<p>Sorry if this is a dumb question, but in 3 years of college I haven't made any friends here or developed a social circle or anything. I commute, so not living in the dorms, I never have a chance to meet anyone. I don't get invited to events or parties or anything. My only friends are my highschool friends, but they all go to other schools. </p>
<p>I'm thinking about just typing my interests and stuff into the facebook search box and start messaging people who share the same interests at my school, but at the same time, I'm worried that'll come off as wierd or creepy or something.</p>
<p>Once again, sorry if this is a dumb question, but I'm really not experienced with this and desperate to building a social life at school.</p>
<p>I'd think it would be weird and creepy. Usually people just do the random friend requests. Very few follow through and actually try to talk to the person they randomly add.</p>
<p>That's a bad way to go. Don't you meet people at your classes? Start up a conversation with your class neighbor and see where that goes. Even better, join some club and regularly attend their meetings and you'll be part of their clique in no time.</p>
<p>Yeah, I would suggest looking into clubs. Try out a bunch and pick one or two you like. I'm in a club that is really cool, I like all the people and it is small and easy to get to know the people. They also have parties which the whole club is invited to. At my school they also have a commuter and adult student organization which has different activities. You could look for something like that. You could also try to get to class a little early and talk to the people around you. Maybe if you start talking to someone you could suggest study together or if it is around lunch or dinner time you could go eat with them.</p>
<p>In a lot of classes there are group assignments in which you have to exchange contact info, or you could try getting a job on campus and build up a friendship with other workers/customers.</p>
<p>I think that tactic would have the opposite effect of the one you intend--the people who share your interests would think you're strange. Better off getting out and meeting them in person through clubs, classes, etc.</p>
<p>Messaging people you've never met is weird (same with getting messages from them). But if you've met them, even just once or twice, go for it. Acquaintances can become friends.</p>
<p>Facebook will help you build a social life, but it can not be used as the sole means for building one. The only way to do it is by making friends with people in class, clubs, parties, etc. I know it seems hard as a commuter because a year ago I was in the same situtation as you - a commuter desperate for a social life. But things have changed since I moved on campus, and it's not as hard to make friends as you think. Talk to them a few times, get their name and number in case you need their class notes or want to study together, add them on Facebook, that's it. There's nothing more to it. At least this is how it has been when people have added me, so I have assumed this is the normal way to go about it.</p>
<p>Look, i'm a commuter too so I get where you're coming from, but I've been in college for like 4 months, I live an hour away, and I still manage to have friends. I'm pretty shy and not really outgoing at all. I know it's harder living off-campus, but it would probably help if you made an effort to meet people in person - think about all your friends, how many of them did you meet in person, and how many did you randomly friend on FaceBook and message? People will always remember you as that random FaceBook guy who enjoys basketball and messaged them about it...people just add random crap in their Interest/Activities section. Even if you don't dorm, you can meet people through Clubs, Ec's, classes. an intramural sport is a good idea too.</p>
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<p>I don't mind if someone adds me who I've at least had a conversation with before, but if I didn't even know the person I'd probably be a bit creeped out.</p>