Adding new roommate on facebook - advisable?

<p>my roomate added me but im not going to say anything to him until i actually meet him in person. I just dont want to have the awkward moment where he or i say so youre the guy from facebook.</p>

<p>at my school we have residential colleges and we found out those a few weeks before we found out our roommates. There are about 40 freshman girls in my residential college and I added most of them, ending up in a great conversation with one girl in particular.</p>

<p>Guess what?</p>

<p>She ended up being my roommate.</p>

<p>We’ve really gotten to know each other through Facebook and honestly I hate calling people…I know I need to get over it but I feel like it would be super-awkward over the phone.</p>

<p>It’s not uncommon for companies/bosses to google their workers; it helps them get a feel for their personality and make sure they’re not going to give the company a bad name.</p>

<p>Last year this girl from my year (entering freshman) added EVERYONE in the “X University - Class of 2012” group on Facebook. Needless to say some of us were weirded out by this.</p>

<p>She has 2000+ friends and counting.</p>

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<p>Well I’m no expert, but I would assume a normal potential employer would Google their employees prior to hiring them, or perhaps check up on them occassionally, but not when the employee (me) has already quit the company and is leaving in one week.</p>

<p>But then again, my boss is on the slow side. Maybe it took him this long to Google me.</p>

<p>He did admit to another intern that he had looked her up online too and had found some website or something of hers. I guess he was in Google mode that day.
Still weird.</p>

<p>Hi! I found out my roommate today and friended her on facebook. She seems really friendly, and I want to leave her a message, but I’m at a total loss what to say. I don’t think I should bring up the refrigerator/what are you bringing question until later. I’m usually not this socially awkward lol, but I do want to make a good impression. Do you think I should write on her Wall or just message her in private? I know this sounds really unnecessary, but any advice would be nice, so thanks!</p>

<p>^^ Is this your first time speaking with her? If so, a simple “hi, I’m _____ and I just wanted to introduce myself to you.” would suffice.</p>

<p>If you’ve already introduced yourself to her, maybe mention something about school like “I’m so nervous about __<strong><em>x</em></strong>, how are you dealing?”</p>

<p>I added my roomate for next year on facebook with a friend message something along the lines of “hey we’re going to be roomates next year”</p>

<p>and he hasn’t accepted the request, but hasn’t really denied it either. Its sitting in limbo but he still uses facebook (can tell because i can see his profile since we’re on the same college network.) </p>

<p>i find this kind of odd, any thoughts?</p>

<p>I would definitely recommend adding your roommate… include a message with the friend request though, it’ll be awkward if you show up having facebook stalked each other but not talked.
Talking to your roommate is always useful to have some idea before you head in of who you’ll be living with. Also it’s nice to have some idea of who’s bringing things, so that you don’t try cramming two refrigerators and microwaves into the same room! (however, I wouldn’t recommend dividing who brings what in the very first message either… just get to know each other first!)</p>