<p>So I started my first semester of college in the fall of 2013. I go to a fairly large public university about 45 minutes away from my home, and I do live on campus.
I never really found a group of friends in high school, I was always kinda in between groups, and thus felt kinda lonely. I sometimes felt like I tried too hard to make friends in high school, but in any case, I did find a few decent people to hang out with.
However, in college, I wanted a solid foundation of people to hang out with, like a good group to grab dinner with, go party with, etc.
Unfortunately, I think I met all the wrong kinds of people. The people that I ended up hanging out with, I found out were quite dramatic and were pretty judgmental. I want to try and branch out this next semester, but I'm not really sure how to. I just feel like I haven't really found a "good" friend yet, someone that I can actually talk to without judgment.
I just feel like my semester has not been very good, and to top it all off, I had problems with my roommate as well.
Please tell me I'm not the only one who's having a bit of a hard time.</p>
<p>You’re not the only one going through this! I am as well. In high school I knew most the people in my class since elementary school. But I had only 1 “true friend” out of all of them. And I only started hanging out with her for the last 2yrs of high school. I think me and you both went into college with our expectations too high. I expected to find the same awesome tight group of friends my first semester just like my older sister did in her college days. Boy did that not happen lol. My semester wasn’t good. But it wasn’t terrible. I think you need to look at how you can improve your social life this coming semester. (Which is what I’m doing.) people say college is what you make of it. Which is true I think. I don’t know about you but I really don’t want to spend another semester alone in my dorm most of the time watching YouTube videos :)</p>
<p>Yeah, my first semester wasn’t exactly what I expected. I’ve met a lot of cool people, but none that I feel a real connection to. I am also having roommate problems, to the extent that I’m most likely getting a single next year. I watched more netflix than I even thought possible during the first semester, but it was mostly because the friends I made I didn’t really like. I think I expected, like you, to find a tight knit group of friends just like my ones from high school. I even considered switching schools, but I decided that I just wasn’t trying hard enough to find people with similar interests. I’m not really sure how to branch out either, but I’m going to try to be more open to having conversations with people I don’t know. If you think about it, every relationship you have has started with a simple hello. Overall, you’re not alone, and I bet there are people right on your campus who feel the same way :)</p>
<p>I know those feels. I had roommate problems, and since I lived in a house with fifteen other people I felt very isolated whenever I came home. When you get into your Major classes and start seeing the same people almost every day you start talking more to them and eventually form closer friendships over shared interests. If that person has friends with the same interests you may find yourself in a group of friends very quickly. The advantage of high school was that you saw the same people every single day, so you were forced to interact with them more. </p>
<p>I know I sound like every advice giver but have you joined any clubs? You won’t be friends with everybody in a club, but it will allow you to talks with people with the same interests. Out of twenty people maybe one person can become a really good friend. If that’s not the case then you’ll at spend time with friendly people who are on the same page as you.</p>
<p>Making good friends takes more than one semester for most people, I think (I just finished my fourth semester and finally found a group of close friends.) Keep your spirits high and try to be social.</p>
<p>I kind of felt the same way this semester, and I feel like the upcoming semester won’t be any different. The only “friends” I had were my roommates, and besides them I really didn’t interact with anyone. I should try to interact with my fellow classmates next semester but after looking at two out of four of my classes syllabi plus working part-time, I don’t believe that I’ll have anytime to try to socialize much.</p>
<p>I feel the same way, but I go to a community college… Nobody is willing to expand their social circles it seems, they just come to class and go home. I’m honestly really looking forward to this semester though… New classes means meeting new people and hopefully I will find some social circle. Getting comfortable got me nowhere it seems, about half way through the last semester I was like “screw this, nobody is interested in socializing so I won’t even try”. I didnt do crap this winter break.</p>
<p>And my CC has no good clubs</p>
<p>In the same boat as Numbersz. People are willing to make friends, but it’s definitely a lot harder than it was in high school. And the choice of clubs is very scarce. But no point in being cynical. Likewise I am looking forward to next semester.</p>
<p>@Numbersz & StaticRoar that’s community college for you. I noticed that when I was at CC, majority of the students only wanted to go to class and go home when it was over with. When you guys get to an actual university that may change.</p>
<p>My second quarter is turning into a lonely time. I had friends the first time, but they’re all busy with internships and a completely different schedule. Three days a week I leave after class to avoid traffic and two days of the week I only have a one hour lunch break in between classes, which has turned into a review session for one of my classes. So I have no time at all for anything but school on those two days.</p>
<p>Wow, I’m weirdly glad that I’m not the only one who had a bit of an ehh experience! I talked to a lot of high school friends over winter break, and they were also telling me similar stories, they weren’t crazy about their first semester too. It’s good to know that we’re not alone in this! I’m definetly gonna join more clubs this semester, and try and talk to more people as well. Ahh I move back into my dorm today, so here goes!</p>