Promposal with a rejection....but a twist?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>Hey all!</p>

<p>I asked a girl to prom on friday. We work at the same pool and go to the same school so after we set up but before we started to coach, i asked her to come to the changeroom. At first, she was really confused but she came. I opened to locker and gave her a rice krispie (as planned) and she was like umm ok WTF? and i asked. She went into tears and hugged me and said like "Are you serious? This is not happening right now!" Then she told me how a guy asked her literally today at school and she was in near tears at this point and was saying how my promposal was much better than his. She kept hugging me. I asked her the first time who had asked her and she said this. </p>

<p>"no, no i can't tell you, you would kill me if I did." </p>

<p>later on, i asked her again and she hugged me again and whispered into my ear, "I'll tell you on wednesday." (next time i see her for sure.)</p>

<p>Later on, when we're packing up. She and I are in the storage room packing up boards and stuff and she said that i look like im angry at her. (which im not. Im upset but thats natural) then she said that we could do something over valentines day.</p>

<p>NOW here is when i said NO because to me, it felt like she was doing it because she felt bad, not because she liked me but i've been told by some of my friends that no, she was taking this opportunity to actually ask me out cause after I promposed to her, she knew if she did ask me out, I would definitely say yes!</p>

<p>I was wondering how to tell this girl I liked her for some time now. So how this was done was that the girl asked me when i first saw her on friday. "so which of the two asians are ur valentines
The girl then asked if i gave a rose to the any of them and i said no, because I don’t want to spend money on girls I don’t like. Later in the changeroom, i acted and brought up the topic again and I asked her if i should have bought the azns a rose afterall. and she said well ya thats so dumb of you. and i said this: "WELL, im not going to spend four bucks on a girl i dont like. Do you know how much four bucks is?
so i basically made myself look like a complete dick on purpose so when i promposed to her with a half a dozen roses, it really hit home Imo.</p>

<p>My question is this</p>

<p>1) Should I have said yes to her asking me out? I felt that this was out of sympathy and that she felt bad for me but some friends suggest that , she was taking this opportunity to actually ask me out cause after I promposed to her, she knew if she did ask me out, I would definitely say yes!</p>

<p>2) Is there any way to get back to that phase to "ask her out" or has that oppurtunity came and went? In other words SHOULD I ASK THE GIRL I JUST PROMPOSED TO A DATE!?</p>

<p>3) She said she's going to tell me who asked her on Wednesday, I reallyyyyyyyyyy curious as to who it is but I'm afraid not only will it be awkward it will make me dislike this dude alot but im dying to know!</p>

<p>4) I'm asking another girl on Tuesday, You think I should add that I already have a date just so she knows that I'm just curious which is why im asking and not because im unwilling to accept that fact? (Which i am) </p>

<p>Thanks for the help everyone, I know it was a long statement but I have to get it out there.</p>

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<p>Tooooo complicated, way too much drama bruh.
Way too much drama. </p>

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<p>ugh I know, but I’m extremely into this girl and I’m not sure what to do…my life feels like a movie right now both in a good and bad way if you know what im saying. :/</p>

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<p>Since it’s second semester of senior year, you should be inclined to ask yourself; “Will all of this matter in 1, 5, or 10 years?” - you might be really into her now, but that isn’t gonna be the case 6 months from now, presumably. </p>

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<p>I don’t have any regrets about anything I’ve done with girls, but I regret a lot of the things I didn’t do. Might as well try, you know?</p>

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<p>Um… I think you are overanalyzing. If I read your story right, she had already accepted a prom date with someone else, but does want to go out with you. If she were the type to back out of a commitment she had already made, she might not be someone you would want to date anyway. So ask her out again to do something else, but leave the date a little open (like, do you want to see such and such a movie with me or go out to eat) – then if she does want to go out you can pick a date that works for both of you.</p>

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<p>so intparent, you’re saying that I should take a shot, ask her out and see how things go?</p>

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<p>I would probably hold off on asking some other girl to prom until you tell this girl you like her/ask her out and find out who asked her to prom.</p>

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<p>@ apkid3</p>

<p>why would it matter who asked her? As well, I did tell her I liked her. I deliberately said that i wouldn’t spend four dollars on two girls I don’t like yet I was willing to buy her half a dozen roses. You know what I mean??</p>

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<p>Maybe it is someone she knows you don’t like that asked her… or a friend of yours. Just calm down… too much drama and she won’t want to deal with you at all. Yes, I think you should ask her out again. I think you built the prom proposal up a lot in your mind, and now are overreacting because she had already made a commitment to someone else for that night.</p>

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<p>ya I did. Hmm, ok so just keep it cool and ask her out again later. If she does say yes to a date, you think it’d be fine if I asked another girl? My logic is that she’s going out with me but prom with another guy so why should I with another girl?</p>

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<p>Mmm… that is a little tricky. I can see that you might want to go to prom. But taking another date could cause problems. At our kid’s school lots of kids go to prom in groups without a specific date. Can you do that? If it just ‘isn’t done’, do you have a friend you can ask as “just friends” who might want to go?</p>

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<p>Christ man, she just doesn’t seem like she’s worth your time. Go with a group of friends…or even stag.</p>

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<p>@ hurdle1996</p>

<p>Why do you say that??</p>

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<p>Well why won’t she tell you? If i was asked by a guy then another guy asked me I would tell them i’ve already been asked and if the second guy said who well yeah I would tell them. Idk she seemed not that into you and now she is…it might be because you asked her and she feels bad or that she really likes you. It just seems over dramatic…</p>

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<p>@ hurdle1996</p>

<p>no no you misunderstood. I asked her to prom and she was in near tears WHEN she told me someone else had asked her just hours before. At the end of the shift, she asked if I wanted to do something for valentines to which I declined.</p>

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<p>Anyways I asked her out!</p>

<p>though I was still nervous, I managed to pull it off without stuttering like an idiot. She was leaving class with a girl friend of hers. I said “hey, *girls name, can I talk to you.” She said. “Ya sure,” and said bye to her friend. I said sorry for being a ■■■■■ yesterday. She said “Omg * my name, stop being so silly!” so I asked her if she was avliable this Saturday or Sunday and she said…”you realise prom is still months away right?” I told her that this wasn’t for prom but im taking you out. She pauses for a second here and then says. “we still have to work together.” I shrugged and I asked if she knew where the minigolf place was and she said ya. I told her we could go there and catch a movie or dinner after that. She pauses for a moment and then says “I’m free Saturday I THINK BUT NO GURATENEES!” I said yep no worries and she said that she’d text me. </p>

<p>What do you guys think and you think she’s going to say yes??</p>

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<p>^ I think she’s going to tell you what she said…she’ll go if she’s not busy.
You’re being really dramatic. She already said she’d go out with you eventually, who cares whether it’s Saturday or March 3rd? Relax. For real though. </p>

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<p>??? she never said she’d go out with me eventually. All she asked me was if i wanted to do somethnig for valentines. I was planning to ask her out for march break but I decided to ask earlier</p>

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Yeah…she wants to go, calm down. I suggest you breathe. You shouldn’t be making 6+ threads about this topic. Just relax and see what happens.</p>