<p>Alright, so I know what you're thinking "Wrong place to post this"... but... it does relate to school! Alright, well pretty much my boyfriend is being really controlling. He does not trust me, he is always questioning me. And I am not allowed to do anything. He is way too serious with this relationship, like talks about getting married and stuff, and I am a junior in high school for heavens sake! Anyway I want to be a kid, and experience life, and explore, but I feel like I can't do that. I could talk to him, but he will get mad that I am wanting to be able to do what I want (like drink or do pot IF i wanted, not that I do). Idk know what to do. I feel like he controlls my life. Like I told him I wanted to go to a instate college and he flipped and told me I should go to MIT or Oxford. And this was never my dream! I want to graduate early... and they won't accept me. What do I do? I feel so fake and controlled. And after he yelled at me publicly for something I didn't do, and didn't trust me when I told him I didn't, I am not sure how worth it this is.
I do like him, I just am not sure I can do this. Like if i don't say "I love you" to him, he gets scared. If i post a status on facebook that is negative, he thinks it is about him. I can't do this... it is dumb... help?</p>
<p>Also, I am his first girlfriend, which makes this worse… I don’t want to hurt him.</p>
<p>Give him a BJ.</p>
<p>But seriuosly, break up.</p>
<p>Hahahahahah… I don’t want to hurt him!!! Like scared! really! he is coming over today, should I wait until he gets here to talk? or make it less awkward and text him?</p>
<p>Fine, be that way!</p>
<p>This is a time to break up because this relationship could lead to physical abuse or distress because he isn’t going to let you out of his sight. There’s a movie that I saw in school about this.</p>
<p>If you still want to have a relationship with him, I would suggest you talk to him. However, if you are being restricted and aren’t content with dating him, I would suggest you break up with him. You don’t want to force yourself to be in those situations out of sympathy or fear. Do what is best for you.</p>
<p>You really don’t want to drag this kind of relationship onto senior year (college?! nasty breakups…). It’s your life and you should be able to make your own choices :] Talk to him about it seriously and then make your decision.</p>
<p>Wow… marriage… Sounds like this guy has issues, seriously. Talk to him about it, if not, cut and run.</p>
<p>Wow, he knows that you guys are a couple, and that he’s not your father, right? Sounds like this guy’s really possessive… I’d say you should just tell him what’s wrong with him and end it</p>
<p>sounds like his expectations are too high and he already thinks of you as a couple. when you haven’t had many relationships you tend to not view them realistically. it doesn’t make him creepy or anything…just naive.</p>
<p>if i were you i’d let him know how you feel about him. it’ll do him a favor and get him off your back. just try and be nice about it. and make it clear to him that you’re not breaking up with him or saying he’s bad. (well, unless you want to.)</p>
<p>I think you should break up with him, you guys are obviously not on the same page.</p>
<p>Break up with him NOW. if you don’t do it now, you will regret it later. and its eventually gonna hurt you more than its gonna hurt him so do it.</p>
<p>Get rid of him like…NOW! It is just going to continuously get worse…I mean it’s somewhat okay to have someone that is that possessive of you when you are…married, but you just need to end that. People think I’m possessive when I text my gf “What are you up to” when I’m not with her!</p>
<p>Edit: Oh just read the first girlfriend part. You still need to end it, but often times guys take their first relationship way out of hand.</p>
<p>Run, Forest, Run!</p>
<p>Seriously. Run. He sounds a little off center.
Or at the very least, should you actually want to stay with him, discuss the problems you’re having with him. He may be genuinely unaware of the way he’s behaving.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. I will talk to him, but to be quite honest, I am scared to talk to him in person. So I will talk to him tonight over IM. I mean I am afraid he will cry or something. He says he is in love with me, and all that. And I am not quite sure what love is. Ugh… I mean I’ve had dreams about other guys… how much could I like him? He just thinks that this is going to last forever. He talks about prom and stuff, and then college together maybe. Idk. But thanks for the advice! I am not sure if I want to break up with him, I could going to get him mad so he breaks up with me, is that a bad idea?</p>
<p>I think you’ve answered your own question.
It seems like ending it would be the best route. If he cries, well…people cry. He’ll stop eventually. (Seriously, I can’t stand guys who cry [I have issues with my father who always cried when I was a child]. I would leave him on that basis alone, haha.)</p>
<p>But it’s not fair to you or him to remain in a relationship that you (seem) unhappy in.</p>
<p>Yeah, but he is SO depressed. I feel like if I dump him he’s going to go crazy or something. Or hate women. I mean I like him as a person, and we were really good friends before we started dating. But now he is just possesive as hell. Like as soon as I get on the comp he IM’s me. He texts me as soon as he is awake, the whole day! He says I love you whenever he is really happy, it makes me wonder if he’s confusing love with something else, maybe happiness.
Is there anyway I can do this nicely? Suggestions? I want to be able to make my own decisions… could I tell him: Let me be a kid. Let me grow and decide what is best with my life. If you can’t handle that, then we need to break up.
Would that work?
■■■… idk how to do this. I am mean to him this is REALLY serious. Like we are presdestined to marry each other and have children.</p>
<p>Getting him mad would be a bad idea. It might even backfire :P</p>
<p>You should just tell him that you’re not ready for a serious relationship; and that you really can’t be committed to something so indefinite so early in your life. Good luck :]</p>
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This sounds like a reasonably nice way to break it to him.</p>
<p>He is so nice and sweet… god… idk. I want to stay friends if possible.
Like I was telling him about one of my ex’s, whom I am really good friends with, and he freaked out and said he started crying because he didn’t want to lose me. ***?1? Lol. that is ridiculous, I just was telling him about hanging out with him earlier that day.</p>