<p>Haha, I have an asian friend whos is hilarious - suuuuper serious about grades and always trying to "act black". But she's def. being herself, so more power to her.</p>
<p>Be a mahn. Do da RIGHT sing.</p>
<p>I know way too many twinkie/egg hybrids...</p>
<p>As for me, I would consider myself as a "mix" (I'm "pureblood"...in a nonoffensive un-Harry Potter way =D) I'm not reclusive/unsociable at all, I don't get anywhere near straight A's and never have (lol @ my F on a test the other day), and I watch TV :). On the other hand, I watch anime (I guess...dubs sux teh bomb), I LOVE asian food, and I know a lot about asian cultures. I am teh geekx in math, physics, chemistry, and comp sci...so i guess that fulfills most of the asian stereotypes?</p>
<p>all you need to do is get good grades, speak your own language, and have white friends. they callin you mad asian? point to yo white posse and talk about jessica alba. boyz be reppin' you as twinkie? step em back wit a slew o' chinaman-speak, flash dat report card, and talk about jessica alba. </p>
<p>or you could just get a big black friend. it never fails. </p>
<p>do white-washed african-americans get called ho-hos? </p>
<p>or is there no courage left in this world?</p>
<p>so trying this. such a bad idea.</p>
<p>P.S.: i hope i haven't offended anyone here.</p>
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i used to be a coconut my frosh and soph yrs but now i have balanced my friendship with all races.....who cares wat others think..do what you feel is right
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<p>I think the proper term is a graham cracker.</p>
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What's wrong with fitting a stereotype? Eat some rice, play some pokemon.
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<p>hahaha, amazing</p>
<p>Um I don't really think theres really that much of a stereotype. I have a Japanese girl in one of my classes and she gets really really good grades and shes also slept with 5 guys in the last semester. She's pretty normal and not shy.</p>
<p>i'm proud of being asian, though all my bfs are white. </p>
<p>nobody's given me crap for that. </p>
<p>i wear makeup, and i get straight A's and i have plenty of friends. </p>
<p>but then that might also come from the fact that our school is 90 % white.</p>
<p>umm shravas how does graham cracker make sense lol</p>
<p>here we use coconut (brown outside-white inside)</p>
<p>"how can I avoid stereotypes?"</p>
<p>easily. don't consider them.</p>
<p>I can understand where you're coming from, but in reality nothing is actually that cleancut. </p>
<p>I go to a school where Asians are the minority-major, and you know what? Sure, there are people who fit that description, but there are other people that just happen to be Asian, but they're also people. The majority of us have grown up in an Asian-concentrated area, but as far as making jokes about our Asianness, our Asian parents, and encouraging others to succeed, each one of us has our own personality and our own back stories for who we have become. </p>
<p>I suggest that you first calm down, clear your head, and think - why am I so concerned about this? Asians do have different values than other cultures, but I was raised to understand the positive side of this thinking, and that means Balance. One of the most important values I have learned is the meaning of sensitivity to others needs and feelings, and to your own needs as a person, as well. That goes even further to not looking down on others and yourself at the same time, and branches off into other aspects of humanity. Sure, humans make mistakes, but any person could always make themselves better if they had the incentive to target it and improve.</p>
<p>If you're getting lost with what I'm saying(lol), I'll connect it to the point I'm making now - you must discover yourself first. Those people that you see as "stereotypes" may be a consequence of their surroundings and their upbringing, but that doesn't mean they really fall into a one-dimensional stereotype. However, if you really understand what you want, you must achieve your own Balance in life, and that's going to require some soul-searching.</p>
<p>For me, I'm not aiming for an Ivy League at all, but at the same time I want to challenge myself academically, maintain great friendships and continue supporting my amazing boyfriend, and I don't necessarily fall into either of those categories. I am friends with every single type of person (not just Asian!) that fits into those categories, the categories within those categories and inbetween also. They're all people in the end. So just have faith in yourself, man!</p>
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<p>this is such a weird question.</p>
<p>serafina, you can bold...just press ctl-b. </p>
<p>and the OP is probably not an idiot.</p>
<p>Seriously, just act normal. BE comfortable with yourself. Although I must say that it requires courage and an air of confidence to be comfortable in your own shoes. Not many people in high school can do that, often wanting to change into this or that to fit in or to try NOT to fit in with certain "type" of people. People should really learn to appreciate that they are unique individuals...it sucks to be the same with everyone else. A teacher in my school once told me she can't recognize this blond girl from all the other ones because they wear and hold themselves in EXACTLY the same way.</p>
<p>Stereotype has nothing to do with individiual asians. It has everything to do with white people. It is not us, asians, who invented those stereotypes. Stereotypes are by no means natural product of the society, nor is it a continued universal historical source shared by all cultures.
Therefore, when talking about stereotypes, we need to consider two things, why have white people invented the stereotype, and how are the stereotypes used against us, asians?
White poeple invented those stereotypes and tried to use it as an instrument to group all asians regardless of their individual differences. By doing that, white people can thus maintained those racists attitudes while imposing all the negativities of the stereotype upon asian people as individuals. </p>
<p>I see stereotype as a lense by which white people used it to see asian people. Everytime a white people sees an asian, the lense is put up infront of their eyes, and they are simultaneously blinded by this distorted percption. </p>
<p>As a FOB, I feel no shame when my "native countryman" brands me as a traitor or banana, nor do I feel ashamed when white people yelling at me for being a chinaman.
You should not feel ashamed or sad for who you are, instead, feel sympathy for those whom are blind.</p>
<p>pharmakeup, what are you talking about? Racism in the US is NOT THAT BAD</p>
<p>I don't know where in the US you can be asian and get yelled at by other americans for being a chinaman. What has actually happened to you thats made you so anti-white?</p>
<p>idk i kinda care about the appearance stuff but i get the best grades in all classes. so i guess you just have to be yourself</p>
<p>I'm a little less than half, but I don't look asian and I don't have asian values so everyone just forgets unless my mom picks me up at school</p>
<p>is it just me or are other asian girls not attracted to asian boys? I have never met an asian boy that I considered handsome</p>
<p>i seriously can't believe someone is trying to base their entire identity on asian stereotypes!! who the f cares if there is a stereotype of asian; if thats what you are then people who laugh can kiss your ass. if that's not what you are then dont give a ***** how far you're straying from the cultural 'norm'! what other people think is not nearly as important as you are making it out to be. sorry if this sounded mean.</p>
<p>my advice is don't hang out with ONLY asians.</p>
<p>i don't have anything against asians, but it seems like they only hang out in their little cliques, and some of them seem so elitist. like,if you aren't asian they probably won't even talk to you. i'm a pretty funny guy and usually socialize and joke around with other people. so the other day i tried to start a conversation with this asian girl by bringing up something funny that happened in class, kinda like "did you see what happened? what's up with that?" kinda thing. she just gave me this cold stare and turned away. it pretty much a dagger, it was really harsh. and of course i see her laughing and talking in Korean with her asian friends all the time.</p>
<p>so don't be that kind of asian. make white, black hispanic etc friends too. if you're a cool dude nobody will make fun of you for being smart or anything like that</p>