<p>It's been 7 weeks, and I don't have the people who I always hang out with. And my floor has their own little group...ugh. lol which I'm going to try to become a part of. They're just so...into sororities and somewhat fake so idk if I should even bother.</p>
<p>You got Clark Kerr didn’t you?</p>
<p>Didn’t you rush for sororities a while back?</p>
<p>No. </p>
<p>As my kid just reminded me, one has 4-5 weeks (or in your case,7-8 weeks) at a new school and you had how many years to cultivate the friends you had in high school?</p>
<p>a more realistic “measure of success”: can I find people to eat with most of the time</p>
<p>Whether or not you can find people to eat with most of the time doesn’t really measure success; it measures how busy your roommate is.</p>
<p>If you don’t get along with your floor, it can be hard making friends at first because your classes are so huge you won’t really get to know anyone. The people you will meet are often busy so if you don’t live together or share a small class/club you won’t see them much.</p>
<p>Start smoking weed.
You’ll totally fit right in and find chill people to hang with.
(This comment, though completely accurate, is only 20% serious)</p>
<p>I would say by now that the dorm social groups have settled so you might have trouble there. I assume you’re not interested in sororities anymore, but have you tried looking at some clubs? By the way, did you fix the problem with your roommate?</p>
<p>@cavilier: While having people with eat with isn’t a necessary condition for success in the social sense, it would be a sufficient condition.</p>
<p>let’s have a college confidential meet up so we can all become friends and start our own group/frat/club</p>
<p>@daynight,</p>
<p>For some reason I don’t get along with my floormates either (well I mean everyone is nice, but we just have never hang out together)… so I totally understand what you feel…</p>
<p>Are you in Clark Kerr? Me too!!!</p>
<p>I thought my floormates sucked too when I lived in the dorm in my freshman year. I never bothered to know them, and I don’t regret it. </p>
<p>Initially I made friends who are in my classes. We would work together in discussion sections or do the h/w problems together, later get lunch/dinner together, then get to know even more people, etc.</p>
<p>@ Cavilier: What made you think she was in Clark Kerr?</p>
<p>haha we should just make a “college confidential club”!! : ] then reveal who we are only to club members haha jk. </p>
<p>no im not in clark kerr. </p>
<p>yes i’m a freshman.</p>
<p>and that’s the problem. I’m a freshman and all of the friends/people I make or like are older so most of them would rather not get lunch with a freshman lol. some people are cool with it but others not so much. </p>
<p>that’s good to know! that upmagic didn’t hang out with floormates either. i make friends in classes too so thanks for telling me!</p>
<p>daynnight: didn’t you join a sorority earlier? Or, did you end up turning down the bid?</p>
<p>In any case, in college, it’s never too late to form a group of friends. Sure, people may have their own groups, but it’s college and people are usually willing to accept new friends at any time if you put in the effort.</p>
<p>Your floor can be a very social area, but that’s not where your friends come from. Friends usually have some type of connection, and just living in the same place often isn’t sufficient. The best friends are usually made in classes and clubs.</p>
<p>As for being “fake”: let’s be honest: a friendship has to start somewhere. If nobody acted “fake,” nobody would have a chance to warm up to each other. Hence, the friendship never happens. Someone must put the effort into starting a friendship, and that start always appears fake. If you reject them off the bat like that, you’ll never get friends.</p>
<p>aite, someone start a new club on campus. “CCC” – do it, fer reals.</p>
<p>daynnight: i saw your post in the physics 8a thread.</p>
<p>i was going through something pretty similar to what you are now last year and i got pretty depressed with my decision to come to this school/my life in general. i felt the same way you did about the whole fakeness thing too. i think thats just one of those things where we just have to accept thats how it is gonna be and just go with it, ya know? i think i even made like a little rant/sad thread on here at some point lol (thats how bad i was doing that i couldnt even talk about it to people i actually knew in person in life) just hold your own and get past the midterms and floor situation. i know it sounds generic, but it’ll get better and there are more people besides who you are in the dorms with. plus youre just a freshie right? u still have plenty of time. relaxxxxxxxxxx :)</p>
<p>i’d definitely join the club</p>
<p>lol I guess I should just make the club then! jk lol what would our purpose be? To go to Moffitt, sit on computers, and write to each other on college confidential? haha</p>
<p>okay that’s good thanks waiting4college. Yea I’m a freshie hah and that’s good that you wrote on here! It’s kind of smart…because you don’t want to go up to someone and be like my life is depressing. I’m going to kill myself. I hate the people here…lol like then they will never talk to you again, especially being at a new school, that’s not what you want to tell people lol. </p>
<p>I met this really nice girl who was similar to me and she wasn’t fake at all so I’ve hung out with her a little bit. And I’m starting to meet people but havent hung out much with them. I don’t know how to say let’s hang out! in a more subtle way.</p>
<p>Try:</p>
<p>“hey, do you wanna go for lunch sometime?”</p>
<p>I can’t really relate, because I loved my floor, but don’t sweat it. Friends will be made, you just have to make the effort in class, at club meetings etc. Really, just be friendly, and you are bound to meet some people :)</p>