<p>I can't believe this topic hasn't died yet. <em>Rips chainsaw through thread</em></p>
<p>dude..is this the thread where we started talking about people fancying their siblings and parents, charizard?? man, i thought i killed that thread... uhhhh.....what the.....okay...i haven't got a thing to say...</p>
<p>if the guy is hot, yes in any situation
if the guy is average, yes for ugly girls, no for hot girls
if the guy is ugly, no in any situation</p>
<p>and for guys it seems hotness and confidence are interchangeable, so its not like anyone is stuch being a '6'</p>
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"in fact, most of my best friends are guys"
And I will bet you 100$ that at least 50% of those guys have stronger feelings for you then you think (or at least a willingness to have them)
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<p>and if shes not attractive...?</p>
<p>hm, you're right, only if she's attractive. or attracts in some way (doesn't have to be 100% physical)
I was assuming she is, since she has more good friends. As far as i know and have seen, it's very rare that boys will hang around girls without ulterior motives.</p>
<p>I think it's possible, people need to learn a little discipline</p>
<p>I don't know. What I've realized is that a lot of times a girl is the guy's friend but he isn't really her friend...and vice versa.</p>
<p>being friends is cool.. but i just can't see a fruitful friendship developing from a guy-girl relationship because "feeling" is going to involved no matter how much u guard urself against it. why don't u develop a friendship witha guy with whom u will have more easier relationship and much much more fruitful one of mutual dependance. competition might arise between two males which is nice way to improve ur intellect, etc.</p>
<p>i think, a girl-guy friendship in its pure sense, with no sexual attraction, can exist between a sister (better that she be older) and a brother.</p>
<p>um yes why not? I have one. We're really close that we tell each other pretty much everything. People that know us always tease us and say we look like we're going out.</p>
<p>it can be possible! one thing I know is that probably for a guy is more difficult to accept he is in love with his best friend!</p>
<p>I make friends with boys much more easily than I do with girls (I'm a girl), mostly because I think girls can be very catty and boys are more fun to hang around. i have a great group of girl friends, though, and i'm a basically a girly girl (not a tomboy by any means, except that i can joke with the guys and not feel uncomfortable). sure, there's always a little sexual tension & plenty of flirting, but i've been able to make it work and have a lot of great friendships.</p>
<p>however, i have one guy friend with one of those horrible guy-girl relationships, where he had a girlfriend and i liked him but never told him, then i had a boyfriend and he liked me but didn't tell me, then my boyfriend broke up with me and he told me and i ended up with someone else and then we broke up and... basically, it's been 3 years of playing games and every time i think we can start something platonic, he brings up the fact that he "let me slip by" and it just gets weird again... not really a friendship worth the hassle.</p>
<p>This is a scary thread? Do you mean to say that American guys cannot be friends with girls? I'm Indian, I'm heading off to America. You mean 90% of the guys I want to will want to have sex with me?</p>
<p>I have three VERY good guy friends, two of whom regard me as their sister, I think, they don't like me anyway, because we've talked about it multiple times. (one thought he liked me once, but then he realised he was just stressed and I was the only one he was talking to about it). I haven't talked about it with the other guy, but considering we talk about computers and other technological things 99% of the time... and, well, I just do not think he likes me. I certainly don't like any of them.</p>
<p>Also, most of my other friends are also guys. I mean, I've never been to a movie with any girls, except my friend's little sister. I have been to places where there were like 17 guys and me, and I've been comfortable. </p>
<p>And I'm straight. Very very very straight. So are they. We talk about people they like.</p>
<p>This doesn't even cover online. I know lots of boys online, and I have had one crush :), which I forced myself (somehow) to tone down because he got a girl friend. I haven't ever thought about other people in a crush-y way. I mean, I've thought about the possibility, but then I always think "nahh"</p>
<p>Also, I don't think I'm unattractive. I'm not Miss Universe, but lots of people have said I'm pretty.</p>
<p>Given all this. I'd say boys and girls could be platonic friends very easily.</p>
<p>More than 6 months ago I would have said that it's possible. Now, not too sure....my 22-year old daughter met a boy in 10th grade when they both came to this town's high school for the first time. They went through high school and most of college as best friends, despite many of their friends and family constantly asking when they were going to date. Last October they reluctantly decided to see if it would work. Well, not only is it working, but they are over the moon in love! They started their romantic relationship 6 years ahead, so it's moving more quickly than usual. They most likely will be engaged this summer, and married in about 2 years, when both are done with their education and are settled. Friends and family could not be happier about it. Whatever kept them as best friends for all those years is the same thing that is working for them now. I'm thrilled!</p>
<p>i am new here</p>
<p>this is my first post</p>
<p>i think two can be friends whatever if they want.</p>
<p>i think friendship is possible with maybe 2% of the male population. the rest 98% no. i am a girl and this is coming from experience obviously and from what I have seen from others.</p>
