Facebook through private messages and it’s just easier and more convenient this way. E-mail’s fine too, but Facebook’s a good way to get started.</p>
<p>I made the first leap today and decided to add my apartment mates. So far two of them seem pretty nice and friendly and it wasn’t as awkward as it first seemed. It’s pretty hard to refrain from judging and evaluating compatibility when browsing through their profiles though.</p>
<p>I have phone numbers, but I’m not a phone person at all so I wouldn’t dare call and would probably be hesitant to answer one. Facebook/Email/IM for now.</p>
<p>Why is it weird? You’re going to be living together for the next year. And people have been communicating via phone for a long time without it being weird. Now facebook comes along and people forget this fact.</p>
<p>Also, easy and convenient doesn’t always mean it’s better.</p>
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<p>It’s sort of laughable that you find email to be “personal and direct” than Facebook. Most people don’t even check their email, and it’s hard to have an actual, instant conversation through it. And emails tend to be much more formal and impersonal in tone, unless you’re speaking to someone with whom you already have a close relationship. If anything, Facebook messaging/chat is one hundred times more direct than email.</p>
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<p>What about phone conversations have people so nostalgic and upset over online communication? Back before IMing became popular, I remember hating phone conversations. Unless I was speaking to really close friends, they were filled with awkward pauses and never lasted too long. Texting/FB are like my Godsend, and I’ve gotten to know people so much better through them. I don’t see the huge deal in hearing someone’s voice to have “personal” contact with them. </p>
<p>Go ahead and request them on Facebook, I’m sure they’re just as anxious to get to know their new roommate as you are.</p>
<p>yes add them, dont overthink things its not a big deal</p>
<p>I guess you can say I’m upset by our increasing dependence on technology. But I’m mainly just wondering why it’s weird to have conversations on the phone.</p>
<p>If my roommate called me I would feel like she’s making a better effort to get to know me. Facebook is just the easy way out. It’s like you’re not trying. And you can learn a lot about a person by the tone of his/her voice and get a better feel of who that person is. </p>
<p>The internet has changed the way we communicate. Sure it’s faster and easier, but not necessarily better. It creates a false reality; a different image of who we really are. Can you imagine a world in which we only speak by computer. We would lose so much of ourselves. We can be fake when we want to; we can say anything to anyone.</p>
<p>Sorry for my mini rant. I’m not against adding people on facebook. I’m just trying to say that calling someone shouldn’t be a chore and it shouldn’t be awkward, especially someone you are going to live with.</p>
<p>I’d call my roommate or wouldn’t mind if they called me but I’ve had roommates before so it’s different when you’re not nervous about it anymore. I’d like to become better friends with my future roommate(s) so I feel calling is a better way to do that.</p>
<p>I’d say facebook + calling is a good thing if you can muster up the courage. You can usually figure out what someone is into through their pictures and they plans they make with their friends. Stalker-ish, I know. Note I said what they are into, not what they are like.</p>
<p>I have no clue what someone would infer if they looked at my facebook.</p>
<p>BMW, how old were you when you last used social networking sites? I’m on Facebook regularly, and have had mine for well over a year and have never seen ANY “drama” whatsoever. I don’t know what sort of people you know but anyone who would have “drama” via the internet is just plain idiotic. Anyway, I only have about 100 friends (all of whom I know from real life) on there, and it’s a great way to stay in touch with your friends who you don’t have time to hang out with on a regular basis.</p>
<p>As for getting in touch with your roommate, I called mine. She wasn’t home so her dad left a message, and she called back (I missed it) and left a voicemail telling me to “text or call her.” I called. I think texting for the first talk is totally impersonal. It wasn’t awkward at all…we talked almost 3 hours, and added each other on Facebook while we were talking. We do all our communication through Facebook messages and occasional texting if we’re out shopping when we need to ask the question or something. It’s no big, don’t over think it.</p>
<p>I don’t get people who take Facebook so seriously that they only would extend a friend request to or accept a friend request from a close friend. I don’t need Facebook for my close friends because I already hang out with them and talk to them on the phone/IM/texts. Facebook, to me, seems to be for your close friends, your friends, and acquaintances. I come from a large high school, but most people at my school have 500+ friends, and a good percentage have over 1000 friends. I know very few people who have less than 100.</p>
<p>I’m friends with my roommate [we chose each other because of facebook], some people on my floor, and random people who are going to my school. I don’t see why I would deny their friend request. If you’re a social person, I don’t see why you wouldn’t accept. Plus it’s the internet. Come on.</p>
<p>“I know very few people who have less than 100.”</p>
<p>Me. I only accept from people who I have actually talked to, more than once or a roommate or people in a certain program I am in. Like I’d accept people from where I’m living in the fall or something. And of course my close friends. I don’t need to see the updates for some guy I sat next to in government that one year or whatever. Or people who I knew in high school and yet we do not talk now and will not hang out ever again. My friends (close) also have lower amounts of friends. </p>
<p>I only deny when I have no clue who the person is.</p>
<p>I guess I’m the only person sans-Facebook. </p>
<p>After finding out my boss Googled me a year after hiring me(I have a unique name and have Google Alerts turned on) I’ve been a little paranoid. It doesn’t help that the brief time I had a Facebook, my perverted “I like women who look like they’re twelve” study abroad adviser tried to add me as a friend before I ever met him.</p>
<p>I get freaked out easily.</p>
<p>Your boss googled you, plus actually admitted to it? Creeperrr.</p>