BEFORE OR AFTER? I'll give anyone who reads through it all and answers a giant chocolate cookie! TY

<p>I like this girl named Kate. We work at the same pool and go to the same high school! Now basically the sum up is that we flirted a bit throughout the months; we once shared a work locker (i'd see her bra and underwear), and on valentines day, I promposed to her with six roses and a rice kripise. SHe started to cry because someone else had asked her just hours before I did at school! Later that shift she asked me out but for personal reasons I said no, saying "it'd be too forced."</p>

<p>A week later I asked her out and she said yes but in a sort of hesitant way? ANyways the same personal issue came up again and forced me to not follow up!</p>

<p>About a month ago, I sent her this text at 2:18am:</p>

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<p>"You're an amazing woman, i remember the first time I saw you at staff training in summer...i fell for you..,You sat in front of me when we were waiting outside the pool, cross legged and I said to myself, "She's beautiful, who the hell is she?" When you wore the lp (school name) swimsuit I flipped, I could not remember seeing u at school ever. I didn't even know you at the time, or your name...,i still remember at the end, i was staring at you in my car like a f*cking idiot and then u waved at me...its stupid i know</p>

<p>Dasilvas (guys name) an idiot to throw you away like that. The way he and his friends made fun of you on his Facebook status just pissed me off,</p>

<p>Im not sorry I asked you to prom, im certainly not sorry to asking you out if you even remember or if you can event count that tbh...If you did notice, I guess you thought I was hot and cold but I had some personal stuff going on at the time...but getting into UT (university) is my priority right now. I wanted to ask you out again last week...but I wasn't sure how you were going to take it again and I wasn't sure if I could handle...still don't know...I thought I could hold it till after we finished working in may but I was wrong.</p>

<p>the only thing i regret is that i should have known u when i was in gr 10...i cant believe i missed out of two more yrs of Kate.You're perfect...
don't let anyone tell you otherwise."</p>

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<p>The week following that text, she avoided me completly, gave me cold shoulder! Everything by the book that would suggest that she wasn't interested. Then I got a prom date that week and the week after that text was sent, her attitude took a complete 180 change! I would see her staring at me...and I mean staring right into my eyes for a good 5-10 seconds! One time that week, I was playing basketball with my friends and Kate screamed my name from across the gym. She also said to me at the end of work that week. "Hey Jackieee, Heard you're taking Sara to prom!!!" I turned back and said. "Hey I gave you first crack at it." and left</p>

<p>Anyways fast forward to last friday (three days ago), I WAS going to ask Kate if we were just friends or what at work today and I told her in the changeroom just before our shift started "Kate, I have something to tell you after work." She refused to hear it then and demanded I tell her now. I told her there was no time, our shift almost started but she kept pushing me until I left the changeroom. She wanted to talk to me but at that point I found out a lifegaurd on duty was here today and she was a girl whom I was really great friends with last year but she graduated from my HS last year! Her name was Sanda</p>

<p>Kate kept moving around me following me as i walked down and up the pool deck like when i stopped to write notes on a kid, she would too beside me and when i walked, she would too and she literally followed me everywhere when we were packing up i was about to take a noodle from my lane and she snatched it before i could take it and stuck her tongue out and she kept saying. WHAT DO YOU WANT TO TELL ME...at one point she said that "is it about prom i told her. "no, one of your friends-" then i cut off cause Sanda came around the pool</p>

<p>I still have strong feelings for kate that up until recently I've been forcing myself to suppress as I said why before but like I said...i do want to know if she likes me...my friend says to keep playing with her because he says and quote "you own her ass right now."</p>

<p>Anyways I'm going to prom with Sanda...I'm 90% sure. I brought up the topic that it's prom season at our school (her old school, we talked alot like ALOT last year before she graduated) and she asked in a courtesy matter if I promposed to anyone yet. At first I said ya three girls but two of them said yes...then said no. Her mouth like dropped open and she went...NO...you're kidding me right?</p>

<p>I told her my first choice was Kate and explained what I did on valentines and she was like damnnn...then Sanda said how she never got promposed to. Last year when she went to prom. she actually promposed to her date and her date was FURIOUS (in a non violent way). She said her date flipped because HE was suppose to prompose! Anyways she said if you can't find anyone I'd be down to go with you. And I said ya? sure why not?</p>

<p>We talked through the details and she said. "how much for the ticket?" I said. "Don't worry, I'll get it." and her mouth dropped lol...</p>

<p>Sanda is coming by next time I got to work to pick up the guest form (she needs to fill it in if she wants to go to my prom) I'm planning to prompose to her in public...I know she'll say yes anywaays and she was sad that she didn't get promposed to ever so why not?</p>

<p>Anyways we talked through my shift ALOT and it was such an amazing day...this may sound mean but I literally had Kate on the ropes and she had to watch the whole ordeal of Sanda and I talking, flirting if you will while I didn't answer her question.</p>

<p>OH YA I FORGOT TO TELL YOU! Kate forgot to dry or even wash her work shirt and it was all wet. So I said take mine so we switched clothes</p>

<p>If you recall, this would be the second time. I told her. "Can I smack you if you get in the water this time?" and she started laughing. The first time we switched clothes, hers was wet and mine was dry. So when we switched, she would stay dry while mine would be wet. (I usually get in the water anyways so it doesn't matter to me.) but then after we switched, she got in the water anyways WITH my dry shirt and i was like WTF lol why would you want a dry shirt and THEN go in the water?</p>

<p>She tosses her shirt to me and I went. "ugh now I'm going to get Kateitis."(a made up sickness with her name in it) and all the guys started laughing as I put her shirt on.</p>

<p>: and she also took one of my marking sheets cause today is when we start evaluating our swimmers and she made fun of me saying "Wowww look at this guy, coming prepared."</p>

<p>anyways, as she was changing, I said to her "man this is the second time first my shirt, now a marking sheet, what's next then she says. "oh you like it when i take your stuff, dont even lie" and closes the changeroom doors</p>

<p>All I can say is...holy crap she smells good...I'm ashamed to say I couldn't help but sniff the aroma that was coming off of her shirt as I wore it and she seemed comfortable enough in my shirt...</p>

<p>Anyways, if you managed to read through all that (which trust me, I feel so grateful about) my question is I'm going to prompose to Sanda next Wednesday. We're going to prom together but like I said, her date last year was upset that he wasn't able to prompose to Sanda as shepromposed to him! She told me she wished she got prompsoed to so I was planning to do just that!</p>

<p>Problem is though, I like Sanda as a friend, that feeling is mutual between the two of us; I really like Kate...as non friends but it seems jealously threw her off her game and she couldn't play hard to get anymore...I still plan to ask if we're just friends or what but should i do that before or after I prompose to Sanda? Should I let Kate see me prompose to Sanda or not?</p>

<p>THANK YOU!</p>

<p>Before you prompose. You do not want to send this Sandra girl mixed signals.</p>

<p>Honestly, sure. The neurotic behavior of Kate seems to clearly indicate that she has feelings for you, watching you prompose might push her over the edge of finally admitting her feelings for you. </p>

<p>first off thank you for reading all that, </p>

<p>Sanda and I know each other very well, the friend feeling is mutual 100% </p>