<p>There is no doubt a large history of racism, especially towards black people. This really saddens me. There is racism towards white people and others; however, it is nothing to the extent the black community has faced. </p>
<p>My point: not all white people are racist. Many, including myself, try incredibly hard to not be racist.</p>
<p>Why should you TRY to not be racist? How about you just DON’T BE RACIST?</p>
<p>Wwwooooaaahhh. No one said all white people are racist. We just want some diversity in school. </p>
<p>Tis all.</p>
<p>^ beachlover “try” is the wrong word. You are correct.</p>
<p>Thank you :)</p>
<p>@GoToCC
I feel like this thread would make a lot more sense to you if you were african american. There are some experiences that are shared by a culture that are almost exclusive to that person. I think that this topic is one that you would have to experience rather than just imagine what it’s like.</p>
<p>im just skimming through this because im a black female girl and i am a junior and i am trying to skim down my college list. my state school is the only one where there are actually black people haha, like rest of list is like 8% max. ive grown up in a predominantly white DC suburb. My friends call me an oreo, etc, similar to many of your experiences. I am really becoming conflicted w this because i WANT to have black, smart, educated, passionate friends as an adult, and really hope to find them in college. But if i go to a school w barely any black people, will they be too hard to find? I also naturally get alone w the white people i meet more because I am more like them, i dont tend to identify w most blacks who come from different backgrounds than i do. I tend to only get along w blacks who, like me, are called oreos, etc. I am really afraid that this will be a huge issue for me in college and in my young adult life. I hope to have black friends who are like me, I am just not sure where to find them!
I wonder what african americans experience on campus’s that are mostly white. My siblings both went to a state school ( their experiences were different). My sister was in a selective program for minorities (all her friends were black–very different from her HS experience). She simple became accustomed. She was still called white girl, but she got along w them fine.
I wonder how blacks feel though. Are they closer because there are so few of them? Are they extremely segregated from the rest of the school pop (ive read this about a few schools, some Ivys in particular-- this worries me because that is exactly what i fear, becoming segregated). I like white friends, and i think it is really important to be able to operate around white people bc they are more dominant in our society.
sorrrry ranting</p>
<p>sorry also:</p>
<p>you guys find non-black men who are wanting to date you? my experience in an EXTREMELY WHITE HS has been that many upper class whites (the type at my school and the types at top 25s) date within their race, their fratty or their preppy or their lacrosse players or their ******y, but they date and hook up within their race.
Major props to you at my school if your black and are dating someone white.</p>
<p>I think you need to be careful with your mindset. In college, a lot more black people will be offended with you referring to yourself or other black people as an oreo. This shows to some degree that you are a traitor to your own race even though that may not be true or may not be the message you intend to get across. I’d also say that you shouldn’t promote black people who date non-black people because that could also make you look like a traitor even if it’s not intentional. Respect a black persons decision to date someone white but do not tell people they are better than someone else because that disrespects the quality of the black man/woman. </p>
<p>If you want to meet more black people, just join black organizations. You can easily make a ton of black friends your first semester this way, even if your school doesn’t have that many black people. The black people in these organizations aren’t going to be black supremacists so you shouldn’t have anything to worry about given that you consider yourself somewhat of an oreo. Many of these black people will be smart and passionate just like you. If your school is big enough, it should have a ton of black organizations including African-American, African, Carribean, and plain black organizations. You don’t have to be of those origins to join them, either. Probably not too many non-black people will approach you unless you are super attractive because black women in general in the U. S. were voted the least desirable.</p>
<p>“least desirable”</p>
<p>Trueee.</p>
<p>Nothing brightens my day like knowing I’m “least desirable” because of the skin color I was born with.</p>
<p>
This post isn’t serious, right? No way this can be serious. </p>
<p>If you’re attractive, you’re attractive. If you’re welcoming, you’re welcoming. Sure there will be guys that don’t see that, but there will be many more that will be drawn to you. If a guy is turned off by your race, it’s ok. He’s a non-factor. ;)</p>
<p>“Probably not too many non-black people will approach you unless you are super attractive because black women in general in the U. S. were voted the least desirable.”</p>
<p>…wow</p>
<p>But it’s so obvi that, like, all black women are hideous. </p>
<p>/sarcasm</p>
<p>thanks sadhippo! i wasn’t like endorsing or denouncing any type of dating preferences, just sharing my experiences. I know alot more black guys who date white girls than white guys who date black girls (yes i am aware those are not the only two races)</p>
<p>idk im worried that joining so many black orgs will further the dichotomy im trying to escape. like i have heard that many of those top schools are often (for the most part) extremely self segregating. Where the black girls who don’t rush are just completely isolated from social life outside of their black orgs. Not because anyone’s excluding them, but that’s the natural dichotomy…which is honestly sad.</p>
<p>I am not trying to put anyone down but rather try to be honest with my interpretation of society. I actually like black girls but for me to say that I like black girls does not increase your chance of a non-black guy approaching you. It is true that black women were voted the least desirable for U.S. women…that’s not something that I have control over.</p>
<p>Many black people I know consider a black man/woman a traitor if he/she dates interracially which is why I mentioned that. I don’t fully know why it is that way but some will not care and some will view you as being a traitor is all I can say.</p>
<p>To try to be optimistic for you guys, I will say that the combination of marriage with the lowest divorce rate in the country (interracial and same race) is a black woman with a white man. This marriage is 44% less likely to divorce than an all white marriage. If you want a non-black partner, it is very possible. In fact, a lot of non-black people will want to approach you but some of them won’t because of fear and stereotypes from the media. I’d say just be yourself and remain nice to others and it could happen.</p>
<p>Well, maybe don’t overload on black organizations if you want a balance in friends. Or, you can join a Hispanic organization and an Asian organization to compliment your black organization and you will be super diverse! They will love having you even if you aren’t Asian or Hispanic.</p>
<p>As an AA female being called an Oreo is a disguised insult. It’s like saying “you’re one of us” but at the same time it’s insulting your AA counterparts. </p>
<p>Also, I ma mostly attracted to white males, but do they ever say hi, do thyey over come up to me? No. I’m preppy, I’m smart, I play preppy-like sports (if that even makes sense lol) I’m well mannered and I fit the bill of the type of girl they would want to date…except for one thing. </p>
<p>I dunno, if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. :/</p>
<p>A girl can only wish haha :P</p>
<p>btw, OP, I decided to go to a school with more diversity and I love it. I’ve made more AA friends and my opinion on most AA people has changed dramatically. I feel as if i’ve accepted a part of myself in a way that I could not have if I had attended a primarily white school.</p>
<p>and @sadhippo,</p>
<p>I hope that you’re approaching these young ladies because most of the time they will not approach you, or at least that’s what i’ve noticed from personal experience.</p>
<p>I have next to zero black people in my classes at my school but there are many of them in my black organizations. Some black girls will approach me to try to talk to me but only to be friends. I approach and meet a lot of black girls and we become friends and they always talk to me when they see me. But I never hit on any of them because I am not looking for a girlfriend since ill be moving soon and plus I want others to think I am taking the organization seriously and not there to pick up black women.</p>