Bad start... is it just me?

<p>Most HI folks I know who care about their eyes or faces wear big sunglasses as well & I like to think we're wonderful people. You could be excluding some great folks from your search for friends if you exclude all of us. :)</p>

<p>Search facebook for "I don't drink" groups... it'll prove you're not the only one... I don't have any experience with these first hand, but I know there's some sort of club at my school that hangs out does things that don't involve drinking ... maybe that's something you'd be interested in, see if you can find something like that at your school, if not, why don't you start a group like it?</p>

<p>Transfer. .</p>

<p>Omg, I feel the exact way as the original poster... I just feel like I dont belong here...</p>

<p>For those of you who feel you don't belong: I'd give it more time than a month or so before deciding to transfer. Wait out the year, or even two. Or at least the semester. Transfering, IMO, should be the last resort. You haven't met everyone at the school yet. How do you know there isn't anyone you can get along with?</p>

<p>I'm having trouble making good friends, but I don't think it's a hopeless task. After all, I've only been here a month. I felt pretty lonely after a month of summer school in high school (I went to a different hs than most of my friends), but by the end of four years, I had some pretty good friends. So once again, give it time.</p>

<p>Honestly you sound like a lonely judgmental twerp with an inferiority complex a mile wide. Loosen up a little and actually try to get to know some people without that closed mind. Otherwise learn to love cats.</p>

<p><em>Honestly you sound like a lonely judgmental twerp with an inferiority complex a mile wide. Loosen up a little and actually try to get to know some people without that closed mind. Otherwise learn to love cats.</em></p>

<p>I'm new to these boards, but on most message boards this would count as a flame and would be modded. Is that the case here at CC?</p>

<p>Or we can not cry to the mods to censor speech.</p>

<p>Big difference between censoring speech and prohibiting flames. I didn't mod barrons' post BTW.</p>

<p>Do the words "ad hominem" mean anything to you?</p>

<p>I eat alone too and don't go out to the parties on the weekends (unless I'm invited to one) and at first I felt really bad about not proactively socializing but now I don't care because there's just so much work. My passion is music so I joined musical groups and found a lot of fun in that, and the socialization aspect comes more naturally when you're doing something with other people that you like to do (besides eating). I know everyone says this, but join a club that has to do with something you really like or an issue you're passionate about. And if you join enough stuff you'll have no downtime to even ponder your situation anymore, like me, lol.
Hang in there! It's okay to not force yourself to say hi to everyone. Just be yourself and do what you want and you'll meet people naturally as long as you don't sit in your room all day. College is about opening up your mind, but don't try to be someone you're not for the sake of getting a million new friends. It won't work.</p>