I wish I could! LOL
I appreciate your respectful input, but you have misinterpreted my post (probably my fault due to my brevity in the post).
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One thing I am seeing or hearing about is women don’t want to be married to someone that they have to be their new mom. Many women are getting divorced young even with kids and feel like they are doing better without another child in the house. Especially the ones that working full-time.
I have always felt marriage is a team effort and the sum of the two parts should be more than separate.
Lastly it is most important to find someone who you want to be around for the rest of your life. More than height, income, looks, etc. And it isn’t big elaborate gestures that keep marriages going it is doing the small stuff to help each other out on a day to day basis.
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Generational shifts in family dynamics are evident as your cousin became a grandma in her 40s, followed by her daughter. Consequently, she became a great grandma in her 60s, fostering strong bonds with both her granddaughters, even maintaining daily communication with one. However, her daughter’s early parenthood at 18, influenced by challenging circumstances including an unsupportive partner, led to a difficult situation. In this context, your cousin and her husband provided extensive support to their daughter’s family. It’s worth noting that safeguarding children is a critical concern in family dynamics, particularly during challenging situations, ensuring their well-being and protection remain paramount.
Do you have proof to back up those statistics? Also, I’d like to know how many of those women are in marriages?
We had a neighbor, who committed suicide. Left behind a husband and a son. Everything seemed happy from what we could tell. That said, we didn’t know her well and we only socialized with her in passing or at the yearly block party. We heard about it from our next door neighbor who was also our hairdresser.
No one is dissing women who feel they NEED a man. It’s also OK to realize that you DON’T need a man. Not everyone wants to or needs to be married. Hard to believe how many people don’t realize that.
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No one is saying marriage isn’t a good thing. We’re just pointing out that you don’t have to be married to be happy.
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We also shouldn’t talk about needing a man as a one sided thing. Many men desperately need a woman. That’s ok if that’s you or your kid. Personally I wouldn’t want to have a child alone whether I was straight or gay. I think it’s a two person job… this coming from someone raised poorly by a single mother.
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Indeed, as I said in the comment you quoted, marriage won’t be right for some people. I made no implication that all or most of those people would be miserable.
I know unmarried people who’ve done well. Part of that might have to do with the fact that they’re very social and have lots of friends and have a lot of relatives. My sister has a friend who never married. She was one of 6 kids, so she has lots of nieces and nephews. She had a long busy career as an attorney and is now retired. She volunteers, has lots of friends, and travels quite frequently. She is also loves to keep busy and is very outgoing. I think one reason she has never been lonely is that she really works on all of her personal relationships, she doesn’t just sit home alone not keeping in touch with people.
I wouldn’t want my kids to be lonely. But if single people are lonely, that’s on them. People don’t have to be lonely. You can be unmarried and not be lonely.
You can also be married and be lonely, especially if you’re in a bad or unhappy marriage.
Nothing wrong with men needing a woman or a woman needing a man. Do what works for you and your life.
I always encourage my kids to keep up with their friendships and relationships with relatives. I don’t force them do anything, but I always try to mention how important friendships and extended family relationships are. Even when you’re married friendships are still very important.
True. I think people need to do what works for their life and their situation. It’s also important for people to cultivate friendships outside of marriage as well.
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This is an interesting article:
A few choice quotes:
A chart of American happiness ratings looks like this: a flat, basically happy line that starts in the 1970s, followed by a plunge into meh right around the new millennium.
…this happiness dip is mainly attributable to one thing: Married people are happier, and Americans aren’t getting married as much.
Married people are much happier than the unmarried, according to these data. Looking at those same 100 people, 40 married people will say they’re happy, and 10 will say they’re not happy. But single people are about evenly split between happy and not happy. It doesn’t really matter if you are divorced, are widowed, or have never married: If you’re not married, you’re less likely to be happy. “The only happy people for 50 years have been married people,” Peltzman told me.
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Yes, I always do.
One perspective on why fewer women are having children.