<p>there's a girl in one of my classes which only meets up 2 days a week unfortunately. there has been 2 classes so far and i find her attractive. she has a friend (girl) in the class that she talks to a lot so thats making it difficult for me to actually talk to her. it would be much easier if her friend wasnt there because they seem like close friends.</p>
<p>anyways ive never approached a random girl before or anything like that... i need some proven ways to break the ice</p>
<p>are there ANY girls on this forum that can comment on some of these approaches?</p>
<p>I’m just one girl, so this only really applies to me (and I’m a nerdy girl), but here goes nothing:</p>
<p>Good Approaches
Sit nearby, and if we’re talking really loud and ask about something (“I wish I knew when that test was going to be!” or “Was I really the only one who saw the finale of Desperate Housewives?!”), use it to pitch something into the conversation. Works best if you can pull of casual and nice without overly needy or creepy.
Invite me to a study group.
Figure out my interests and once you notice one we have in common, slip it in somewhere. (Wearing a shirt with my favorite band? Talking to another friend near me about my favorite TV show?)
Just approaching. I prefer shy people to some degree, so I think it’s sort of cute when someone struggles a little trying to get me away from a friend to invite me out for lunch or whatever. This is one of those times that you just have to know what she’s like.
Smiling.
Asking a question. (Liked this from the other thread, like asking where a building is or if I know a good bookstore nearby or something.)</p>
<p>Bad Approaches:
“Hey, you look hot today.” (Unless I know you, it’s odd.)
Anything that’s overly self-conscious.
Unlike the above, totally obvious questions made just to get my attention. (“Hey, where’s room 453? What, we’re in it?!?!”)</p>
<p>I could go on and on about these, but there’s some general ideas. It depends on the girl and you a lot of the time.</p>
<p>Just act… normal. Try to use some AtomicCafe’s suggestions, but if she gives a short answer or goes back to talking with her friend, just go back to whatever you’re doing or do something else. Don’t act frazzled and off-balance because the conversation might’ve gone differently than you imagined. If you do, you will definitely look like you’re trying too hard.</p>
<p>i just realized another problem is finding the right time to approach and speak to her… the class is a lecture class and the professor is talking pretty much throughout the entire class</p>
<p>Well, you should probably follow her out of the class. Grab her ass and then say “Oh I am so sorry. Oh I have made such a mistake, oh my.” in a british accent.</p>
<p>bump into her on “accident”….tell her you are terribly sorry and you have to make it up to her by taking her to lunch…and that you wont take no for an answer.</p>
<p>LMAO!
ar31791’s response literally made me laugh out loud. </p>
<p>but the responses given by atomiccafe are great. i’m a female, and i noticed that in class i usually talk to those who are near by. so that’s a good way to start, just try your best to sit near this girl. also, did you notice how in class students sometimes make completely random comments to people they don’t know? like, maybe the teacher will say something weird and then a student next to you will just comment to you on that? well, try doing something like that. just make comments about what you hear or what’s going on and direct them to her.</p>
<p>be active in class - ask lots of questions in public to the professor - always do all the readings - that will impress her - she will come to you man!</p>
<p>I never (to this day) understood this whole thing with guys and “approaches”. Isn’t it so awkward? At least with the various girls I’ve been with, they think it’s the absolute creepiest and weirdest thing. They DON’T want to be PURSUED, they want to PURSUE. </p>
<p>Why not, instead of approaching girls, think about ways to avoid them? That’s what I do, and it seems the more you leave them alone/“run” from them, the more and faster they come to you. </p>
<p>It’s no wonder women think guys are such wussies.
GET A NEW MENTALITY towards relationships. k thnx :)</p>
<p>“I never (to this day) understood this whole thing with guys and “approaches”. Isn’t it so awkward?”</p>
<p>No its only awkward if you are awkward.</p>
<p>“Why not, instead of approaching girls, think about ways to avoid them?”</p>
<p>Avoiding girls will not bring more girls into your life, sorry. But it is important to have your own stuff going on aside from them, maybe thats what you meant.</p>
<p>i guess i need to somehow get a seat next to her… both seats left and right of her are usually taken… i can either sit diagonal (seat behind the seat to her right), directly behind, or directly in front… which seat is the best option for conversation lol</p>
<p>The seat to the left or right of her would be best…that would just seem awkward leaning in from behind her to make a stupid comment about lecture. (It would also seem like you’re trying to get her attention because you’re going out of your way to talk to her instead of the people next to you.) Just my 2 cents.</p>