<p>So I noticed a lot of you guys are from the Bay Area, like me. Well, I got rejected from Cal (as expected) and now I'm officially set on UCSD. Problem is my parents.</p>
<p>They seem really against me going down to San Diego. They keep telling me that I'm not ready to be on my own, since I can't do the laundry, drive yet, etc. They'd rather me go to UC Davis because it's 2 hours away as opposed to 7. My argument is that, though Davis isn't a bad school, it's offering me less financial aid. Plus, I've done so much research on UCSD and I really do love it. If only my parents understood that... UGH. I want to be more independent, but my parents (especially my mom) are so overprotective. If I do go to Davis, they're probably going to be visiting me almost every week. How am I supposed to enjoy my college experience and learn to do things for myself!?</p>
<p>Ahh! My parents want me to go to UC Davis too (I’m from Bay Area also) but my sister goes there and she won’t let me, lol. So I’m headed to UC San Diego also.</p>
<p>Point out to them that UCSD is ranked higher than UCD. =] Better location, more research opportunities, that shizz. </p>
<p>in the same boat, kinda. I’m from La, I really want to go to college in NYC. My mom won’t hear of it, forcing me to go to UCSD because it’s only a 2 hour drive. I do LOVE ucsd, but still NY will always be in the back of my mind, you know. I feel like i belong in that city, hopefully I’m wrong.</p>
<p>Well, I’m not officially from the bay area, but maybe just emphasize to them that you think that you will have more “personal growth” if you go down to San Diego…that it’s important for you to be independent…I mean you’re going to be an independent adult eventually, so going to UCSD will help you transition to that state. Did they go to college near their hometowns? If not, bring that up…Also I don’t know what your major is or what you want to do post-graduation, but you could tell them that UCSD has a better program in whatever you’re studying (even if that’s stretching the truth a little bit).<br>
Also, as far as I know most Bay Area-ers fly Southwest from bay area -> SD, the plane ride is only an hour, and they have some good rates.<br>
And unless you parents drive back and forth every week to do your laundry (which would be a huge hassle for them!), you’re going to have to do your own laundry anyway no matter where you go.</p>
<p>rameezkhan: I have been telling them that SD is better academically, but that still doesn’t convince them. ): I hope I can see you at SD, too…</p>
<p>hanauma: I wanted to go out-of-state too, but it’s too expensive for me. UCSD is the farthest I can get, which is one of the the reasons why I heart it so.</p>
<p>TwylaBloo: “Did they go to college near their hometowns? If not, bring that up…” I wish I can use that argument, but my parents never went to college. Yeah, Southwest seems convenient but my brother reminded me: "So, how do you get to the airport…?</p>
<p>About transportation to the airport… there are shuttles that take you to the airport from campus… and you can probably find a ride from a friend that you make down there.</p>
<p>Luckily my parents weren’t so prohibitive. They would rather me have gone to Davis and I kinda regretted a bit when everyone from SoCal got to go home on the three-day-weekends… but I love the distance from home (san francisco) also. </p>
<p>Do you have the kind of parents that expect to live with you after college and when you get married and start a family? Oy. I know my mom is kinda.</p>
<p>My friend’s mom last year told my friend that she would not support her if she went to UCSD, and that she would give her a car if she went to Davis. But she got into Berkeley so her dilemma was solved.</p>
<p>Instead of them coming to you, you can also go home on the weekends. I know quite of few who do that. But then you’d be going to Davis.</p>
<p>Tell them that you wont be happy at Davis and they want you to be happy right?
haha sorry I can’t come up with any other reasons.</p>
<p>From my perspective as a parent, I feel it’s important that the student take complete responsibility for the school he or she chooses to attend. I don’t want to bear any responsibility should a choice I pushed (nevermind insisted upon) prove to be a mistake, and I think self-determination is a crucial. My responsibility more appropriately lies in helping my child to fully understand the choices, leaving the choices themselves to him/her.</p>
<p>Laundry, cooking, cleaning, etcetera, are things you will have to deal with for the rest of your life…and you will when you need to. Living in a dorm takes care of the cooking, cleaning, and bill paying, leaving you free to ease into the mundane responsibilities of life, starting with laundry. </p>
<p>Travel is a bit of a challenge, but it’s manageable.</p>
<p>My parents are the same way, but I actually have the opposite problem; I want to go to Berkeley and my parents don’t want me to leave SD! : ( hahaha</p>
<p>Just tell them San Diego is a really nice, laid-back town. Nobody bothers you if you don’t bother them. The area around UCSD and the campus itself is VERY nice and beautiful. It’s pretty safe as well. </p>
<p>And if you think it may help them change their minds, tell them there’s absolutely NO social life at UCSD, and you just plan on staying locked in your dorm the entire time! This of course isn’t true, but if it would help convince them, why not use it to your advantage?! Tell them Davis is completely a party school, since it’s considered a “cow town”, and you feel your education may suffer because of this.</p>
<p>Any tips for helping me move up to Berkeley?? :(</p>
<p>You can survive without driving. Shuttles will take you anywhere you need to go. The campus is hella quiet on weekends so there’s no fear for a distracting weekend dedicated to studying. Laundry is also hella easy-- put clothes in, put soap in, press start. Depending on what you’re studying SD may or may not be better. Our dining plans are a lot better-- you pay as you eat so you don’t need to waste money on buffet-food if all you’re craving is a snack. Tell them that this will be an invaluable learning experience that requires the lack of helicopter parents. Anything else?</p>
<p>Thanks for the help! (: I think they’re convinced now. It wasn’t easy though… They were really quiet and looked quite sad before they finally said, “Do what you think is best.” That made me feel kinda bad… But I’ll make sure not to disappoint them!</p>
<p>@sciencevsromance: I’m pretty sure the prestige of Berkeley’ll convince them. (: And congratulations!</p>
<p>I got into SD and my parents wanted me to stay in order to save money. I really wanted to move out but then realized how great it would be to graduate with no loans. I also got offered a really sweet job at the recreation department and knew guys on the Ultimate Frisbee team (I already planned on joining when I was in HS).</p>
<p>Looking back at it now I’m really glad I stayed here and went to UCSD. My parents used to be helicopter parents but talking to them and making them understand that you are not a child anymore helps a bunch.</p>
<p>Congrats on convincing them, living off on your own at UCSD will be a great learning experience. You will have a fun time. Enjoy</p>
<p>I guess I am the unusual parent in that I have encouraged my kids to go where they want, preferably fairly far away. I didn’t when I was going to college and I regret it. (I want to Cal, which was within an hour of home.) I think I would have been better prepared for the real world if I had gone farther away. There is a lot to be said for going to a completely different environment.</p>
<p>We are still in CA and my D#1 went to the Midwest and now is in the East in grad school. She still doesn’t drive, although she did know how to do her laundry. ;)</p>
<p>My D#2 wants to go to NYU and I’m all for it if we can sort out the finances. :P</p>
<p>my parents thought the same way, they thought i wasn’t ready to move out because i “can’t take care of myself.” i sent my SIR to ucsd anyway, and told them it’s either UCSD or CC near home. being asian parents, they couldn’t have their daughter going to a CC, what would they brag about to their friends? </p>
<p>for all those problems they thought i’d have, being away forced me to learn how to be independent. i had to learn how to cook for myself, clean up after myself, spend responsibly (they put me on a budget…), etc.</p>
Yeah, Southwest seems convenient but my brother reminded me: "So, how do you get to the airport…?</p>
This of course isn’t true, but if it would help convince them, why not use it to your advantage?! Tell them Davis is completely a party school, since it’s considered a “cow town”, and you feel your education may suffer because of this.</p>