<p>So yeah.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now. We are both very dedicated to this relationship, as we were both brought up in traditional families (I'm Chinese, he's Indian).
Serious doesn't mean we plan on marrying or anything, but we do feel that we are meant for each other (cheesy, I know) and that our relationship is really strong.
Sadly, both of us are seniors. I am headed to New York, whil he will most likely stay in Calfironia and attend UC Berkeley.
A few days ago we tried to have a coherent discussion and it ended with me in tears and him looking like he should slap himself. We decided to not think about it and try to make the best of our time left.</p>
<p>How can I not think about it though? I don't know what to do. At this point, breaking up would mean slashing a deep psychological scar into both of our lives. I only hold on to the hope that he will be accepted to Duke or CMU and attend there, so at least we will be on the same side of the continent.</p>
<p>But is this it? Is this goodbye? We may never see each other again... Can that be prevented?</p>
<p>This is really my last resort in seeking guidance. Please keep your posts respectful, as I can't stand more verbal abuse along with this stress.</p>
<p>Why do you think you will never see each other again? There is no reason why you can’t keep your relationship going on a long distance basis. Obviously you have a computer and probably a web cam also, with those tools the two of you could have a video chat every night if you want to.</p>
<p>If you are meant for each other then some time apart will not be what tears you apart. It is important to grow while away at college and being away from each other will help with that. You will have a chance to make friends independently and might actually surprise yourself by wanting to date someone you meet at school.</p>
<p>Ok-it is true that a long distance thing is hard, and for many people it does not work at all. For some though it does work and you might end up getting married after your four years away at school. You have to realize that while now it might seem like you will be emotionally devastated without each other, after being away from each other for a while it might not seem so serious. People grow a lot after high school and you can’t know now how you will feel a year or two from now.</p>
<p>Can’t speak from experience myself but I have a friend in the UK who spent 6 months cultivating a relationship over Skype with a guy in the US. I know this isn’t quite the same situation since a) she didn’t know him all that well to begin with (but nevertheless claimed to be completely in love with him) and b) it WAS only half a year, but I don’t think either of them found it challenging to keep their relationship going. Now they’re still together but they’re at different universities about a 3 hour train ride apart, so they see each other about every other weekend or less, and it seems to have worked out for them.
I guess my point is the same as calalex’s - if you feel that strongly about each other, being apart might be difficult but shouldn’t be a reason for a split.
Honestly, even if you do end up deciding to break up, it could be because you’ve both changed/drifted apart and probably wouldn’t be as painful since it might feel more natural.</p>
<p>Haha, thanks guys.
I wonder if we should give a long-distance relationship a shot… though from what i’ve heard, it’s risky and might even destroy the underlying friendship.
I’m just going to hope for the best :)</p>