<p>In college, you meet a lot of girls. Let's say you see a pretty, cute, down to earth looking girl maybe in one of your classes or in your residence buildings where you live. Will you check her out but not talk to her or will you go up and try to make conversation?</p>
<p>Does it make it easier for guys if the girl has a smile on her face or will you still not talk to her.</p>
<p>I know it said "question for guys" and I'm a girl.. but I couldn't help myself.</p>
<p>Just talk to her for petes sake. Grab a seat next to her one day in class and strike up a conversation. See if she at least fains interest or brushes you off completely. What've you got to loose? Is she going to spread rumors about what a looser you are to all her friends? pfff.. This isn't high school. If she brushes you off completely, then you probably won't see her again after the class is over anyway, and until then you can just sit in a different part of the room - no big deal.</p>
<p>haha im a girl. im wondering just the guys point of view... like what they usually do when they see a cute girl. would they be too scared to talk to her... does it help if she's the smiling kind.</p>
<p>Smiles definitely help. A lot. Good looking girls can be intimidating. It's a hundred times easier to start talking to a girl who's made eye contact and smiled at you than one who's given no indication she even knows you're in the room.</p>
<p>Beyond that, it depends on the situation. At a party with some booze in me, I'm suddenly a lot bolder. :)</p>
<p>No, we prefer the super-Catholic nuns. Chastity is pretty big turnon for most guys.</p>
<p>I'm usually too intimidated by attractive women to actually go up and make conversation. Basically, if I'm ever talking to one, it's either because a) We happen to have mutual friends, or B) Some other outside circumstance demands it (ie lab).</p>
<p>It all depends on you. Just go and say "Hi, how are you?"</p>
<p>bump bump bump</p>
<p>I will normally go up and talk to a girl ... a smile always helps. It is harder to approach a group of girls that you dont know than just one (at least for me). Also, guys normally like it if a girl approaches them and says hey... take the first step sometimes ladies! its a nice change of pace!</p>
<p>I won't approach a girl that isn't paying me any mind... that's too awkward. If she looks my way once or twice though, and especially if she smiles at me, then I would definitely make my way over eventually. Looking approachable goes a long, long way.</p>
<p>I'll check her out and then probably forget about it. I'm just shy in general.</p>
<p>Unless I have an excuse to talk to her, I probably won't ever talk to her. I feel awkward just striking up a conversation with a random stranger (this is mainly due to my anti-social nature).</p>
<p>I'm not the type to feel awkward during stuff like that, or at least I don't have the presence of mind to notice when something's awkward, so I'll prb just go sit next to her, say something funny, and then just go from there. If she likes my off beat sense of humor, great, if not, **** her. Just kidding on that last part, well, sort of.</p>
<p>Yeah. How else would I have a chance to bang her?</p>
<p>the reason i made this thread is because a lot of my friends and people i know tell me I'm pretty and are surprised when i tell them that guys don't come up to me. maybe it's bc i look unfriendly and i should be more smiling. i see guys staring at me a lot of times but it just makes me feel incomfortable.. the stares i mean. they don't come up to talk to me. what does that mean?</p>
<p>that your probobly pretty hot</p>
<p>haha yup... hey give em a smile and if the guy sparks your interest from across the room nothin says that YOU cant go up and say hey to em.</p>
<p>I would agree from what you've said, it sounds like guys find you unapproachable. How do most people respond to you (i.e., strangers in general)?
Approachability is more of an attitude than it is about looks. One girl I know is absolutely stunning and works for Disney as a main character, but she is extremely approachable because she smiles a lot and invites others to get to know her. She doesn't offer every little bit about herself but does do her best to listen to others, approach people, and flirts <em>mildly</em> and gently. Overall, she has a personality, which means she attracts a lot of people and is extremely likable.</p>
<p>Smiling will certainly be effective for you. Beyond that, who do you want to attract? The loud guys? The quiet guys? For more outgoing types, you might engage a lot of people in conversation and show that you are outgoing yourself, but above all, be approachable! Don't engage other guys you're not interested in in conversation too much or you'll be likely to push the right guy(s) away.
If you're going for a quiet guy, you might need to a bit more obvious that you like him <em>and</em> be somewhat more reserved yourself. If you're all over him, trying to break him out of his shell, you might find yourself even less approachable.</p>
<p>Finally, if you're getting stares from guys and they make you uncomfortable, I'd like to suggest a couple of things...
1) that's not right for them to be "checking you out" all the time--yeah, we do it, but you're a human being, not a piece of artwork or meat!
2) in reference to #1, you might check what you're wearing.... if you're getting stares from a lot of guys who don't seem to be really interested, it might actually not be the kind of attraction you want... You want to be liked for WHO you are right? ...And NOT WHAT you are?</p>
<p>Maybe you have a booger hanging out your nose.</p>
<p>apumic you're sorta right now that I think about it. I guess I can be unapproachable. it's just that I gotten to being like that b/c I want to ward of the majority of the people that stare at me. But then once in a while I'll get a guy that I want to get to know but I'm already in my mode of keeping them away... so I guess I end up doing that.</p>
<p>any tips to look more approachable. I want to attract just laid back decent guys. I don't have a type really.</p>
<p>"the reason i made this thread is because a lot of my friends and people i know tell me I'm pretty and are surprised when i tell them that guys don't come up to me. maybe it's bc i look unfriendly and i should be more smiling. i see guys staring at me a lot of times but it just makes me feel incomfortable.. the stares i mean. they don't come up to talk to me. what does that mean?"</p>
<p>Ah, at least I'm not the only one. I know guys find me attractive (the stares, the stalkers..), but guys rarely have the guts to speak to me. I try to smile and be approachable. I'm not super social though. I'm really not that picky, I mean, I was single for 4 years simply because nobody asked me out. In high school I dated the school nerd because he was the only one that ever asked me to be his date for a dance. If a guy asks me out then I'll at least go on the first date & see how it goes. I finally got a boyfriend though, he not only had the guts to talk to me, but he actually flirted too. So yeah.. that's why I suggested in my first post in this thread to just talk to the girl. Don't assume she's taken, I know many many many attractive women who have been single for a long time.</p>