<p>Cute girl in my biology class, majoring in chemistry ... I flirt/converse with her on a regular basis. Have already attained her number + and have shared several text correspondences. Next week is spring break ... She will be staying at her local home, I will remain at residential housing. What is the best approach for inviting her to hang out with me??</p>
<p>Just ask. Don’t over think it, don’t plan out the conversation in your head. Next time you see her, just ask.</p>
<p>Honestly, the majority of girls like the forward approach. The most unattractive thing I’ve ever encountered is a guy who was afraid to ask me out. I thought he was cute, interesting, didn’t know him all that well, but he tried to get my friend to ask me out for him–and that’s when I stopped liking him.</p>
<p>More brutal honesty: Girls generally already know if they want to date you or not. Putting more time on the clock isn’t going to help you. So go ahead and put your cards out there, and find out where you stand.</p>
<p>In this situation, you’d be better off just asking her out. Just tell her that you’re interested in her and want to take the relationship you currently have with her to a whole new level. After all, you already flirt with her. Just ask her out casually and see how it goes.</p>
<p>Best of luck to ya!</p>
<p>Is it more preferable to be either assertive/aggressive or yielding/receptive? Also, when I “flirt” with her I do it with the intention of being friendly … Do all girls automatically assume that I’m “hitting on them” - or, are the able to consciously distinguish between the two??</p>
<p>Oh, for Pete’s sake!!! Just ask her. You’re over thinking this. Sorry for being blunt here, but from one guy to another… it’s time you grew a pair and got some confidence. </p>
<p>If you got along with a guy in class and could see yourself as friends with him. You’d ask if he wanted to get a beer or something. You wouldn’t over think it. You wouldn’t need to build up your confidence to ask. You wouldn’t obsess on how exactly you’d ask. You’d just ask. The words would flow out naturally. </p>
<p>And it would not end your friggin’ world if he was busy and didn’t want a beer. You’d probably say something like: “OK. Some other time. See ya tomorrow.” And guess what? You’d see him tomorrow and there wouldn’t be any weirdness. You’d still get along, just like you were getting along before. </p>
<p>And why is that? Because that guy doesn’t define you. You’re actually offering him an opportunity to be friends with you… not hoping upon hope to be friends with him. If he doesn’t take you up on it, no big deal. You probably have a bunch of other friends and didn’t really need another anyway.</p>
<p>Little difference here… other than that wonderful fact they have different private parts. But you should behave with her the same way… Be relaxed and just suggest getting together. If she doesn’t take you up on it, no big deal. There will be a lot of other girls in your life, believe me. </p>
<p>Heck, you might find she’s a freak or something. Then you’d feel pretty stupid that you were obsessing about this, eh? Think about that while you ask her out.</p>