<p>So you're saying that you did have lots of sex, just not in band camp, since your school didn't have one.</p>
<p>i'm pretty apathetic to "love" at the moment. dating seems like a waste of time IMO</p>
<p>dating is a good way to meet physical and emotional needs. Ofcourse if you're unsure about your gender you're probably a robot and don't have them.</p>
<p>Marriage isn't for everyone. So, if you don't want to get married, don't.</p>
<p>My philosophy: if you do decide to date and have sex, just wear rubber. And after you've done the deed, get a STD test and pray. If you're clean, then select the next victim!</p>
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<p>I'm having trouble finding out how I implied that anywhere in my post.</p>
<p>And no, I've never had any sex, anywhere.</p>
<p>i'm a male and i'm not anti-marriage, kthanks</p>
<p>MightyNick is clearly trolling you guys. If he's not, then god help him.</p>
<p>If you are serious, Nick, I should tell you that it's never a good idea to throw around such derogatory words so freely. There is no reason why you should show such disrespect to the women on this forum.</p>
<p>There are pros and cons to every type of sexual relationship. It's really just a matter of where you feel most comfortable. Sometimes that opinion changes over time, or may change with new circumstances. I don't think there's anything wrong with any type of sexual relationship out there as long as all involved are on the same page. If people want to have sex for sex and nothing more, why not? If they only want sex in relationships/marriage? Sure. As long as people are responsible about it and don't go spreading diseases everywhere like mad, how someone chooses to sexually engage others is entirely up to them and is entirely fine.</p>
<p>On a personal note, I see nothing wrong with sex before marriage. To me, sex is pretty important -- not the most important, by any means, but it provides a certain type of intimacy and interaction that other activities don't provide in the same way. And, good sex can definitely help augment other facets of a relationship. If I waited until marriage and found out the woman I married was not sexually compatible with me, it'd likely cause problems. But, again, that's because I'm a sexual person. You may not be, and that's okay. If you want to wait, then you can wait. But I don't think it's right to pass judgment on others for having different priorities and viewpoints, and calling people names is just childish.</p>
<p>^^you took the words right out of my mouth.</p>
<p>Errrr about the benefits of marriage, even though that was mentioned a while back...</p>
<p>According to the TIME magazine, men benefit far more from marriage than women do. Just an interesting tidbit I thought was worth sharing.</p>
<p>Also, on high divorce rates...is it really that bad that divorce rates are so much higher? Maybe this means that people are finally learning to live for themselves, rather than do things because it is expected of them (like staying in a crappy marriage for the sake of pleasing society).</p>
<p>High divorce rates are caused by many reasons that I can't think of right now. Divorce due to abuse or the lack of connection through years of counseling is understandable, but I just don't think people have commitment. They see marriage as a one stage process instead of several.</p>
<p>agree with catsushi.</p>
<p>I'm not enjoying the "hook-up" culture either. It's like I'm expected to sleep with anyone and everyone I meet... and I get strange looks when I'm like "back off, I'm not sleeping with you or anyone else for that matter" when guys try to hook up with me. Is it so wrong that I don't feel the need to sleep with people that I've only known for 6 or so weeks? I think not! But they think I'm crazy... The hooking up runs absolutely ramped at my school. I bet there are more STDs circulating in there than in half the country -- combined.</p>
<p>how did Time magazine come to the conclusion that men benefit far more from marriage than do women? </p>
<p>I only ask because 1) you didn't explain why and 2) you're a female.</p>
<p>yeah, what the hell? lol the guys get screwed over in every way possible come divorce time. Marriage doesn't really benefit men at all except the tax breaks (I think) that both parties share.</p>
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<p>I only ask because 1) you didn't explain why and 2) you're a female.
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<p>I tried to find the article online but I could not. :( Well the reasoning behind the article was that men in marriage are generally less likely to smoke, drink, and eat more healthy meals. I think this goes with the assumption that bachelors live off of microwave dinners and beer.</p>
<p>Oh and if I can change my wording, I wouldn't say that men benefit "far more" in marriage, but do more so than women.</p>
<p>I have been a silent reader of this site for a while now, but this thread interested me enough to register and reply. </p>
<p>I don't know any of you, or have any dislikes for anyone here, well there is one but i just think he is a jerk... anyway! I think that this argument is one we are never going to be able to resolve. I myself am against pre-marital sex, thats just a personal choice. But I don't have any harsh feelings towards the decisions of others. So in that regard I think the way that Nick has been acting is extremely immature and the wrong way to handle this whole discussion. And I agree with his concept of waiting until marriage- but to be blunt, he is just being an a**. </p>
<p>People are going to make their own choices, some people are perfectly fine with having casual sex. Whatever, it's there life. And I think the purpose of this thread was lost. Instead of people just answering the posted question, it became a war Nick vs. well, everyone else it seems. </p>
<p>So i guess the conclusion to this very long first post was is two things:</p>
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<li><p>Nick stop being such a smart ass, you may not agree with others participating in premarital sex, heck i dont even agree with it! But by you outrageously calling people whores for sleeping with their long term boyfriend, and calling everyone immoral- just makes everyone mad! And you give those of us who are at peace with other people MAKING THEIR OWN CHOICES with THEIR OWN LIFE but still believe in abstinence till marriage, look like fools. Grow up, state your opinion in a fair manor and leave it alone! </p></li>
<li><p>I want to praise cameliasinensis for taking all his crap. There is nothing wrong with the choices you make in your sex-life, you aren't a whore, and you handled this weird discussion in a respectable manor. </p></li>
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<p>Alright well that was extremely long, sorry bout that... but Nick just ****ed me off. If you wanna have sex go have some f-ing sex! If not, then dont!</p>
<p>^^Nicely said.</p>
<p>i'm not going to read this whole thread.</p>
<p>but honestly, it's human nature, especially at the college age, to have natural attractions for others. so if people are hooking up, so what? sure, there are times when it gets a bit far, but then you don't have to be around it, right?</p>
<p>secondly, there is only one life. i'm a firm believer that everything must be done with a sense of purpose, including your romantic involvements. you make hook up with someone, and it doesnt make you a better or worse person. it's frankly an experience. sure, if you get a reputation for constantly doing it, then that's another thing....</p>
<p>Do what you think is right, don't let worries about reputation control what you do. People get wwaaaaaaaay too obssessed with image and what people think...it doesnt matterthat much...</p>
<p>Men that are married tend to live longer than their unmarried counterparts. So in that sense, it does benefit them more than the women to which they're married.</p>