<p>I'm in the midst of getting college acceptances & etc and although I haven't gotten a reply from everywhere, I think I've already made up my mind. I want to go to UCSD. The problem? My parents. Both of them are giving me the silent treatment, sad looks, deliberately opening up old photo albums, muttering quite loudly about the dangers of a naive little girl living on a giant campus, etc. </p>
<p>I mean UCSD is only like two hours away from where I live, so it's really not that bad. But I am feeling VERY guilty since I had told them earlier on in the year that I would stay near home. </p>
<p>But really, the private college they do want me go to is a pathetic five minute walk from my house. They say it's a privilege that they'll even allow me to stay in the dorms there...</p>
<p>So does anyone else have a similar problem? Any advice on how to convince them to let go...(also I guess I should mention that I'm the youngest in my family so that only worsens the situation)</p>
<p>My parents are threatening not to pay for my college if I go far away. I'm just ignoring them...money is no object and I don't think my dad will spite me just to keep me close to home. I want to go to Michigan or Wisconsin not Drexel!</p>
<p>Somehow, you just have to get them to realize that you are not a child. You need the experience of being at least a little far away from home to grow into an adult, you should totally tell them that. Plus, two hours away is not bad at all, you could visit them anytime they want you too!</p>
<p>Yeah... I live in central/north NJ and I mentioned Boston and my father was like "why would you want to go there? that's sooo far away" what? no it isn't. not to mention that's eliminating dozens of great schools if I don't even look near Boston</p>
<p>They'll let you go in the end. I mean, all parents worry about their kid...I'm having similar problems. I like in central TX and I've narrowed my decision to two school, W&J in PA and IUB in Bremen, Germany. Problem is, my parents want me to stay in Texas. (lol, or at least on this continent!) Meh, they'll let me go in the end. I'm the youngest of 6 kids, so it's just harder for them...but the good thing is I'll be paying for my own college with scholarships/grants/loans, they can't threaten to not pay for my education if I leave.</p>
<p>my parents are making me stay close to home cuz they dont trust me to be alone.... they think i might become a cocaine, marijuana, X addict or something. just cuz i was caught smoking cigarettes ONCE.... god i HATE them!!!!!!</p>
<p>As a parent, permit me to horn in for a moment. Sometimes, parents like their children to stay fairly close to home because....well.. we miss you when you're gone! We like to be close enough to drive down for your games, your piano recital, your first apartment, etc. My older son is 4 hours away and believe me, he was thrilled we were close enough to get there when he had mono last year. Cut 'em just a little slack as you prepare to fly away.</p>
<p>Dusk, UCSD is two hours away from where I live too! What's the private you're talking about, the one that's "five minutes" away from your house?</p>
<p>(My parents always joke that they're going to get me to go to CSULA cause it's practically my back yard. It wasn't even funny the first time they mentioned it, but they still keep going on about it.)</p>
<p>I think you should listen to whatever your parents say because they love you and one's best friends are one's parents. Personally, I think that homeschooling is the best kind of schooling. If my parents told me to live in a basement for 4 years, by golly, I'd do it. Reminds me, I have to go finish that lego truck I was working on. And tomorrow afternoon is macaroni necklace time with mommy.</p>
<p>Meanie-
I meant to say private "schools" actually...the Claremont Colleges: Pomona, Scripps, Harvey Mudd, Pitzer, and Claremont McKenna...they're great schools and all but...soooo close to home...my mom could literally walk to my dorm for an afternoon chat if she wanted to. So yeah...lol about the whole backyard thing, my parents sort of did they same thing except they started doing it when I was 5 as I recall...oh! my cousins live in Alhambra too! =)</p>
<p>jazzcar-
I know, you parents love us...I understand in a way...which is why I feel so bad right now. </p>
<p>milesguidon
That's exactly what my parents have been telling me...I respect that, believe me. And although I'm mature to an extent, I also know that I've been horribly spoiled and dependent on them for way too many things. I ask, they give. I know that it'll sound very stereotypical for me to say that I want independence and that I need to figure things out for myself but...I really just need to experience the real world for myself and then come to love them sincerely once I do. I feel like if I continue living on the way I do, I'll never grow up and then be seriously impeded when I enter the work force...</p>
<p>i live in ny and i want to got to ucb........................me and my parents are counting the days off, i move away from the house.........you live in california and your parents are worried about you being far away.....once again i live in ny.....other side of the nation</p>
<p>i swear to god.....if i my parents held me back......i would just leave the house......im not letting them hold me down......if 3000 miles away from home is where i will be successful, THEN THATS WHERE I AM GOING</p>