<p>It’s doable. I guess I’m considered “pre-med” since I’m taking the prereq courses. My bf is pre-med as well. We are both good students except he’s like 100x smarter than me and will always have a perfect gpa.</p>
<p>I stumbled onto this topic while surfing the internet. I am a graduate of a good engineering college, not pre-med, and I intend to start work pretty soon.</p>
<p>That being said, my experience is that one should stay away from relationships in college, whether undergraduate, or medical school. The only place I would think relationships have a chance is for those getting a PhD because they basically have a real job for 5+ years.</p>
<p>Of course, this means a man leaves college inexperienced, but besides the experience, it is a pain for a man to start a relationship in college. It’s real simple; you’re about to finally taste freedom, have lots of money, and enjoy a life that is yours 100%. However, you have someone that is tied to you, who will most likely influence career decisions, who will most likely be in a long term relationship, etc…</p>
<p>If you’re a doctor, once you get out, you’ll be king of the hill as far as dating is concerned. You have nurses, you have the whole American “doctors and lawyers” mentality, you have a lot of money, a great stable job. Heck, all you have to do is wait to get out, and then you won’t have to worry about dealing with a partner that is just as overachieving as you, or working somewhere else. You’ll be the most eligible bachelor around as a doctor, why would you want to spoil that and pain your future.</p>
<p>As for the Indian guy who can’t get an Indian girlfriend… dude, just go to India, tell them you’re an American doctor, and I’m pretty sure you’ll have all the options a man could desire. So like I said, don’t get attached to overachieving college girls, cramp your new found freedom, change your career decisions, etc… when you’re just about to hit the jackpot and taste your freedom. Enjoy it a little bit and taste some of the options outside of your palace of overachievement, you might be pleasantly surprised.</p>
<p>Yeah… that is a philosophy that most people wouldn’t want to subscribe to.</p>
<p>NAFTA, your post is ridiculous…were you just ■■■■■■■■? If not, ***? I can’t even start pointing out how many things I disagree with in your post.</p>
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This is almost like colonization all over again, except that this time they are “conquered” by the privileged class of the same ethnic group, who have the privilege to come to US and then take advantage of the real or perceived unequal economical status over the unprivileged who can not afford this opportunity.</p>
<p>I still believe what Princess’Dad once posted: the relation starting from college days tends to be more stable. But I also acknowlege that there is some difficulty because all students may go all over the places after graduation. The situation may be somewhat better if you go to an in-state college and then go to an in-state medical school. This is because in-staters tend to stay in-state after graduation, unless that state does not provide any job opportunity.</p>
<p>I don’t see anything wrong with NAFTA’s post.</p>
<p>Thanks woeishe, at least someone is keeping it real.</p>
<p>Ladies and gentleman, all is fair in love and war. If you’re some Indian guy who cannot get some, you need to use every weapon at your disposal. In his case, he has the biggest one around, being an educated doctor with a great future. So when some woman from India goes for him, she’s actually being pretty smart, because her kids are going to have a decent life, she’ll have a decent life, and everyone will live happily ever after. Doesn’t mean she’s only marrying for the money, but the prospect of a better life is perfectly natural, and perfectly fine reason to add as a credential to a bachelor.</p>
<p>Oh, but I guess instead she should just date a local, who is at the same socio-economic level so she can get a “politically correct” card and be proud of it. Look India is no joke, you can have a B.S. in computer science there, which will teach you less useful stuff than here, but even so, you’re only looking at a tiny apartment, on the periphery of Bombay. I know because I have friends in this situation. It’s not pretty.</p>
<p>Oh, and after she marries said local, she can come on CC and tell you how happy she was not to be “colonized.” I’ll be the first to give her an All American kudos.</p>
<p>But back to the original topic. Here’s another dirty truth. The person you lose your virginity to is seared into your brain’s chemical mechanism. Ever had a friend who had a girlfriend for a while, then they split, and his new girlfriend is eerily similar in looks? That’s the reason, it’s a dopamine reaction, and it’s messed up.</p>
