Hello all - my daughter has been accepted to a school and may have the option to board (depends on finances).
We live 1 hour and 20 minutes from the school, in mountainous terrain, where the winter driving can be dicey. There is a bus for students from our county.
(She currently attends a school that’s an hour away, with the same driving risks, and is a day student there; no boarding option).
I am leaning toward trying to have her board, but she is opposed. She says she values her privacy (she’s 15) and would miss home too much. I know that she is very resistant to change of any kind, and I think that is driving this more than anything, plus the typical self-consciousness of most teens. She’s not comfortable at all with things like locker rooms, etc.
The school is about 40% boarders, so not the traditional mix, from what I’ve read about other boarding schools. I don’t think there is any us-against-them with boarders/day students because of this ratio, but I honestly am just guessing on this.
I feel she could miss out on a lot of the pluses of this school by not boarding. She has managed to combine homework with several ECs at her current school, but late nights and travel frequently leave her exhausted, and she rarely gets together with school friends, who are all a long way from us.
If she has the option to remove the commute, I think she should take it, and that’s my overriding concern here – how much better her life could be without three hours of commuting every day (even though we’d miss her like crazy).
I’m probably preaching to the choir, here, I know – but do y’all have any guidance or insights, either way?
Thanks in advance!