Senior at Exeter here. Gonna get right into it: I think a lax dress code is doing far more harm than good, especially at a school with an environment like Exeter.
The theme that the modern media boarding school reputation has been built on is, essentially, a harsh challenge presented to students in large brick/stone buildings in the New England winter (see DPS, etc).
Now, this overall theme has led to student mental health problems over the last few hundred years, which has culminated in a culture shift in the recent past: no uniforms, less strict punishments, steps taken to improve staff-student relationships.
Yet, hereâs the truth: Exeter, Andover and truly âeliteâ prep schools pride themselves on their rigor and their prestige, and for a reason. The workload that the schools give - hours of homework every night from each class and the difficult sports and extracurriculars that most students engage in - have resulted in an austere environment amongst the student body, propagated (in part) by faculty. This is part of that aforementioned âboarding school themeâ, and it is not going away.
I believe that what the lax rules are doing is not helping; in fact, it is hurting. Students no longer feel the seriousness of attending a school like Exeter; they dress the same as any regular public school, they get off easy when breaking rules, they treat teachers as friends. Yet, the workload and pressure is that of an Ivy League university, if not worse. Resultantly, we have a clash where students are made to feel that they are normal, but they are expected to do the extraordinary. This does not create an environment where anyone can be happy.
If we went back to guidelines like mandatory dress shirts and ties and stricter policies, I believe that students would have a far easier time identifying what their experience truly is and what is expected of them, and students would be happier.
Unfortunately, the mental health perils are simply a result of rigor. If a school wishes to retain its academic excellence and prioritize student mental health, all it can do is make sure it picks students who are truly ready for the challenge.
Let me know what you all think.