<p>I have been living with my boyfriend and a handful of roommates for about a year and a half now. This was interrupted between September and December due to my leaving for my freshman year at a University that was a good eight hours away. It was a struggle convincing him that our relationship would make it through that period - but I did end up convincing him of that, and our relationship did indeed make it.</p>
<p>I did very well for that first semester (academically). However, I felt (personally) alone, frustrated and upset - including a lot of emotions associated with having to maintain a long distance relationship. (Although, from what I've heard, this is pretty normal for first semester freshmen). Feeling like I wasn't yet prepared for the huge life changes that were coming my way, I took a leave of absence this past spring. I went back to living with my boyfriend and roommates and took up a part-time job in the meantime. </p>
<p>However, I feel like I'm ready to go back for the fall semester. I now feel mature and independent enough to handle the stresses that come along with being so far from home. I believe I'm ready.</p>
<p>...but not so fast.</p>
<p>My boyfriend is hell-bent against me going back. He has told me, "well, you hated it the first time, what makes you think the second time is going to be any different?" - going so far as to threaten breaking up with me. Now, I understand where he's coming from - I truly do. I also understand that I need to do what I feel is right... but there's a catch. If I decide to go back, and he decides to break it off, I will have nowhere to go during breaks. I can't live with my mother because she can barely support herself (is actually facing potential eviction as of now), and my brother has no space. (My father isn't in the picture).</p>
<p>I have no idea what to do.... Go back to school and risk virtual homelessness? Stay and go to a community college? I'm not sure.... I'm confused and scared..... I feel like I'm facing a couple very difficult choices.... Does anyone out there in cyberspace (or CC atleast) have any advice? :(</p>
<p>You’re in a difficult situation. My impression is that you are at the moment too reliant on your BF - What if the relationship breaks off later anyway? You’ll be in the same situation or worse, possibly homeless AND heartbroken.</p>
<p>My advice is go back to university. </p>
<p>Maybe I have an idealized view of relationships, but I think they should be based on mutual support, and “hell-bent against” you going back doesn’t sound particularly supportive. If it’s meant to be in the long run, this is a good test.</p>
<p>As for a place to stay, you can find some off campus housing / roommates to stay with over the breaks while you work, or take classes, or do whatever else.</p>
<p>The choices you are making now will affect you for the rest of your life, school is very often the right bet. You’ve already shown yourself you can do well in your first semester, it’s all the more reason to finish what you started.</p>
<p>my best advice to you is pray about it. seriously. ask God to provide a place for you to live cause your bf is not very supportive at all. He should wnt the best for you and not hold any ransom over you. pray. it always works for me ^_^</p>
<p>I would definitely suggest praying to God as well, though some people are nervous about the word ‘pray’ and the person ‘God’. Really though, in my experience, if you do what you feel is right, things will materialize to help you along the way. I believe you should go back to the university.</p>
<p>men/boyfriends are transient—you need to be able to take care of yourself so go back to school, work your a__ off and get a great degree/job—rely on YOURSELF!!</p>
<p>There is no question - you have to go back to school.
If you go, you’ll open doors to the world and you’ll learn to stand on your own.
If you stay, you’ll always be “someone’s girlfriend” never knowing if you could have made it on your own.</p>
<p>My bus driver is a very lovely lady who, ten years ago, was in the same situation as you but decided to stay with her boyfriend. She was just about to finish an accounting degree at Texas A&M but dropped out to stay with her boyfriend and finish up at a CC. She says that she “doesn’t mind” that decision but in retrospect sees that her life could have been much better had she decided to break it off.</p>
<p>You sound like a lovely and hardworking person too. A boyfriend who is not understanding enough to let you finish your education, of all things, is not worth it.</p>
<p>Go back to the university. Get your degree and get an awesome job. If your boyfriend won’t support you in your decisions, then he isn’t worth your time.</p>