<p>I like this girl in my school, and it's sorta complicated:
In the beginning of the year, she was acting clingy towards me and randomly hugging me and stuff. I never really returned the interest because I was still with someone else.<br>
Then about a month later, she got a bf who is a senior (she and I are both sophs). After winter break (now I realize I REALLY like her), she started sitting next to me in class and we would chat on AIM almost every night for sometimes up to 5-6 hours (but usually 1-2). This continued throughout the rest of the year, and she still had her senior bf. Near the end of the year, we figured out we were both working at the same college as interns in labs that were nearby one another. She proposed that we would meet up to go around campus, get lunch, and explore... So our internships started, and we've basically met every single day. Sometimes we meet for a quick 30 min lunch, other times we get lunch and explore for 2-3 hours. She still has her senior bf, and we never really held hands or anything. So after getting some advice from friends, I basically asked her to a movie this week (remember, she still has her senior bf). She didn't respond for a day (I was SOOO nervous) and the next afternoon (Monday, but she didn't have time to meet for lunch) I texted her and basically told her if she doesn't want to go, that's okay. She responded saying she definitely wanted to go, but she's probably busy this entire week, except maybe Wednesday. So the next day she still wasn't sure about Wednesday, so I IMed her that night. She basically said she was busy (a family event, and I completely believe that's true). I'm fine with that, except for two things...
First, I'm leaving for a 2 week vacation on Sunday, so I won't see her for a while
Second, she acted kind of short when I said "we'll have to hang out when I get back"... and then she abruptly signed off a few seconds later.</p>
<p>Any advice? Am I doing something wrong? Should I lay off and basically not talk to her until I return from my vacation? Should I wait until she breaks up with her senior bf? I'm kind of new at the dating game, so advice is appreciated...</p>
<p>I know guys and girls are different in this respect, but if you didn't return the interest initially because you were with someone else, what are the odds that she'll give you another chance while she's with someone else? Unless the other guy's a d-bag, I'd give him some respect and wait it out. Just my 2 cents though, you obviously know the situation better than anyone else.</p>
<p>I totally agree with you, and I feel really bad about not returning the interest. But to be honest, I wasn't interested at that time - I barely knew who she was.</p>
<p>But now it seems like she does have an interest in me. She enjoys when we go to lunch and we joke all the time.
Oh and last week we walked into town for lunch at a sit-down restaurant and I ended up paying for both of us and she was happy. And then after that instead of returning to her lab (which she probably would have done if she wasn't having fun), she wanted to visit a few shops....
Uhhh i dunno... this is hard :( And I feel REALLY bad about the stuff at the beginning of the year.<br>
But you're right. Maybe I should just wait.</p>
<p>I'd wait it out until it's over between those two, but this kinda sounds like it might get messy (in that you two might spontaneously kiss [for example]on one of your dates--signaling true interest and a desire to take the relationship further--and thus will have to deal with the BF who doesn't yet know.)</p>
<p>If you can wait it out until they're finished, do so, but it looks like the type who might make the move anyway...</p>
<p>Thanks for your insight!
Any advice on what to do, though? </p>
<p>And once when we had lunch we were talking about a teacher her bf happens to know well, and she said (we have never talked about her bf): "a friend who's a senior said _<strong><em>" and then later she said "<bf's name=""> said</bf's></em></strong>"
It seemed almost like she expected me to know him... I don't know him in person, I've only heard of him... What does this mean?</p>
<p>Gahhhh someone should make a system that makes this process easier :( lol</p>
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I basically asked her to a movie this week (remember, she still has her senior bf). She didn't respond for a day (I was SOOO nervous) and the next afternoon (Monday, but she didn't have time to meet for lunch) I texted her and basically told her if she doesn't want to go, that's okay.
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<p>I think you're getting tooled. If she wanted to hang out with you, she wouldn't be so damn mercurial and evasive. You needed to ask her TWICE just for her to proffer an excuse. Cut your losses and move on.</p>
<p>^^^ Maybe, but I think she was feeling awkward because of her boyfriend.</p>
<p>And I forgot to mention back during Spring Break she broke up with her bf for a couple weeks and she asked me to hang out with her, but we never got the chance because I was going on vacation for the rest of the break. By the time I got back, she was with her bf again :(</p>
<p>Oh and one more thing I forgot (sorry for leaving so much out):
After lunch one day we were walking back and she mentioned that she doesn't see many movies but "that one looked good" (as we passed a movie theater). Stupidly, (I'm bad at taking hints if that was even a hint?) I said it got bad reviews :( That's why I asked her a couple days later to see it w/ me....</p>