<p>I feel so bad making this topic, but a few weeks ago I met my roommate for Fall 2009, well via facebook, and she seems to be a really nice person, but one thing I've seen clearly on her page, and things she's written on the college facebook group, is that she's completely against drinking, smoking, clubbing, etcc. </p>
<p>I don't go out like crazy, but I do enjoy it, and I don't smoke, but I have many friends who do, and I'm not bias against them because they do. I do drink and enjoy having crazy nights out, and I want it to be more so in college, but I was wondering if having a roommate who is completely anti all this might hinder my ''college experience''? </p>
<p>Haha I really don't know what to do, I already changed rooms once [room was in bad dorm], so I can't change now, and she seems nice, but she even SAID she's geeky & nerdy, loving video games, etc, and I'm like ahhhh because I don't want to spend my Saturdays and Fridays playing DDR in my room!</p>
<p>Sooo, will she be a problem? And on the first few days how do I distance myself from her without being rude, because I really don't want to cause a problem, but I want friends who like going out?</p>
<p>Why worry about it? Just because she’s your roomate doesn’t mean she has to be your best friend. That’s not to say you shouldn’t be on good terms with her but I don’t see any real conflict there. Most geeky people don’t tend to really care too much what other people are doing, as a major staple of a good geek is independence and a general lack of conformity.</p>
<p>If she’s sitting in his room on Friday and you want to go out and party, what’s stopping you? Just make sure you’re respectful about it and don’t flick on the light and drunkenly make a bunch of noise and I don’t see much conflict of interest there.</p>
<p>I know I, personally, am very geeky. I like to stay home and read or browse the internet as opposed to partying every weekend. I don’t smoke or drink, and I don’t bother with women. Despite this I’m very accepting of people that do and have friends that do all these things heavily. It’s unlikely she’s going to loathe you for doing the things you enjoy as long as you don’t bother her about it.</p>
<p>As for distancing yourself, just go about your business. If you want to go somewhere, go somewhere. Don’t bother making a conscious effort of it, just mind yourself and be polite and you should be fine. The most she’ll probably do is offer you to play a game at some point or something, and to this I’d say take up the offer! Might as well use this as an opportunity to broaden your experience base right?</p>
<p>The important thing is to lay out some ground rules and expectations when you guys move in. I don’t quite see how your future roommate can “hold you back,” since you two aren’t going to be doing everything together. It may be courteous to invite her to a couple of parties at the beginning of the year, but otherwise, there’s really no reason why you can’t drink just because she doesn’t. She may not like you to have parties in the room, but that won’t stop you from attending parties in other rooms. As in every rooming situation, respect and consideration are important.</p>
<p>Who knows? She might even change her mind halfway through the semester. Before college, I had never had more than a sip of an alcoholic beverage. I wasn’t big into parties either and didn’t drink at the few that I attended. Sophomore year, I stopped worrying about it so much and would drink in intimate settings (I still don’t like parties).</p>
<p>Oh wow…it’s not gonna be a problem. Not like you are obliged to hang out with someone just because she is your roommate. You’ll probably meet a bunch of other people who enjoys the same things as you</p>
<p>If you’re respectful of her views, she’ll be respectful of yours. Unless you stumble into the room wasted every night, she won’t care. And just because she’s playing DDR on Friday night doesn’t mean you have to do the same.</p>
<p>Definitely. This is a huge problem. Do not ever touch a video game system, or everyone on campus who drinks will hate you. Also, you should do your best to make sure that no one knows that your roommate doesn’t like to party, because you will be judged as “lame” and “uncool” by association. In fact, it is probably too late. At the first party you try to go to, the person at the door will probably see you and go “hey… aren’t you the girl from facebook who has the roommate who doesn’t party? You can’t come in, sorry.”</p>
<p>Real Deal: don’t have people smoke in your room, and don’t puke in the corner or on her stuff, and everything should be fine.</p>
<p>^^ exactly, it’s not like you’re joined at the hip. Be friendly toward her but do your own thing. Get out and meet other people in your dorm and classes in the early days of the semester and you shouldn’t have any problems.</p>
<p>Actually, I think your roomie will be an asset. It’s unlikely the parties will be in your room, which means that you can go to party when you want and then leave…and come back to a clean and quiet and sane space.</p>
<p>Of course you have the right to have people in the room too…just remember that she does as well and if you have parties in the room she is also entitled to have a group over to play video games or watch movies, etc.</p>
<p>And it’s always nice to give advance notice, as in, I’m having some people over tomorrow night if you want to join us…
And to expect the same notice from her</p>
<p>My brother had a terrible roommate at the beginning of freshman year and when he switched into a room with his best friend his social life seemed to explode.</p>
<p>My daughter was the geeky one (altho not that into videogames, lol). She lived in a triple her first year. One of her roommates partied heavily and frequently. The only problems were when she came back to the room at 4:30 a.m. being really loud, and smelling like smoke and liquor…and the two times she puked on their floor. They all remained friendly with each other, but daughter had much closer friends that lived down the hall, or on different floors. The party animal moved off campus with her partying friends for sophomore year, so everyone was happy.</p>
<p>I’m completely straightedge and I enjoy some video games (in moderation)! I’m not going to make my roommate just like me, or expect her to act just like me. Just because someone is different then you are doesn’t mean they are going to drag you down to be just like them. It’s great to be a different person than your roommate because in that way you can compliment each other as a pair and expand your views people that are different than you are. I’m a strong Christian and that doesn’t entail me yelling at my roommate to go to church with me or force them to read the Bible. A lesbian roommate will not force you to kiss them. Open your mind just a bit: people are people, and the more different they are from us as individuals, the more we can learn from them. To be honest, it’s just a little offensive that you’d assume she is going to suck you in like that. You’ll be able to live your life the way you want to, good lord.</p>