<p>What does this have to do with college relationships? Well, you’re 19 or 20, barely out of the prison called high school, in a place that maybe you did not really, really choose to be in, and now, with no real freedom in your life, you go and sick your brain onto another. I guess you could forego sex, but let’s face it, you probably won’t, and before you know it you’re “going to an in-state medical school” to be with a woman that may, or may not, be the right woman for you. Oh, and you might also break up, after picking your in-state school over a better one.</p>
<p>All because nobody told you to have some patience, wait up, and use that college education and freedom as a way to really think about who you want, and as leverage.</p>
<p>Munch on this for a little longer. If you’re a slightly nerdy, not too social, not ugly but you ain’t pretty either, and certainly not one of those smart asses that got all the girls in h.s., college will not treat your relationship prospects much better. Once you get out though, and you have a real major, all of a sudden people are coming to you, and you have choices that you never thought possible. I mean so many choices, they will blow your mind; you just don’t see it when you’re in the system busting your but studying.</p>
<p>You’re not in engineering college or med-school anymore, competing with people of your same background. You’re in the ocean of society where you are the elite; it may sound conceited, but who cares, you worked hard for it, don’t be ashamed to use it.</p>
<p>One more point of notice here. I’m not telling you to go out with women and act like a conceited “I’m a doctor, look at me.” That’s stupid, be yourself and hopefully that means you can carry a conversation, flirt a little, and have some intellectual knowledge in your noggin. I’m just saying the fish will gravitate towards you at an increased rate.</p>
<p>Since you talk about Indians living in US (not native American Indians), by any chance, does anybody know whether there is a gender imbalance for South Asian Indian population living in US? (I do not know. But in my working field, there are a LOT of highly educated (young) Indians, males as well as females.)</p>
<p>According to this article,</p>
<p>[China</a> faces population imbalance crisis - Times Online](<a href=“The Times & The Sunday Times: breaking news & today's latest headlines”>The Times & The Sunday Times: breaking news & today's latest headlines)</p>
<p>They are severe short of brides due to its one child policy. (“short of 30 million brides within 15 years.”)</p>
<p>Go produce daughtors instead of sons if you are of this particular ethnic group, if this is the reality :)</p>
<p>No there is no gender imbalance in the South Asian Indian Population in the US. There are roughly equal number of males as females. This isn’t the 1800s where most immigrants were mainly males. </p>
<p>As far as NAFTA is concerned, I stopped reading your post after the first paragraph because it was ridiculous. Just let this thread die.</p>
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<p>^^^ Thats because there is a gender bias against females in some eastern cultures. (esp. in rural areas, not so much in urban areas).</p>
<p>I say things in a real, no b.s., “truth is truth when it’s a little ugly” manner.</p>
<p>This is what this guy said about med school relationships: <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/pre-med-topics/867110-med-school-relationships.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/pre-med-topics/867110-med-school-relationships.html</a></p>
<p>I will quote him. Before I do, he put some educated sugar on top, and nobody got upset at him. All the moms we’re like “yeah, you’re so right mister, good advice.” Said the same thing I did, just nicer.</p>
<p>"Quote: Finding a classmate as a future spouse in medical school sounds plausible. My son responded just like that when I went through the career planning with him. I asked him if he likes to have two to three kids. Yes, he replied. I then asked him what would happen if his doctor wife had to quit her job to take care of kids?
While finding a med school classmate as a future spouse is possible, a much more likely scenario is finding non-physician medical professional as a spouse. Single house officers are very eligible bachelors/bachelorettes in any hospital. As long as you are polite, courteous and treat people like, well, people, you will have no problem meeting potential spouses in the hospital.</p>
<p>If you do complete medical school and residency without meeting a potential spouse, you will emerge as a never-married professional with an excellent career ahead of you. Again, if you are a decent guy and treat people well, you should have no problems.</p>
<p>BTW, a significant fraction of women earning medical degrees do not work full-time five years after completing residency.
The Physician Workforce: Projections and Research into Current Issues Affecting Supply and Demand"</p>
<p>Wow, and nobody got angry at him. That shows a lot about our society. You can call a spade a spade, but only if you call it a “tool for moving soil”. Haha, anyway, thank God for the internet.</p>