<p>So I guess I should preface this post by saying that I've read all those post-rejection motivational threads full of people trying to explain why they were rejected. Inevitably, people say things like: "there were so many applicants this year!", "oh well, I didn't interview anyway", or "it's all so random". While I understand that there may be some merit to those statements, I would like to recognize them for what they are (excuses) and move on. I'd also like to add that receiving rejection letters didn't suddenly reduce me from a hyper-confident adolescent to a blubbering nothing. And, finally, I do understand that my definition of self shouldn't be derived wholly from other people's opinions. That said, this entire process has led me to think about a few things...</p>
<p>The problem, stated briefly, is this: if I (or anyone who received tons of rejection letters) were actually intelligent or possessed any kind of merit at all as an individual, wouldn't I have gotten into at least one highly ranked school? I understand that the competition is always fierce. Like I said, I already KNOW that there were record numbers of applicants at tons of schools this year. But to be rejected everywhere... it means I lack something as an applicant (and, by extension, as a person). Intelligence, maybe. Or a personality. Something. I imagine that after doing this for several years, adcom members are extremely discerning. Maybe I'm wrong in thinking that, but I sort of doubt it.</p>
<p>I have trouble feeling "encouraged" when I read threads in which people talk about how getting into an Ivy (or some other top-tier school) isn't everything. If one doesn't get into ANY of the top-tier schools they applied to, doesn't it follow logically that that person is a pretty average individual? Instead of going to a "distinguished" school, s/he goes to an "average" school. Is there anything worse than being "average"? Lacking distinction in every way? I don't think so.</p>
<p>I know my generation has been lied to since birth about how special and different it is. But where do you go after learning that you're average? What happens to an average person? If a person just keeps having doors shut in her face, where is she ever supposed to go? How will she ever thrive? How will she ever have an opportunity to contribute anything - even just an idea - to the world, if everyone thinks she's stupid or, worse, "average"?</p>
<p>And if I am just one of those average people who exists for the sole purpose of making the "Ivy-capable" crowd appear "Ivy-capable" (and so on, for the rest of my life), then why even bother?</p>
<p>Average people do always have to exist, I suppose...</p>