<p>Face the facts girls. Guys don't want to just be friends with (most) girls. Guys don't want girls as only friends, they want a sexual partner. Being friends is a pointless relationship that has no benefit to a normal guy (like guys want to talk about makeup, how much of a crush the girl has on some guy in her class, how she feels about everything(and i mean everything!), and who has to listen to her complain/cry/moan when she has a(n) "insert problem here", and then get a hug(some see this as a tease) for all that crap that he had to put up with).</p>
<p>I don't want to sound mean but guys are looking for some fun/release just like girls are. We have our own problems to deal with and the last thing we want is more crap on our (metaphorical) plate. If anything, us guys have other guys to talk to who would be better suited to help out.</p>
<p>Girls who think that they have guy friends who don't want something are completely oblivious to reality. Girl/guy relationships are symbiotic, we both want something. Just because you(women) don't want to keep your side of the deal, doesn't mean men automatically want to keep theirs and gain nothing from it. You need to contribute!</p>
<p>Warning, the following completely hypothetical. Do not Flame.</p>
<p>Put this into perspective, if a guy came up to you(girl) and started automatically complaining, talking about their feeling, talking about some other girl, or even talking like a guy talks to other guys (i wont go into specifics, because i could get banned lol); you would probably run away and never talk to them or think they are weird or something. Don't deny this either girls, cause the majority would do it without even thinking about it. Guys would do the same thing if they didn't think there was something to be gained from it.</p>
<p>Guys aren't counselors! If you want to talk to someone, go to your local psychiatrist and pay 30$ like everyone else does, or talk to another girl about it!</p>
<p>I know this is a form of logical fallacy but, not one guy i have met has a friend thats a girl that they don't want to have sexual relations with, unless the guy finds her completely unattractive(which is rare because guys normally don't approach girls they aren't attracted to in some shape or form)...or they are using that girl as a means to an end(the girl has a friend the guy likes, tips on getting a girl, something like that). I have a few girls who are just friends, but either they wanted me once or i wanted them once... Men may look like we are just friends, but we defiantly are not looking to be just friends. Its an illogical relationship, and goes against nature!</p>
<p>ROF, I disagree. You're making a huge generalization about guys and girls.</p>
<p>Most of my friends are guys. Yeah, maybe some of them have some other things on their mind but if all of them are like that, I'm completely disgusted. I don't believe they're all like that what so ever.</p>
<p>And uh...I'm a girl and I don't talk about my "feelings" every 2 seconds. Nah, I got other things on my mind just like I'm sure (and hope) that guys have other things on their mind than a booty call.</p>
<p>im a guy and one of my best friends is a girl. i don't have a crush on her, i just want to be friends. i think at one point i did like her but that was before we were friends. then i got to know her and thought to myself why risk a great thing. well now she is an amazing friend. so yes a guy and a girl can be best friends with out a relationship.</p>
<p>Man this is so lame... I made ultimate mistake in closing off a date:
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"So can I call you?"
"Uh... yeah sure."
"No, I mean... can I ask you out again?"
[long awkward pause]
"...I have to think about it. :confused:"
I then proceed to slip out the car after SHAKING HIS HAND (to keep things in context, I hardly ever hug my closest friends). I sped walk away.
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<p>Now he hasn't come to class in 3 weeks. It's weird. It's possible that he dropped the class in the early stage of the quarter and kept coming so that he could eventually ask me out. He would make an effort to sit next to me in every class and he was particularly anal about is notes which was contradictory to his laid-back nature to everything else we talked about. Even when he was late, he would sit next to me! (I usually sat in the middle of a row.) :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Sauron said:</p>
<p>being friends is cool.. but i just can't see a fruitful friendship developing from a guy-girl relationship because "feeling" is going to involved no matter how much u guard urself against it. why don't u develop a friendship witha guy with whom u will have more easier relationship and much much more fruitful one of mutual dependance. competition might arise between two males which is nice way to improve ur intellect, etc.</p>
<p>i think, a girl-guy friendship in its pure sense, with no sexual attraction, can exist between a sister (better that she be older) and a brother.</p>
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<p>You can't be serious Sauron.....please....tell me it's a lie.....you can't be turning your back on Freudalian doctrine after years of pursuit of the one truth in the universe! <em>(The voice of Freud echoes through the room and his spectacled face appears in the clouds) Freud: What have you done! You have turned your back on your father, the father of your major. Come back to me son! Repent and I will grant you the understanding of new concepts in human behavior that have not yet been imagined in our nightmares. How supporting evidence for the secret attraction between men and man's best friend for starters, my genius and prodical son?</em>)</p>
<p>One of my best friends is a girl and we have known each other for 13 years. I have never wanted to date her and don't get me wrong she is a very beautiful woman. But for some reason I have never been attracted to her. So yes guys and girls can be friends and nothing more. not that the girl's boy friends like it but they have to because I can make or break the deal.</p>