Any tips for getting more of a social life!???

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<p>I'm usually shy at first when I meet people so it takes me a while to feel comfortable and open up to new people. </p>

<p>I'm in my 2nd semester at a community college and none of my high school friends go there, the majority of people went to another one that we call high school part 2. I've only seen about 10 familar faces that went to my high school but I just never got along with any of them so I won't force a smile just to avoid being alone.</p>

<p>So anyways i've had to make new friends and I find it so hard. Like I talk to some people in class but we're not close, its more of an aquaintence. Then last semester I thought I made some friends but it turns out they were just talking to me because we had that class. I saw some this semester and I said hi but two of the girls completely ignored me! Later when one was alone she said hi and I just knew she was being fake so now I don't even try making friends because I feel like they'll be fake like those girls.</p>

<p>I find it even harder to make female friends, I never had that problem before college. Guys are easier to talk to but I tend to get attached and one of us usually ends up liking the other more than a friend so our friendship never lasts.</p>

<p>I just feel like I can't trust anyone and what's even worse is that I'm starting to have self esteem issues! I haven't had that, problem in a few years. I start to think something is wrong with me since I can't make real lasting friends. I even shrug off people who are friendly and try to become my friend because I feel they have ulterior motives and are pretending so that they can use me or they only talk to me to kill time.</p>

<p>I actually found out a few months that some of my high school friends turned out to be fake friends and I feel so dumb for not realizing it til now. When I think back to how some treated me it was so obvious that they were not a true friend.
And of the few I still keep in contact with I can't hang out with or talk to regularly because they're just as busy as me with studying and school work.</p>

<p>FYI I do not have a boyfriend so please don't suggest being with him and his friends. I need to work on my own social life and esteem before i'm ready for a man in my life haha </p>

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<p>JOIN A SORORITY =) But really, I’m going to college 1,500 miles from where I grew up, and literally within the 1st month I felt right at home with these girls</p>

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<p>Are their any activities on your CC that you can participate in and join? Hiking club? Service club? Church group? Professional interest group? That would be a good place to meet people. Try just smiling and talking to people and not over-analyzing relationships. Some just start as acquaintances and just remain that way. Some develop into more lasting friendships. What about forming a study group with some of the kids from one or your classes, so you can review material you learned and prepare for exams? That is another way to get to know people a bit better. You can meet for pizza, coffee, a sandwich or whatever so it’s more casual. I find that food is a good way to chat with others–gives everyone something to do and people are more relaxed when they can eat. :)</p>

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<p>Also maybe start a study group with people from your class and maybe it will turn into friendship?</p>

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<p>Thanks but my campus is pretty dead with activities, we don’t even have sports! It’s definitely a commuter school.
I guess I should be happy enough with acquaintances</p>