Boarding Schools and sex

LOL! It’s precisely because it DID that I worry!!! I feel grateful and lucky that back then no one captured and posted our shenanigans for the world to see and to be kept in perpetuity. I agree about the open communication. I see that as a positive outcome of our kids being much more public about themselves than we were. My parents never talked to me about anything other than to say “don’t do this, this or this, and certainly don’t get caught.”

Yeah, the perils of social media and the possibility of evidence are certainly an unfortunate and new wrinkle!

Based on bitter experience, the first question we asked at each BS we’ve visited in the last year was,”How many girls in this dorm, how many dorm parents, and how many Proctors/RA’s?”

One former dean opined that with three dorm parents for 38 girls, “They’re in survival mode, and about all we can expect them to do is count noses.” Didn’t work for us.

Ironically my daughter left HS because she felt all the social activity revolved around going to unsupervised psrties, getting drunk and hooking up. So I’m not sure any boarding school is “worse” than HS.

@Garandman I’d love any insights you might share re: supervision etc from your visits. PM is fine.

@Garandman How is “dorm parents” defined? I think that is another thing worth knowing. Some faculty connected to the dorm actually live in the dorm. Others don’t but can be on duty one or more nights per week. Is that acceptable to you? And if 3 isn’t enough, what do you think a good ratio is?

In my opinion, proctors/prefects serve a limited role, albeit it an important one, but they aren’t a replacement for paid adults with in loco parentis duties.