<p>lilhammygrl - a better regarded public vs 50 thou for an OK private -
yep! you had to speak up there! doubt vs dreams there doesnt work!
but i would try to hear what the pro/cons are from kids point of view... which you no doubt (haha) have!</p>
<p>she feels that the private school would be easier academically and closer to home.
she also feels that the parents should pay (and we can) so the financial aspect does not worry her</p>
<p>I did say that it was okay to talk about money, a tough subject, but a very valid one</p>
<p>Money, all cards should be on the table, and child should understand all the ramifications </p>
<p>And lilhammygirl...I think you need to have a serious discussion about the purpose of college and what you D wants out of it...seems like she is going for safe, but expensive!!</p>
<p>With all things being equal, we as parents need to let go, but when it comes to our pocket book, we need to speak up</p>
<p>My daughter says the private school will allow an easier transition into their graduate programs. Her friend recently graduated from the public with a 3.1 gpa but was denied admission while another friend who attended the private and graduated with a similar gpa did get in.</p>
<p>lilham:</p>
<p>Who is going to pay for d's grad school? Does she expect you to pay for that, too? I never like to hear that kids "expect" parents to pay for things once they are adults.</p>
<p>lilham, it sounds like a tough decision, but at this point, you have to go w/ the gut feeling, as i'm guessing that neither school is/was a bad choice or they wouldn't have been on the list. maybe if allowed to go to the more expensive school your D could find a scholarship or summer job!? she's already thinking of graduate school, so i'm guessing she's probably a pretty smart gal! good luck to you!</p>