<p>Things that I have learnt from the admissions process:</p>
<p>1) It’s not fair. It really isn’t. I’m going to sound bitter while I type this, but I believe that I am fully entitled to. A classmate with an SAT score 260 points lower than mine, grades that have never measured up to mine and essays that are far below par (I read them post-application - riddled with grammatical errors and an atrocious lexicon) just got into Harvard and Columbia, while I was rejected by all four of the Ivies that I applied to, including those two. Why? Because he’s Israeli and can dribble a ball around a court rather well. He knows it, I know it. </p>
<p>2) Not everyone who gets into these top schools a) is a genius, or b) entirely deserves it. Please refer to the above.</p>
<p>3) The world views Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Stanford, MIT etc. in a different way than they view the rest. Please don’t bother denying this. Sure, the education you get at a school like, say, Northwestern, is arguably just as fantastic as an education you get at Harvard, but the world views Harvard grads differently, and it would be a blatant lie to suggest otherwise. </p>
<p>Now, to the OP, I fully understand how you feel. All throughout high school, I have equated my self-worth to my intelligence. Chalk it up to my lack of confidence in myself, but I have never felt like I was good for anything else. That Harvard acceptance letter was going to be the ultimate consolidation of my intelligence, and a celebration of all the hard work I had put in my academics. And all those cocky arses who thought that they were getting into Ivies despite having stats lower than mine were going to see how wrong they were. April 1st came, and I was crushed. Harvard for that kid in my Econ class whom I beat in every test. Cornell for that kid in my Math class whom I crushed in the SATs. And rejection from every front for me. As you can imagine, I was devastated. And I still am, every time I look at college rankings and see that someone less deserving than me is going to go to the best school in the US this fall because of his bloody nationality and skills with a spherical object. As a result, I have completely lost faith in myself, and the college admissions process.</p>
<p>Now, I would like to address some of the previous posts in this thread.</p>
<p>“You are right now wallowing in self-pity that is getting you nowhere. You are focusing on something that is ultimately irrelevant. Stop it. It’s really easy.”</p>
<p>No, it’s not. I don’t know if you have been through rejection like this before, but no, it’s not. It’s not easy to see four years of hard work amount to rejection. It’s not easy to see other people get into these schools you’ve been dreaming about, while you’re denied admission. It’s not easy to give it all you’ve got, and find out that it’s not enough, even if the factors that determine admission are largely out of your control. So please, stop acting like it is. As a 17 year old graduating from high school, college is the single most important thing in my life right now. Don’t tell me that it’s really easy to stop focusing on it. Don’t tell me that it’s really easy to stop caring.</p>
<p>“It’s silly to think that the Ivies have a lock on all of the country or world’s brilliant people. I’m a Harvard grad, and I know people who attend community college who are smarter than me. I’ve met high school drop-outs who are smarter, too. There are plenty of very smart people in the world, and most have no affiliation with Ivies.”</p>
<p>I agree with you, and I am having a huge problem reconciling with this fact at the moment, as I’m sure the OP is. All my life, I’ve been raised to view Harvard as the holy grail of college admissions. Ranked number 1, admissions rate of 7%, only the best are granted admission into its pearly gates. It is therefore easy enough to look at a brilliant genius and say, “Yes, he absolutely deserves to get into Harvard. He’s a genius, he’s worked hard, and he’ll be great at a place that fosters intelligence like Harvard.” But when geniuses (I’m not conceited enough to be referring to myself) get rejected and undeserving students get accepted, how am I supposed to accept that and move on? But I will. Eventually. I promise. It’ll just take time.</p>
<p>All that being said, I probably sympathize with you more than the average poster on this thread appears to, with some of their posts bordering on antipathy, but the deal is this: We both tried, and we both failed. What they say is largely true: there’s nothing more either of us can do. I’m sure you were a qualified student, and I’m sure you put all of your self-worth into this, but they don’t need us, they don’t want us, and they’ll be fine without us. And we’re going to have to learn how to be fine without them too. And we will be. All of us. All 93% of us who were rejected from Harvard this year. We won’t be doing as great on Wall Street when we graduate, but we’ll be fine. And that’s more than I can say for most people in this world.</p>
<p>You ask for advice as to where to go from here. Live your life. This rejection stings, I know. And it’ll probably sting for a long time to come. I know, I feel your pain. Trust me. Bitterness, resentment, and a terrible desire to scream. But I’ve read your posts. You sound like a perfectly intelligent, above average member of society. In the long run, things will work out for you. So go to the university you got into, whichever that may be, and study your arse off. Work hard. Prove to everyone that those colleges that denied you admission made the worst mistake of their lives. Be successful. Because you’re capable of it. </p>
<p>You’re not average right now. Neither am I. You’re way above average, and you know it. Now it’s time to believe it. And even if you are average, as you claim to be, work hard. Study hard. Get that 4.0 in college. Work until you’re above average. Work until you’re exceptional. And then try again in four years for grad school. And if you fail again in four years, work harder. Life will present you a never-ending plethora of chances to be more than average. I believe that with all my heart. </p>
<p>What happens to you from here on out depends on what choices you choose. The easy way out in the form of a prestigious college is no longer an option for you. But the thing is, that’s okay. It has to be. You’ll blaze your own path to success. And so will I. And we’ll both be fine. We’ll both be more than fine.</p>
<p>I wish you the best of luck, and I hope your life turns out far better than you expect it to right now, and one day, you’ll look back at this with a laugh and a happy attitude.</p>