Advice please-Roommate from hell- already!

<p>Thanks for the update and too funny! This school doesn’t have any doubles so they can stop having third wheels?</p>

<p>I have been told only singles and triples</p>

<p>Crazy…I hope they learn how to speak up for themselves. Thanks for the update!</p>

<p>Thanks for the update! I remember this thread so well…sad that she is still not standing up for herself. </p>

<p>I just reread much of the thread. What a story.</p>

<p>Too bad that this girl hasn’t grown up yet, at least not in terms of acquiring the ability to deal with conflict in a constructive manner.</p>

<p>My D had similar situation in her suite but the girl with live in boyfriend was in a double with roommate. BF had no job, was not a student, wasn’t friendly, actually kind of creepy. Fortunately when the other girls complained, the administration was clear the girl would be evicted if BF continued to stay. She was really angry, moved out of the dorm and never spoke to the other girls again. I think it is good if the housing office makes it clear to freshmen from day 1 that permanent visitors are completely unacceptable.</p>

<p>First of all is the single room really up for grabs or is someone sharing that actually is paying for it? When I was in college, we found out belatedly in an apartment that the 4 bedrooms were differently priced and coded, and it was NOT up to us to pick who got which unless we ignored the assignments. I find it difficult to believe that if this is university housing that the single room person is not being charged more. Neighbor might want to check this out, especially since her DD could be the one who was assigned the single for which she is paying and the other student is using. This is a relevant issue because at the end of the year, damages to the room assigned is assessed that way, not by who happened to live in the room by common assent.</p>

<p>I suggest that the other girls discuss the situation among themselves, research what the visitation rules are, and either ask to talk to the roommate in the spotlight privately, on campus and address this, and/or go to the RA and the Dean of students and have this this situation addressed. If it is a real problem to all but none of the roommates want to address this, as a parent I’d have no qualms calling the Dean of student myself and bringing up the issue that someone with no other local place to live is a permanent guest in an apartment to the point that he has become a free loader,a nd this is against university policies. That you are paying for the apartment, that the girls don’t like the situation but are fearful to bring it up to the roommate and boyfriend, and that you are calling attention to this blatant breaking of the rules and want it addressed with the least amount of fallout among the students. You want no trouble, no payback, no violence, and you expect the dean to address this breach as quickly and quietly as possible.</p>

<p>My daughter is in a suite style dorm, fairly modern, so the 4 rooms are the same size (one is slightly smaller, on the end). I thought it was great that the school assigned the rooms, A,B,C,D, so there would be no disagreements, no fighting. There was a big mix up on move in day as my daughter was supposed to be with a different team member, but housing had left her with her original group, so we spent hours trying to sort it out and not moving in. In the end, she moved in with the original girls. Into the room pre-assigned to her. She got the smaller room (by like 2 feet) but I liked it better because it is on the end, had the window at her desk not her headboard. </p>

<p>It was the luck of the draw, and although any of the rooms would have been fine, the girls didn’t have to start off arguing because the rooms were assigned. It’s almost like the school had dealt with 17 and 18 year old girls before!</p>

<p>That’s how it is often done, Twoinanddone, and with a single and some doubles in there , I am suspicious that someone else is paying for the room–though it’s also possible that the one in the room is supposed to get the single That should be cleared up with housing. The OPs neighbor might be paying for a room that her DD is NOT in and responsible for damages to it if that DD were so assigned. </p>

<p>But if the young man is violating visitng, living in rules in university housing, there is recourse. Had this been off campus private housing, often not, and this happens a lot. My friend had a horrorific experience when her DD’s roommate took up with some who was possibly dangerous. It cost her a term at school because the risk was not worth it and she really probably should have transferred. </p>

<p>cptofthehouse, the situation described at the beginning of the thread is long over. </p>

<p>I am closing the thread since the OP has given an update. Some posters, including me, thought this was a current thread, which is confusing!</p>