An awful guidance situation...

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<p>So yesterday I drop off all of my applications to my guidance counselor for RD, in a neat little folder with a list of common and non-common applications and when they are due and what i need for each, etc. etc.</p>

<p>Now keep in mind this is a large school where most kids throw their applications on their GC desks on January 1st. So I give them a month of early notice, and figure all is well.</p>

<p>Well today, I go to guidance because my teacher wanted to know why a certain teacher wasnt given a common app form. So I explained to her that the certain teacher's rec was only needed for one application that required a math/sci one, and that i had already filed that application. So she goes over to the lady who puts it all together and sends it all out and tells her, to which she replies "I don't really care, it's all out anyways." So I start walking down the hall and realize that I don't know what she is talking about, as my teachers have never given their recommendation to the guidance office so its impossible. So I walked over to the lady and kindly said "I just wanted to clear something up, I don't need the rec from Teacher X at any of my schools" </p>

<p>And literally, she goes on a tirade...</p>

<p>"I'm sick of your face, I don't want to talk to you anymore. You have already had me filling 8 envelopes for your colleges, and I don't want to see you anymore, I just don't. The envelopes are sealed, and I'm not changing them and I'm not re-doing them."</p>

<p>So I once again, kindly stated "Well the thing is that I don't want to burden the admissions committee with all these extra recommendations, especially an extra recommendation from someone who doesn't know me all that well and I just needed because he was a science teacher. I'm really sorry about all this, I just don't want the letter in my file, because if they read only 2, they might not read one of the letters that I actually WANT them to. I'm really really sorry, but I just didn't realize it would automatically be sent out."</p>

<p>To which she replies "I don't really care what you did or didn't realize, its done and maybe you should try and figure this all out before you hand me the applications."</p>

<p>Isn't she sweet?? Honestly, who speaks to a student like that. I am the kid who made their lives SO easy, and did my best to get apps in early, and this is how they treat me. So I come home, totally upset that this woman could be so rude to me, and now I want to scream.</p>

<p>What should I do? Go talk to her? Have my mom call?</p>

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<p>wow...you were a lot nicer than I would've been, heh. I'd definitely say let your parent(s) take care of this one. There's no excuse for an adult (especially a faculty member) speaking to a student like that. That's ridiculous. That sucks that you had to go through that, ilcapo. But yeah, let your mother have a word or two with her ;)</p>

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<p>yeah I agree.. let your parents handle it.. no reason to screw yourself over by flipping out at faculty</p>

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<p>umm i think u should talk to a principal or some person that has higher authority than she does...ur school definitely works much different than mine. We give all our recommendations to the teachers and they fill it out themselves. and then guidance, our counselor does it. weird...have ur parents handle it and she should NOT be that rude. what you should do is try to remember everythign she said and write it down as in what was said in the conversation. take that to the principal. maybe she can get fired :-) she shouldnt be working there. she is of no help</p>

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<p>maybe she's right. maybe you have been bugging her.</p>

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<p>ive only been to my college guidance center 2 times in my life!</p>

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<p>hahaha. maybe it was something about your face. or MAYBE she had terrible gas. and so it wasn't your fault.</p>

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<p>hahah bite me</p>

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<p>on a more serious note, yeah you should probably get some parent involved.
and dont forget the pepto bismol</p>

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<p>i feel so sorry for you, i had a similar situation this year at my school (but not with college admissions), i was gonna get my parents involved but then the administration called me down from one of my classes to talk to them and explained that they were sorry adn that they were the ones at fault, give it a day or two, then if nothing happens, get someone else involved, plus maybe that lady crashed her car on the way to school that day and was really ****ed, but before you get your parents involved maybe try one more time asking her again to rectify it, if they weren't sent out already, good luck, you'll probably need it :(</p>

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<p>Just a message from a Mom. this is why you always have to be open and honest with your parents. Because when you really need them to go to bat for you for important issues, you better have the credibility to back you up.</p>

<p>If this lady did treat you like this and it wasn't resolved in an appropriate manner, then yes, get your parents involved. This is one of the few times you should go for the big guns. This isn't over whether someone looked at your cross-eyed. This involves your college career and perhaps the rest of your life. Get it straightened out ASAP!!!!!!!!!</p>

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<p>The secretary in my guidance office is like that. She doesn't care about anyone. I handed in my ED app to the GC a month early and they sent it two days before the deadline. wtf. and now because of it the school got it with a billion other apps and I've yet to receive stuff like my confirmation of a completed app, and my online login info.</p>