<p>so there is this girl who had had a boyfriend for about a year (about 11 months). She is a junior, the bf is a frosh in college, 3000+ miles away. Their relationship is still strong.
Before this girl was with he bf, she would flirt with me. We would regularly have 2+ hour IM conversations. THen, when she temporarily broke up with her bf over spring break, I was going to go to the girl's house to hang out, but the timing never worked out. Spring break ended and a week later the girl got back with her bf.
So cut to the summer - we're both working in labs at a local university and we go to lunch 3-5 times a week (sometimes 30 min lunches, sometimes 3+ hours). We'd also text each other (a lot) every day. Once, we walked into town and she said "oh I want to see that movie!". I ended up asking her if she wanted to see it with me, she said yes, but the timing never worked out. I went out of the country a few days later. When I got back in 2 weeks, the movie wasnt playing and we didnt have lunch as often. As school approached, I asked if she wanted to hang out (she's still with her bf) and she said no (it was dumb of me to ask).
But now that school is starting, we're taking one hard class together and we talk a lot. Now we call each other just for general support. I really like her, but she is still with her bf.
Obviously, I wouldn't ask her out, but do you have advice? And would asking her to semiformal be a bad idea (its not till February, I'm just thinking ahead). I feel bad that her bfs out of town, but is it too much for me to ask her?
And she knows that I like her and I assume she likes me...</p>
<p>Dude, there are lots of girls out there. This one probably seems more special than others because you've been dwelling on her for such a long time. Trust me, there are a lot of other ones who are equally worth your attention.</p>
<p>If she's taken, the gentlemanly thing to do is move on and just be a friend, if she'll accept that. Talk to other girls.</p>
<p>Sneaky subtext: talking to different girls is one way to make yourself more interesting to other girls.</p>