<p>so people here got rejection letters today too?</p>
<p>No package, aww. :(</p>
<p>CollegeCookie, I have absolutely no reason to be “Jealous” of RadDAD75. Both Andover and Exeter have many brilliant students who are also extremely accomplished in other arenas.</p>
<p>If you look at his posts in the other threads, you will start getting the entire picture. What the hell is the “Stephen c. Sherrill award”- see post #142 in this thread. This is what has led many on CC to label him a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>@RADDAD if you’re a real person, your post on getting an award was terribly bad timing - as was the wording. We had a post asking parents and students to be sensitive. I wish you had shown more humility. I don’t condone the student who posted after you, but understand what caused the outburst.</p>
<p>We all congratulate students who get into schools, and console those who did not. But bragging and giving out names of awards and scores not only makes you identifiable, but isn’t in the spirit of the school that awarded it. And the “96” score isn’t “really well” it’s pretty average given the applicant pool. You’ll learn real quick in BS that discretion and “timing” of announcements is often a virtue.</p>
<p>^^ I agree with the above post by exieMITAlum. </p>
<p>I just logged back on and see RadDad’s posts on several different threads, and I am appalled to see that a future BS parent is being so boastful about his own child’s success, while meanwhile many other people (particularly children) are feeling very discouraged and possibly heartbroken by today’s news. Sure, it’s fine to be proud of your own child but please be mindful of all of the other children on this board who really are just as wonderful and smart as your kid, but who might have received less than wonderful news. </p>
<p>What kind of parent behaves this way? I haven’t even seen any of the students on this board behave in this manner. Sure, many are happy to get an acceptance and they report their good news if they receive it, but even the adolescents know when to keep their exuberance relatively contained and to be humble…at least for a few days until the dust settles anyway.</p>
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<p>RadDAD: I sincerely apologize for being so hostile and crude. It really wasn’t necessary and I could have expressed my feelings in a more civilized and considerate manner. However, what I said, was in response to the fact that I felt that you were being condescending, not only in this thread, but in others as well. In case you didn’t know, I’ve been rejected at the majority of my schools (I haven’t heard back from the others). I just think that at a time like this, it is important to be considerate and sensitive to other’s feelings.</p>
<p>Congratulations to your son.</p>
<p>Has anyone outside MA and CT states received Andover Fedex package today? Thanks!</p>
<p>Hcbrunswickmom, I’m in NJ and did not get anything from Andover</p>
<p>@starkali: I understand you’re fustration. I myself was all rejections last year, and I remember feeling quite irritable with all of tales of success floating around last year. Just remember to keep hope with your remaining options! And even if they’re not what you wished, you can still take pride in the fact that you are one of the best students in your current school! These schools are COLLEGE prep, so college is the ultimate goal. Don’t let a stupid piece of paper made up by strangers keep you down. You know who you are.</p>
<p>Honeybee63- yes. Someone’s going to have a hard time finding anyone to stand with on the sidelines or sit with in the bleachers LOL.</p>
<p>Ok so I am back on after a day with the family. I did not say one condescending thing on any blog. I even sent starkali a personal message apologizing to her for being a bit insensitive. One thing I wont do is bow my head on a day that I am extremely proud of my child. FYI no need to live through my child because I am an IVY grad that went to Public School, and lead my son by example. Once again, I agree with exieMITalum I could have waited a few days to post. This place is supposed to be where parents and applicants share information not bash each other. If you are so upset about unfortunately not making it into the most selective BS in the country you should stay off pages regarding acceptance to those schools. This isn’t for anyone in particular, but for anyone that should accuse me of trolling or being a rude or insensitive person. THIS IS A BIG DEAL FOR MY CHILD AND MY FAMILY. I am extremely proud and not embarrassed about my pride. Also for those who are throwing stones about athletics save your pebbles. It’s not that serious, but know that he is nationally ranked in his sport within his graduation year. Not because of me living vicariously through him, but for him busting his behind doing what it takes to get where he is now. Some of you people are sad and should be embarrassed. I can take criticism where I am wrong, but the hate is so unfounded.</p>
