<p>i'm a female HS junior. i am in a serious relationship (13 months) with a freshman in college.</p>
<p>he deliberately chose our flagship U so that, when i got to 11th grade, i could dual-enroll there and we could hang out that way</p>
<p>he wants me to stay the night in his dorm, but i'm not sure, as we've never slept together....</p>
<p>what should i do?</p>
<p>you dont' sound ready. tell him you're not. if he acts like a jerk or pressures you, dump him. i know its textbook, but what else can be said.</p>
<p>theres the whole pedophilia thing too...</p>
<p>If you're not absolutely sure, DON'T DO IT!</p>
<p>Save it for somebody you really love, because without love it's not worth it and you WILL regret it. </p>
<p>Take it from somebody with personal experience.</p>
<p>Better to abstain than to regret.</p>
<p>Hes trying to set ur probably adorable asss up... well not directly, but cmon now. He wants you to sleep over is exactly what it sounds like and if you are in anyway uncomfortable/not ready, speak up girl! [(sorry, Kat, Im hella preaching again but...)] you gotta know that your a treasure, not some sexual target for him to aim for! Damn Boys.</p>
<p>You could totally spend the night with him without doing anything sexual! Just reject him when he tries to make a move. He might be disappointed, but at least he'll know it's because of the sex, not because you hate him or something.</p>
<p>Just spend the night watching scary movies and confessing intimate secrets, like in all sleepovers.</p>
<p>*But, gentle friend, for love and courtesy
Lie further off; in human modesty,
Such separation as may well be said
Becomes a virtuous bachelor and a maid,
So far be distant; and, good night, sweet friend:
Thy love ne'er alter till thy sweet life end!</p>
<p>--A Midsummer Night's Dream.*</p>
<p>fizix, ten bucks says u r voting for obama</p>
<p>and what's that supposed to mean?
(sorry, I don't follow politics.)</p>
<p>Epic Thread In The Making</p>
<p>"You could totally spend the night with him without doing anything sexual! Just reject him when he tries to make a move. He might be disappointed, but at least he'll know it's because of the sex, not because you hate him or something."</p>
<p>Actually he's right.
I spend the night with my boyfriend all the time and we don't do anything sexual. Shocker I know.</p>
<p>PS: I'm not voting for Obama.</p>
<p>haha, sry it was an audacity of hope reference. Obama is generally considered intelligent yet extremely idealistic.
I was soo jping btw... and yea, one definetely can spend the night without sex, lol but its rather difficult</p>
<p>Lol, not really. He respects my decision and any guy who doesn't respect a girl's decision isn't worth said girl's time.</p>
<p>Haha, I ment it would be hard for me!</p>
<p>Well, you're the only one who really knows your boyfriends. When he says that he wants you to "sleepover," does he mean that he wants you to sleep with him, or that he just wants to "hang out?" And, if you're not ready to sleep with him, would he mind just hanging out?</p>
<p>Either way, if you posted this thread, you're probably not ready to sleep with him.</p>
<p>if you're honestly asking that question, then you're obviously not ready to do so...seriously, i would say some more stuff but you'll probably get really angry so i guess good luck to you and your college bf</p>
<p>13 months is a lot of time... still without that moment... nevertheless, if you're not ready, then don't do it.</p>
<p>Here's a word from a former hs junior girl (now mom of a hs senior girl)--DONT DO IT. You will never regret waiting, and you may always regret doing something that you are not fully and clearly ready to do.</p>
<p>As far as spending the night without "doing anything"--close proximity and a bit of alcohol may push you to do something you will regret the next day and for a long time. This is too important a decision to be made in the heat (pardon the pun) of the moment. Good luck, and be strong!</p>
<p>As stated by others, you are obviously not ready to have sex. I think if you make that clear to your boyfriend, there's no real harm in spending the night. Just make your intentions clear.</p>