Can I ask my roommate to not have her boyfriend stay over sometimes?

<p>Hi, I'll try and keep this short. </p>

<p>For the last six months my roommate has had her boyfriend spend the night 1-2 times per week. It hasn't been a big deal. They're pretty quiet and I usually never notice him being there. </p>

<p>Recently I started a new job that has me going to bed by 8pm a couple of nights per week so I can be there by 3:30am to work an 8 hour shift and then go to classes. Fun, I know.</p>

<p>My roommate is kind of a surly girl and just always seems like she's in a bad mood. She always pissed off at everyone because she's perfect and we all make mistakes. Lately I've been tired of the attitude. </p>

<p>Our house rule (for all of our housemates) is you have to ask if someone can spend the night. It's more of a formality than a real "I have to grant permission"sort of thing. I've never said no to him sleeping over, but sometimes I want to. Especially last week. I was so tired and just had bad day (something I don't have too often). Despite the fact that I hardly even noticed him being there I just didn't want an extra person in the house. Is that okay? Can I say no every once in a while?</p>

<p>Of course! You should make her aware of these feelings. Also, doesn’t he have a place she could stay if they must absolutely be together that night? She needs to understand that it’s your space too and some days you just need your time to not have to worry about extra people in your space. </p>

<p>Short answer: totally understandable and let her know</p>