Any advice for falling out of love with a school?? I’ve been “in love” with a school that has an under 7% acceptance rate all throughout this year, and no, it’s not because of prestige or job prospects, it’s just a place I think I would be really happy, but no one has a chance of getting in there. How did you guys train yourselves out of that incredibly unhealthy “love” mindset? What are your experiences with this?
Yes, I have 2 schools where I would absolutely love to attend. I would also love a Lamborghini but it’s not a smart decision or most practical. You’ve been smart to this point in making decisions so don’t throw it out the window and make an emotional choice now.
Don’t give your heart away easily. Love lots of schools and envision yourself at a number of places. They are all great opportunities. Finally, fall in love with the school that falls in love with you! The other one was nice, but there are many great ones!
Start focusing on other schools. Visit, read about them in Fiske, run calculators. Your goal is to build a list of matches and safeties to go along with your reaches that you would be happy to attend and can afford.
Plus, your “dream school” might not turn out to be a dream. You might not get in, it might not be affordable, you might change your mind on major & location before May 1, or a longer visit for accepted student days might change your mind. My D2 turned down both her early two top choices for a 3rd school after accepted student visits. Keep an open mind.
Try to figure out why you love that school and if you can find the same characteristics in other more realistic schools as well
no and you’re asking for trouble by doing so
Ha, I have, which wasn’t good when it was my KID making the decision! 
Really bad idea to fall in love with a reach school. I have friends who have taken their kids to only visit reaches and now the kids are having a hard time considering other schools. Why would anyone want to set themselves up for the (big) possibility of disappointment? That is no way to start college. We’ve decided to only visit matches and safeties so our kids have a chance to find places they know they like and will get in. Most highly selective schools do not track interest so they don’t care if you visit.