Are you obsessed with your child's college process

<p>Now D1 is asking me about grad or law school. I did tell her she is on her own for that legwork, but that I’ll be a sounding board. And I did tell her that includes her figuring how to pay for it.</p>

<p>Hanna, I thought about it, but wonder how frustrating it is. I do help select kids with essays- not writing, but the perspective(s) adcoms are looking for. Mentoring and tons of encouragement. Just because I like kids and they don’t realize how the app writing is different than in high school.</p>

<p>@Agentninetynine – as far as I know, Irvine options are the same. I was referring to CSU Channel Islands – it’s a newer CSU, opened about 12 years ago. It doesn’t have a well known reputation yet, but we’ve spoken with several former or current students/families who have attended and been very happy with their experience. My older two girls both visited and did a tour. They loved the campus, dorms and major offerings. Within the CSU system, it has the advantage of being less well known, and is one of the few CSUs that isn’t impacted</p>

<p>I didn’t read thread so apologies if this repeats. When I found myself being a bit too obsessive about the college process during my twins’ junior year, I went to see a counselor. She told me my worrying was because I was grieving over the fact that they were leaving. I immediately burst into tears knowing she was correct. Once I realized what I was really feeling, I was able to acknowledge and process my grief, and relax about the college process. Many of my friends had their own aha moments when I shared this insight. Best of luck to all. It does usually work out in the end, probably because our kids are resilient and grow and thrive we’re they are planted. </p>

<p>I “found” CC almost a year ago when DD1 was a Jr. and getting serious about researching colleges. What an awesome discovery! After showing it to her, I thought she would get into it, but she never did. She registered, but I don’t think she ever posted once. Meanwhile, I was a total maniac, reaching peak frenzy during the fall application season when I was logging on something like 8 times per day and driving DD crazy with reminders about working on her essays, app deadlines, etc… Yes, I was obsessed, and DD criticized me plenty for that. Now that the apps are done, early decisions in, and we’re just waiting around for the final results that will seal her fate, I’m down to logging on to CC about once a week and have become far less obsessive. Everyone in my household like me better now, too, especially DD and DW.</p>

<p>I think I am obsessed. My D is my first. I moved to US from another country. When I applied to college, I just took 3-day college entrance exam and based on the score, I got the school I wanted to attend. The college process here is much more complicated and I want to help my daughter to get her dream school. </p>

<p>@Hanna, how do people get to the counseling? :-)</p>

<p>The college admission craziness gives a concrete form to the general parent/teenager craziness.</p>