<p>Yes. Not that different from straight male/female friendships.</p>
<p>I think it's harder for guys because they think that they will be seen as gay, and there are a lot of homophobic guys. All the homophobes I know are males with too much testosterone. Also (warning- this is a stereotype!) guys are more 'visibly gay' than girls. I KNOW there are plenty of non-flamboyant gay guys, but I guarantee you that it's much easier to pick out a gay guy than a lesbian girl. Girls are also more accepting when it comes to that sort of thing, which is funny because they can be very unaccepting when it comes to something like clothing choice.</p>
<p>Absolutely correct princessbell, it seems in this society the notion a man is a "fag" or "feminine" is a direct insult at one's dignity. This explains why men react so violently and defensively when there called those names even if there not gay. I do think it's quite possible for straight man and gay man to be platonic friends, as long as both parties are understanding and communicate. </p>
<p>I find it amusing that most male teen always say "as long as they don't hit on me" when you ask them what they think of homosexuals. As if there are really men going around actively seeking them out to have sex! Homophobia at its finest.</p>
<p>Understanding (from guys) often comes with maturity and self-confidence.</p>
<p>As a teen, I probably would have freaked out if a gay guy had hit on me.</p>
<p>Now, I just take it as a compliment (from a stranger; my gay friends know I'm straight and besides some playful humor along those line, they actually try to set me up with attractive women they meet).</p>
<p>Frankly, I don't understand all the gay-bashing - that's LESS competition (esp. since a lot of straight guys, particularly the homophobes, wouldn't do too well competing against gay men for women).</p>
<p>As a straight girl at a small private high school, I have a couple of guy friends who are openly gay as well as a couple of female friends who are bisexual/lesbian. It's no big deal really. Yes, I'll agree that it was awkward when one of my female friends started hitting on me for a week or so, but no more awkward than when a straight guy I had no interest in hit on me for several months last year.</p>
<p>i have lots of gay people in my family so I'm kinda used to it.
I had a gay friend at work who actually hitted on me at first, but then i told
him i was straight but he continued doing it sparingly as a joke. Didn't bother me though. He's a cool guy, just doesn't appreciate the beauty of the poon.</p>
<p>but ya it's possible</p>
<p>If it were impossible to have platonic friends of a gender you're attracted to... I wouldn't have any platonic friends.</p>
<p>I'm a genderqueer, pansexual dyke (if anyone needs any of those terms defined either ask, or wikipedia it. Wikipedia will probably get you a faster, more comprehensive response) and I've got friends who are straight men, straight women, queer men, queer women, and genderqueer. Of course it's possible... if you get along with someone and enjoy spending time with them, why wouldn't you be friends?</p>
<p>I'll never understand why so many straight people are so arrogant as to assume all queer people will be attracted to them :) </p>
<p>Personally, straight women just don't do it for me at all, and I'm very happily in a relationship... but my suitemate is still wigged out that I'm going to rape her or something! Poor, sheltered straight girl.</p>
<p>all these labels are confusing! Pseudonym, so your neither male or female but are strictly attracted to women? So let me ask you, If you had a choice, would you have rather been born male or female? I understand you don't see a clear cut difference but I mean anatomically speaking.</p>
<p>"so your neither male or female but are strictly attracted to women?"</p>
<p>Actually, it's a little more confusing than that. Aren't labels fun? I use the word dyke even though I'm not a lesbian and am not exclusively attracted to women because it's pretty much the closest thing I have to a gender identity that can be clearly labelled. Dyke is what I'm usually read as, and it's the subculture I have the closest ties to... and it's a word with a lot of power that I really like. I associate dykeyness with a kind of visible, feminist queerness that I identify with even though I don't identify as a woman. And I probably just made things even more confusing. :)</p>
<p>I'm attracted to men, genderqueer people, and women (and other genders and shadings of gender too numerous to name), and you're correct that I don't identify as male or female. Anatomically speaking, I don't really know what I'd rather have been born as--it's possible it's a grass-is-greener situation, and that I'd be unhappy with either. I don't know. The only equipment I can really evaluate is what I was born with, and although I have a lot of ambivalence about those bits, they're still mine. I'm fairly dysphoric about my anatomy sometimes, but as it currently stands that comes and goes. On an everyday basis I'm decently okay with what I've got. If I always felt about my body like I do on my worst days, things would be very different. If those worst days become a more regular thing, I will probably reevaluate my decisions about medical transition. And for the record, this has nothing to do with considering myself attractive, or the typical body image issues people have--I'd love my boobs if they were attached to someone else, and I can objectively observe that I've got a pretty nice pair, but they often don't feel like they belong on me.</p>
<p>ah...I'm still a bit confused but thanks for elaborating.</p>
<p>oh yeah...as everybody respects everyone else, I don't think it really matters!</p>
<p>When cults grow up, they become religions. Look at Christianity; it went from 15 people to over 100 million times that in only 2,000 years.</p>
<p>I have several gay friends, male and female. I’m straight. I don’t care as long as they don’t hit on me and if they do, they aren’t very good friends.</p>
<p>I have plenty of gay/lesbian friends and it doesn’t make me feel any different about them than anyone else.</p>
<p>This is a silly question – of course they’re possible. Just like friendships between straight men and women are possible. Straight people shouldn’t flatter themselves thinking every gay guy or lesbian girl wants to jump them, anyway.</p>
<p>^^^^Best. bump. ever. :p</p>
<p>^Yeah, we don’t lol. As a bi female I’ll be friends with anyone or anything as long as they respect the fact that I am a member of the LGBT community.</p>
<p>No completely impossible. Even Adidas says so.</p>
<p>I’m a lesbian and all my friends are straight girls. It’s totally fine. There have been a few instances where I met someone and was attracted to them, but once I found out they were straight I can just switch it off and just see them as a friend. It’s really not hard for me.</p>
<p>This thread is confusing, though. Wouldn’t lesbian-lesbian friendships be more confusing/impossible? And if not who are lesbians supposed to be friends with? Guys? I don’t like guys. That’s why I’m a lesbian.</p>
<p>So you can’t be friends with guys? That’s like me saying “I’m straight, why would I be friends with guys?”</p>
<p>^I personally have no connection to guys whatsoever, romantic or otherwise. I don’t often make male friends. I was just wondering who the OP or people in general thought lesbians “should” be friends with.</p>