<p>I don’t know about the hate being “unfounded.” In life when people are boastful, insensitive to the feelings of others (particularly when an adult is to children), are telling the details of infomation that makes it clear the rules have been broken to a group of people all following the rules…generally, people who behave that way will find a whole lot of hate heading in their direction.</p>
<p>@RadDAD75: I have been watching these results all day even though we have no skin in the game this year. Many of us have been pulling for this group of kids for months, and we feel vested in their outcomes. CC is a community, quirky and combative at times, but today, of all days, is the day we all pull together and wish for positive outcomes for all of our kids. Sensitivity is key, but youve jumped in as a newcomer on this most critical day and are really striking a sour chord, making yourself an outcast in our family. @GMTPlus7 was generous with only calling you tone deaf. (BTW, beautifully said GMT; sorry it got removed).</p>
<p>If you really want to continue to post here as a serious contributor, I would suggest you spend time reading through the archives. Go back a few months and get to know these kids and their stories which will hopefully help you see how inappropriate your initial post was, not to mention your continuing defense. Then, if the history here can teach you anything about what it means to be a member of this forum, I would suggest you shed your damaged name and reappear as a humbler, more thoughtful voice.</p>
<p>I can accept constructive criticism Choatiemom.</p>
<p>I agree with Choatie Mom (and GMT, good for you for airing what everyone else was thinking, even if it got deleted). The problem, I think, comes from misunderstanding the evolved purpose of these boards, which is much more to ask questions and seek support than to celebrate in the endzone. This is one reason the Chances board is separate from the others–most people who have been here for a while simply don’t see much value in people listing their accomplishments, and appreciate having those posts in a place where we don’t need to wade through them. </p>
<p>The other crucial piece to understand here is that there are many many kids on this board who are as talented as yours, RadDAD, who aren’t getting into all those schools because they need significant financial aid, or there were just too many Asian girls applying, or a myriad of other reasons completely out of their control. It’s never as simple as, “Well, my kid is simply the best one out there and why don’t you dolts realize it?” which is how your posts, more or less, sound, whether you intended that or not. Your kid is clearly talented as are you; without knowing anything much about your family, I suspect your kid is also blessed in a number of ways that other talented kids, because of the circumstances of their birth or upbringing are not. So, yeah, a little humility goes a long way around here. </p>
<p>On most discussion boards, it’s useful to skulk for a month or two to figure out what they’re all about. One thing you’ll find here, if you stick around, is that we do work through our differences and forgive and forget…</p>
<p>I think people are being way too hard on RadDAD75. I also went back and reread a lot of his posts and I don’t agree at all that he is boastful, hateful, or whatever other adjectives have apparently been deleted by the moderator, thank heaven.</p>
<p>Like RadDAD75, I did not realize there are all sorts of unwritten rules and I have accessed this site many times during our BS journey, although I only recently joined and posted. I don’t expect to post much more because of all the negativity I’m seeing and a sense that I better watch what I say, and I don’t mean that in a good way.</p>
<p>I originally thought this site was informative. Now I think it’s a clique.</p>
<p>alooknac: Since you haven’t read the deleted thread, you don’t have a full picture. People aren’t being cliqueish–though all good discussion boards definitely develop a certain character–some of those who have posted above are new members like you. It’s not about rules; we simply like all the kids who post here, and we want them all to achieve their dreams, which right now, are mostly centered on boarding school. It’s sad to see kids and parents who have been posting for months get disappointed, and it’s just that we know what a stab to the heart it is every time someone else posts with their good news. It’s not negativity, but empathy for those who are feeling lousy right now that prompts the admonition to put kindness over celebration.</p>
<p>In my evening meditation I encountered this thought and will share it here: “Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity to heal”. I’m sure everyone has the children’s best interests at heart, and that may not always show up in ways we choose. For myself, I will work harder to model kindness and good will. There appears to be a great deal of valuable collective wisdom here in this group, and sane voices well worth listening to.</p>
<p>I am an international applicant, who got in (yay, checked online) and PA sent me an email saying that they mailed my package on the 10th.</p>